50 and life is over for me

[Deleted member 58755]

I’m sure I’ll be roasted over hot coals for this, telling me it’s a choice etc etc. But maybe putting this out there might finally exorcise it from my brain.

2019 I had my soulmate, a 6 figure job, friends hobbies interests . Everything.

She left me, the pandemic happened , I lost everything. Now I make half that, I just turned 50, and I haven’t even heard her voice in 5 years. I was supposed to have a happy ending, but now I’ve wandered into a movie I’m
Not supposed to be in.

I feel like life is over. No interest in another relationship. Yes I know it’s over, yes I know she’s moved on , but I don’t want anyone else to share my life with me. So what’s the point?

I know how I sound , trust me. I have a lot of shame and guilt for being this way , especially at this “mature” age.

Oh well, this didn’t help haha…

 

[Vermilioncore]

 

[Deleted member 102181]

Brutal bro youre the same age as my dad

 

[Deleted member 88079]

Brutal bro youre the same age as my dad

hes older than my dad

 

[Deleted member 19442]

Link reddit thread

 

[Amnesia]

imagine basing all ur life happiness on another fallible person whether it's a female or male or friend or family member

do u not derive pleasure from anything in life that doesnt include a romantic relationship?

 

[Deleted member 19442]

imagine basing all ur life happiness on another fallible person whether it's a female or male or friend or family member

do u not derive pleasure from anything in life that doesnt include a romantic relationship?

But my girl left me so I’m le sad now :C

 

[Deleted member 86877]

I dont belive your 50

 

[Deleted member 90909]

was supposed to have a happy ending, but now I’ve wandered into a movie I’m
Not supposed to be in.

I have written this under the impression that this isn't a troll.

Unless I'm missing something, you can still have that "happy ending" you seek; you just have to reframe your interpretation of that term.

It may be a little silly that you are posting on a forum like this; it may be quite silly posting something like this, and it may be especially silly that someone my age is taking it upon himself to give you advice (if you even want to call it that), but I think what you've described is very relevant, independent of one's age and background.

Something I am a firm believer in is that happiness cannot be fully appreciated if it isn't set against a significant level of pain. If it doesn't rise from the ashes of our darkest moments, is it even deserving of being regarded as "happiness"?

You claim that you were supposed to have a "happy ending", but you are still very much alive, and you have a ton of life to live; you just need to start again, in a sense.

Let your past rest. Stop obsessing over it because, in truth, it's gone. It's graven in stone. You can't change it, but you can change where you're going.

I'm 22, and I'm still struggling with fully absorbing that, just because a certain chapter of your life has come to an end, it doesn't mean your life has come to an end; it's quite the opposite, actually. This is how you ascend to unprecedented heights.