Your teenage years are the best years of your life!

[somewhatsuffering]

Men don't go on about bullying either. Or "trauma".

what do you do if you experience those things then
should i take it out on my wife and kids?

 

[taai]

How do I not end up this way

Put the phone aside!

 

[Lefty Rankin]

what do you do if you experience those things then
should i take it out on my wife and kids?

Who says you gotta do anything?

Bullying was way worse when I was a kid but it was normal. The Western world hadn't completely lost all its marbles yet. Back in the 90's. Didn't have the media constantly telling kids that it's not normal so it didn't usually end up sticking in your mind and robbing you of your peace. Boys weren't told over and over again that it's "traumatic", therefore it didn't turn them into emotional little bitches. Going to "therapy" lol.

 

[Francisco_Bs]

Currently 16 have NOT experienced anything "teenager-like" I haven't been to the movies with friends, I haven't been to any parties. I've never had friends to do things like skip school together or other stuff the closest thing I had to that were just school "colleagues". Only times where I go out are either for school, gym or the grocery store. Never anything else. Still have trauma from past bullying which I've yet to heal from. Geniuenly looking for lifefuel and really step into life with a new perspective. I wanna make memories while I'm a teenager, for the past 2-3 years I've lived this way, where the only productive thing I did was working out but the rest of the day I'd just rot in my room. I don't wanna hear things like "just do it alone, you can do those activities alone" because while they are valid points and sound good in theory, it feels like the complete opposite when you actually do those things alone. You skip school alone and do what? Just sit on a park bench like a bum? You go to the movies alone, is it worth it to pay almost 30 dollars for a ticket just to watch couples or friend groups in front of you enjoying themselves, while you are sitting in a movie theater ALONE. You are not making any memories by "doing things alone" that are usually done with other people. You're just pitying yourself.

Another example of "just do it alone"
ever celebrated your birthday while lighting your own candles on a birthday cake you bought from your own money?
that just feels pathetic, no?
You go to a bar alone vs. You go to a bar with a group of friends, huge change in mood and setting no?
In the first scenario you look like a depressed lowlife piece of shit
In the second scenario you look like a sociable well adjusted guy having a good time

These things usually hold value because of the memories they create. When doing those things alone, they are downright humiliating.


JUST TO CLARIFY:
Yes you can do many activities alone and enjoy them and you shouldnt be codependant on other people willing to do things with you if you really wanna do stuff.
HOWEVER that shit is only limited to things that one can enjoy alone such as hiking, working out etc.
You will never see a guy geniuenly enjoy himself in a party where he's the only person present.

Dnr teenage years are not the best, or nvm just enjoy life

 

[CorinthianLOX]

My teenager years in high school were pure isolation and loneliness