ActualMax
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This guide is mainly for people in their late teens/twenties, but it can work for all ages imo.
And hopefully you're already somewhat softmaxxed and can come across as NT for a couple of hours.
Speaking from personal experience, this is the easiest way to do it:
1. Identify the girl that you are going to ask out.
2. Ideally, you would have already built some rapport with her through your social circles/class. Building rapport is a prerequisite to getting a girl to go out with you. (This is the hardest part, and I empathize with those that feel like they have no connections with girls. Start slow, and be patient and build your confidence and connection over time.
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3. Follow each other on Insta on a day when you guys hit it off more than usual. (This could also be done verbally in person, but I find it works best over the phone)
4. This is the biggest trick: On a weekend, DM her and say: "Hey! This is super last minute, but I had someone cancel to go do X Thing tonight at X time. I have an extra ticket, so I'm just hitting people up to find someone to come with. Lmk asap if you'd want to go!"
The beauty of this opener is that it completely minimizes your downside in the case of getting rejected. You didn't "actually" ask her out, you were just trying to make use of your ticket. This makes things much less awkward when you have to see her again at work, class, etc.
5. If she says yes to hanging tonight, congrats. Just buy a ticket to whatever movie or event you were talking about and hang with her.
If she says she would, but she can't tonight, say "No worries, maybe we can hang another time!". Then hit her up a few days later and see if she's down.
If she says no flat out or doesn't response at all, she's probably not into you. You could maybe try again another time with her, but it's up to you.
Easier said than done, but easier than you think.
Good luck.
And hopefully you're already somewhat softmaxxed and can come across as NT for a couple of hours.
Speaking from personal experience, this is the easiest way to do it:
1. Identify the girl that you are going to ask out.
2. Ideally, you would have already built some rapport with her through your social circles/class. Building rapport is a prerequisite to getting a girl to go out with you. (This is the hardest part, and I empathize with those that feel like they have no connections with girls. Start slow, and be patient and build your confidence and connection over time.
)3. Follow each other on Insta on a day when you guys hit it off more than usual. (This could also be done verbally in person, but I find it works best over the phone)
4. This is the biggest trick: On a weekend, DM her and say: "Hey! This is super last minute, but I had someone cancel to go do X Thing tonight at X time. I have an extra ticket, so I'm just hitting people up to find someone to come with. Lmk asap if you'd want to go!"
The beauty of this opener is that it completely minimizes your downside in the case of getting rejected. You didn't "actually" ask her out, you were just trying to make use of your ticket. This makes things much less awkward when you have to see her again at work, class, etc.
5. If she says yes to hanging tonight, congrats. Just buy a ticket to whatever movie or event you were talking about and hang with her.
If she says she would, but she can't tonight, say "No worries, maybe we can hang another time!
". Then hit her up a few days later and see if she's down.If she says no flat out or doesn't response at all, she's probably not into you. You could maybe try again another time with her, but it's up to you.
Easier said than done, but easier than you think.
Good luck.
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