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Your parents love you. They want what's best for you. They wish you well. This is a lie - or more precisely, a half-truth.
Your parents love you. They want what's best for you. They wish you well. This is a lie - or more precisely, a half-truth.
They don't love you. They love the image you embody. The ideal child who will achieve what they didn't. Who will become their continuation, their legacy - their second attempt.
What this means
They don't ask what you want. They ask why you don't want what they want. They watch to see if you're going where they directed you.
"You'll go into this profession." "You'll be a doctor, a lawyer, a fucking whatever." "You won't do this." It's projection - they're putting into you what they couldn't put into themselves. And they demand a return because they decided so.
They don't ask what you want. They ask why you don't want what they want. They watch to see if you're going where they directed you.
"You'll go into this profession." "You'll be a doctor, a lawyer, a fucking whatever." "You won't do this." It's projection - they're putting into you what they couldn't put into themselves. And they demand a return because they decided so.
Why they do it
Because their life didn't turn out the way they wanted. Because they didn't reach the heights they dreamed of. And now they live through you. Your achievements are their achievements. Your success is their success. Your life is their second life.
They don't want your pain. But they're not against you suffering if it leads to their goal. They don't want your death. But they're not against you living their dream instead of your own.
Because their life didn't turn out the way they wanted. Because they didn't reach the heights they dreamed of. And now they live through you. Your achievements are their achievements. Your success is their success. Your life is their second life.
They don't want your pain. But they're not against you suffering if it leads to their goal. They don't want your death. But they're not against you living their dream instead of your own.
What they actually want
As long as you simply exist to reproduce and continue their line, they'll be satisfied. Even if you lost everywhere. Even if you achieved nothing. Even if your life is worthless. The mere fact that you can continue the bloodline already creates the potential for their genes to "achieve something" through your children. That's enough for the average parent.
They don't demand greatness from you. They demand continuation. You are a link. And if you pass this link on, they'll consider their mission accomplished. Even if you don't live - just exist. They care more about the line not being broken than about you being happy.
As long as you simply exist to reproduce and continue their line, they'll be satisfied. Even if you lost everywhere. Even if you achieved nothing. Even if your life is worthless. The mere fact that you can continue the bloodline already creates the potential for their genes to "achieve something" through your children. That's enough for the average parent.
They don't demand greatness from you. They demand continuation. You are a link. And if you pass this link on, they'll consider their mission accomplished. Even if you don't live - just exist. They care more about the line not being broken than about you being happy.
Why you can't admit this
Because then the picture collapses. Parents aren't just people with their weaknesses. They are people who used you. And that doesn't fit in your head. Because you're used to thinking they're saints. That they're victims. That they did everything for you.
But in reality, they did everything for themselves. They just called it your good. Because it's more convenient for everyone.
Because then the picture collapses. Parents aren't just people with their weaknesses. They are people who used you. And that doesn't fit in your head. Because you're used to thinking they're saints. That they're victims. That they did everything for you.
But in reality, they did everything for themselves. They just called it your good. Because it's more convenient for everyone.
What to do
Stop seeking their approval. You won't get it. They don't know how to approve of anything that doesn't fit their script.
Admit that your life is not their project. You are not their continuation. What you want is not worse than what they want.
If you can - leave. Because for them, your choice is not your freedom - it's their failure.
Live the way you see fit. Even if they don't approve. Even if they don't understand.
Stop seeking their approval. You won't get it. They don't know how to approve of anything that doesn't fit their script.
Admit that your life is not their project. You are not their continuation. What you want is not worse than what they want.
If you can - leave. Because for them, your choice is not your freedom - it's their failure.
Live the way you see fit. Even if they don't approve. Even if they don't understand.
And lastly
One day you'll understand that their dreams are not yours. This is growing up. You don't have to live their life. You don't have to be their legacy. You are your own continuation. If they don't accept that - it's their problem.
Are you living your own life - or the one that was imposed on you?
One day you'll understand that their dreams are not yours. This is growing up. You don't have to live their life. You don't have to be their legacy. You are your own continuation. If they don't accept that - it's their problem.
Are you living your own life - or the one that was imposed on you?
A thread about those who recognize themselves. I create threads based on what I see on the forum. Over the time I've been here, I've noticed how many people complain about their parents, who try their best to squeeze the most out of them.
I'm not trying to prove to you that your parents are bad. So don't take this as a personal insult.
This is a translation of my thread from my language into English, errors are possible.
DNR=FAGGOT
@romey_y @Brava @sasha108 @tomacōck @fantom0726
I'm not trying to prove to you that your parents are bad. So don't take this as a personal insult.
This is a translation of my thread from my language into English, errors are possible.
DNR=FAGGOT
@romey_y @Brava @sasha108 @tomacōck @fantom0726
