Afraid of Rejection and Afraid of Loneliness

[Deleted member 318558]

I want to approach people, but I’m just too terrified of being rejected or even worse: being accepted out of pity.

I can talk when it’s useless, like being respectful to adults, or school presentations or anything, speaking isn’t scary. But I’m just too scared of someone being annoyed or disliking me.

People have told me I look good, and I should go get girls, but I don’t think I see what they do, and just don’t have as much confidence in myself as they do.

Idk what I should do. Get more confidence, don’t worry about girls or approaching, or just practice approaching.

 

[Deleted member 318558]

Brootal no reply

 

[Deleted member 104089]

Some people say to watch charismatic people and emulate them. Im in same boat so idk tbh

 

[Dingo]

I want to approach people, but I’m just too terrified of being rejected or even worse: being accepted out of pity.

I can talk when it’s useless, like being respectful to adults, or school presentations or anything, speaking isn’t scary. But I’m just too scared of someone being annoyed or disliking me.

People have told me I look good, and I should go get girls, but I don’t think I see what they do, and just don’t have as much confidence in myself as they do.

Idk what I should do. Get more confidence, don’t worry about girls or approaching, or just practice approaching.

If people told you that you look good and you also believe so, then just approach more, what could go wrong? Maybe practice approaching foids for 100% success rate and I can confirm it will boost your confidence.

 

[Deleted member 318558]

If people told you that you look good and you also believe so, then just approach more, what could go wrong? Maybe practice approaching foids for 100% success rate and I can confirm it will boost your confidence.

No, I don’t think I look good enough to have a high success rate, that’s why I’m afraid. Maybe It’ll be easy once I look better

 

[Dingo]

No, I don’t think I look good enough to have a high success rate, that’s why I’m afraid. Maybe It’ll be easy once I look better

Being afraid of rejection will get you nowhere even after you’ve ascended. Better to get used to rejection now so that it won’t hurt that much later on. Plus when striking up a conversation with someone just try to be natural with it and match their energy.

 

[Deleted member 318558]

Being afraid of rejection will get you nowhere even after you’ve ascended. Better to get used to rejection now so that it won’t hurt that much later on. Plus when striking up a conversation with someone just try to be natural with it and match their energy.

Okay, I don’t know if I’ll ever really get used to being rejected though, so I just want to minimize it if I can

 

[NoaA99]

No, I don’t think I look good enough to have a high success rate, that’s why I’m afraid. Maybe It’ll be easy once I look better

You probably avoid these interactions because they risk reinforcing your negative self-beliefs.
Subsequently, it feels safer to avoid that risk altogether.
Ask yourself, what is gained by avoiding it? Exactly.

 

[Deleted member 318558]

You probably avoid these interactions because they risk reinforcing your negative self-beliefs.
Subsequently, it feels safer to avoid that risk altogether.
Ask yourself, what is gained by avoiding it? Exactly.

I don’t gain anything, but I risk losing even more confidence if I’m rejected

 

[NoaA99]

I don’t gain anything, but I risk losing even more confidence if I’m rejected

Confidence is just an enabler. Avoiding the risk doesn’t protect it, but it leaves it practically useless.

 

[Shoju.ibp]

do it and ask them out, but make sure they aren't lesbian. Out of all the possibilities i thought of as answers that was the the only one i didn't think of. she got a girlfriend later that week.