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This central Stoic doctrine applies to all forms of suffering.
Being rejected for a job or a date initially causes suffering, but this is because we consider these "goods" we want to acquire - and we are now excluded from them. But if we do not estimate them as good, but in other ways (say, as potentially bad), then we may feel relieved for not getting what we thought we wanted. In other words, its not the event in itself that causes suffering (though it may cause physical pain), it's wholly our view of the matter.
Being rejected for a job or a date initially causes suffering, but this is because we consider these "goods" we want to acquire - and we are now excluded from them. But if we do not estimate them as good, but in other ways (say, as potentially bad), then we may feel relieved for not getting what we thought we wanted. In other words, its not the event in itself that causes suffering (though it may cause physical pain), it's wholly our view of the matter.