AMA about dating advice, hookups, or sex

[for3vrchad]

Should you just straight up ask girls to go on a date for a LTR, no beating around the bush.

No, shit you don't even know if you want to date her sort of thing. Neither of you know each other, which is why it's a date to learn about each other. Give her mind some room to wander if it's even a date, as there will be some explicit signs sure but nothing certainly telling.

Obviously don't keep it vague, and at least compliment something about her beforehand. Don't be that guy obviously to be unclear with your intentions, but you don't necessarily need to outright say it's a date.

 

[Big Boss]

the hypergamy is a crazy bonus for us in women. pre-selection can make 1 girl from fucking with me, to their whole friend group. it's def the move, and the friends always want their slice of the cake because girls love bragging about it as much as we do.

Yes, something that surprised me about working with alot of young females in the past and being involved with their conversations, is just how in detail they would talk about sex it was actually scary. As a man, most men would get shy or embarrassed if they had to say the same level of detail that girls describe things. I remember a older girl detailing to me how she got absolutely railed the night before by a football player and i didnt even ask. Also id often hear from girls id been with’s friends, that i was a good kisser/good with my hands things like that.

When it comes to sleeping with a virgin, technically but not really, my dick just didn't fit ig but its whatever. I don't necessarily expect a girl to be a virgin at my age since i'm 20 in college but 3 bodies or below is my sweet range for LTR's. While most women lie about their body count, you can catch them in their lie somewhat by sneakily mentioning her thoughts on people with high bodycounts lol. and if her friends are whores, drop the girl or keep her as fwb because they are all easily influenced. with this one chick i dated for a bit her hoe ass friends always brought her to the bars and that pissed me off sm i just ghosted her, high MTN btw lol, non looksmaxxers would prob rate her an 9/10

Are you in america? Im really curious what its like over there, because im from the uk and i cant tell if u guys have a even more promiscuous culture than us. Ive always wanted to visit and see what american girls are like but i prefer very skinny. I find it funny how your able to read their body count through subtle tells because i do the same although these are just general rules i dont 100% cut someone off if their friends a whore, women are hiveminded in general but occasionally if shes into you enough ive found ones that will betray their friends for you because the fear of losing you is so big. My biggest fear is a woman lying abt body count.

for the record, although "whore" has a negative association, I don't see promiscious women negatively. I think they're great, and it makes it easier to sleep with if they don't want anything serious. it's only the guys who get no pussy who complain abt muh "hookup culture"

I guess for you hookup culture is definitely beneficial because you participate in it which i understand because sometimes i get fomo from it. But for someone like me who now prioritises connection and LTRs i think some people who hate hookup culture are people who care alot about exclusivity and having virgin women. Also im curious to hear ur opinion on this because im pretty sure this is illegal in america but my gf is 16 and im 22 which is legal here, would americans crash out if they heard that? Do u think its weird/immoral

 

[RemovedEdison]

No, shit you don't even know if you want to date her sort of thing. Neither of you know each other, which is why it's a date to learn about each other. Give her mind some room to wander if it's even a date, as there will be some explicit signs sure but nothing certainly telling.

Obviously don't keep it vague, and at least compliment something about her beforehand. Don't be that guy obviously to be unclear with your intentions, but you don't necessarily need to outright say it's a date.

Thanks, also in my context it might seem out of the blue and I know this girl as an aquatintince somewhat.We have had conversations on and off ,nothing serious but I want to ask her for maybe some coffee or pizza.If she says no it will be fine.Also she has dyed hair atm so is that a no go?

 

[Detective]

no advice for me at 5'7

 

[kingofearth]

made

expecting her to finish from eating alone is like expecting her to finish from pure penetration alone. it's pretty difficult just with penetration and def don't neglect the clitoris, it is very sensitive and important.

How long until niggas think we're all alts lol @Big Boss

You two might be alts though

 

[for3vrchad]

Yes, something that surprised me about working with alot of young females in the past and being involved with their conversations, is just how in detail they would talk about sex it was actually scary. As a man, most men would get shy or embarrassed if they had to say the same level of detail that girls describe things. I remember a older girl detailing to me how she got absolutely railed the night before by a football player and i didnt even ask. Also id often hear from girls id been with’s friends, that i was a good kisser/good with my hands things like that.

Are you in america? Im really curious what its like over there, because im from the uk and i cant tell if u guys have a even more promiscuous culture than us. Ive always wanted to visit and see what american girls are like but i prefer very skinny. I find it funny how your able to read their body count through subtle tells because i do the same although these are just general rules i dont 100% cut someone off if their friends a whore, women are hiveminded in general but occasionally if shes into you enough ive found ones that will betray their friends for you because the fear of losing you is so big. My biggest fear is a woman lying abt body count.

I guess for you hookup culture is definitely beneficial because you participate in it which i understand because sometimes i get fomo from it. But for someone like me who now prioritises connection and LTRs i think some people who hate hookup culture are people who care alot about exclusivity and having virgin women. Also im curious to hear ur opinion on this because im pretty sure this is illegal in america but my gf is 16 and im 22 which is legal here, would americans crash out if they heard that? Do u think its weird/immoral

yeah haha girls love to talk about their experience. I do too as a guy but only with my good friends, but only for hookups. I only share basic details of sex if it's with a potential LTR or LTR like if they asked something abt it and i'll be like yeah i had sex.

I am in the US yeah. I've been to Prague so I have experience there too and in my experience the women are much more beautiful, majority are high MTB's if not straight up HTB's. Probably because they are skinnier there on average since your food doesn't have as much slop as we do and cities are walkable. More difficult than the US sure but not by much, and i wonder if its bc i know the area less maybe?
And yeah reading their body count is a skill that takes time to develop for sure, but you can only get an estimation. and unfortunately can't trust them when they say whatever number. the fear of losing you is def important with women and that's how you can tell they are REALLY into you or feel insecure, which they def wouldn't cheat then.

I understand why people care about exclusivity and virgin women. I mean, a bodycount higher for men, adds it 1 number higher for women too but if you're good looking enough you'll be fine navigating that.

I'm not sure if its illegal in america? Most states age of consent is 16, but idk if that applies for only within their age range. I'm into older women like 21-25 because in my experience they are much more mature and better in bed but it's different for everyone. after 25 tho is past their peak imo. back then when i just turned 18 though, when my girlfriend was 16, people gave so much shit back then it was annoying as fuck so cultures def different here. personally i obv wouldn't go for 16, minimum 19 but if someone else does i dont care as long as it's legal.

 

[Big Boss]

How long until niggas think we're all alts lol @Big Boss

You two might be alts though

evidence were alts is that were sex havers. Cos there can only be 2-3 sex havers max on the entire forum

 

[for3vrchad]

Thanks, also in my context it might seem out of the blue and I know this girl as an aquatintince somewhat.We have had conversations on and off ,nothing serious but I want to ask her for maybe some coffee or pizza.If she says no it will be fine.Also she has dyed hair atm so is that a no go?

ask her if she likes coffee first before adding a coffee date. its 50/50 in my experience but obv u can switch to another date idea if not. dyed hair girls are fine, freakier in bed tho for sure

 

[Asdec]

My biggest red flag in a female that has a 100% accuracy ratio so far is when they accuse you of talking to other women. Whether it is when you say something and she forgets, she'll say "must have been your other bitch" or if you accidently mix up something, it gets an instant accusation. It is a projection of their own character. You also can't tell whether or not a girl is a "good girl", there is zero correlation to how cute or innocent she looks, relative to her lifestyle with men.

My thoughts on double digit bodycount isn't amazing, however it's less about the bodycount itself and the kind of girl that's lifestyle brings her to that amount. I can't say too much because mine is double digits but I do think it's different for men and women. I have also lost most of my pair-bond compatability to form deep emotional connections from sex due to frequent hookups. I've asked other high bodycount women and they agree.

Aren't you sad about loosing the pair bond compatibility? Idk, it seems depressing to loosing the ability of forming deep, devoted relationships, but I can see how it could be liberating also.

 

[cowmuncher26]

Hey guys, title sounds a bit cringe lmao but I see a lot of questions relating to the title above.

For some background, I'm a 6 foot muscular 20 year old who has an easy time dating/hooking up with MTB's to high MTB's, few HTB's and even a single high HTB lol.

Don't bother asking questions though if you're short or fat honestly, focus on fixing that first. minimum 5'9 or 175cm

Let me know if you have any questions relating to dating advice, hooking up with women or sex advice. I've slept with 5 different girls in the past 18 days, most of them being back to back for a few days, without trying to. Best part is that my advice is free lmao, no need to pay for a course since I'm bored.

I'm pretty new to org, so only requirement that I ask of you for me to respond is don't fucking say "foid", it makes you sound like a retarded bitch nigga incel.

what do you do after a kiss

 

[for3vrchad]

Aren't you sad about loosing the pair bond compatibility? Idk, it seems depressing to loosing the ability of forming deep, devoted relationships, but I can see how it could be liberating also.

not really. later in the thread i mentioned the benefits of it. you can still have a deep, devoted relationship, idk about women tho. higher chances of cheating w/ higher body count for them.

 

[for3vrchad]

what do you do after a kiss

depends. i mean making out is pretty fun but the environment is important. if it's in public then can be just that for a sec, or if its in your bed it may lead to more but at 14 don't expect it to lead to somewhere more lol

 

[cowmuncher26]

depends. i mean making out is pretty fun but the environment is important. if it's in public then can be just that for a sec, or if its in your bed it may lead to more but at 14 don't expect it to lead to somewhere more lol

no what i meant after a kiss is do you just stare at her, do you just talk about whatever you and her were talking about before? i dunno im pretty autistic sorry

 

[for3vrchad]

no what i meant after a kiss is do you just stare at her, do you just talk about whatever you and her were talking about before? i dunno im pretty autistic sorry

no worries, no need to apologize. i was very unknowledgeable at 14 too. def don't stare at her but you can go back to whatever ur talking abt, thoughts that came up in ur head randomly, idek just anything. there's obv mutual attraction if ur kissing so it's not a big concern. lmk if u have any other questions

not a bad idea to validate her kissing too or smthn on how it was good, etc

 

[poreskin]

currently natty, planning to hop on 350mg for 16 weeks solo test cyp at 26-28 when my testosterone doesn't peak anymore. I'll have 10-12 years of strength-training by then since I started at 16 y/o

what race are you and what race of girls do u pull the most

 

[for3vrchad]

what race are you and what race of girls do u pull the most

white. and white girls. ive had some black girls try to hookup, but i can't stand their strong personalities. the black guys i've talked to 100% agree lmao

 

[poreskin]

white. and white girls. ive had some black girls try to hookup, but i can't stand their strong personalities. the black guys i've talked to 100% agree lmao

Hows ur experience with latinas? is there a tangible amount of them where you live

 

[for3vrchad]

Hows ur experience with latinas? is there a tangible amount of them where you live

yeah i got one in my roster rn. they're a little crazy ngl but not like towards me, they are just a bit unstable in my experience. brazil girls are the most unstable tho in my experience.

there isn't a huge difference between girls, except asians are the tightest in my experience. i do notice personality differences depending on the ethnicity, which makes sense due to upbringing and culture.

 

[poreskin]

yeah i got one in my roster rn. they're a little crazy ngl but not like towards me, they are just a bit unstable in my experience. brazil girls are the most unstable tho in my experience.

there isn't a huge difference between girls, except asians are the tightest in my experience. i do notice personality differences depending on the ethnicity, which makes sense due to upbringing and culture.

well like, what race of woman do u think not like whites.

how long does it take to get laid when u meet a woman outside of a club/function.

 

[poreskin]

yeah i got one in my roster rn. they're a little crazy ngl but not like towards me, they are just a bit unstable in my experience. brazil girls are the most unstable tho in my experience.

there isn't a huge difference between girls, except asians are the tightest in my experience. i do notice personality differences depending on the ethnicity, which makes sense due to upbringing and culture.

Ok,

im 16, 5,11 live in NYC, Arab/white passing/Latino passing ish,

hltn-lmtn roughly speaking, my face is in pics below



WHAT DO U THINK is the fastest way for me to lose KHHV, if I'm kinda NT, or just get any experience with a girl, I'm out of school until september

I tried posting myself to 200 followers no luck, I've tried dming like 3 girls no luck, they just leave me on read or respond dry, but still follow me and not completely grossed out

no girls ever approached me but I don't go outside much, but even at school not much IOIS

 

[for3vrchad]

well like, what race of woman do u think not like whites.

how long does it take to get laid when u meet a woman outside of a club/function.

oh, caucasian. 1 ukrainian too, she was high htb but the sex was shit.

same night to get laid. if i don't, then i just block them after

 

[poreskin]

........

Ok,

im 16, 5,11 live in NYC, Arab/white passing/Latino passing ish,

hltn-lmtn roughly speaking, my face is in pics below



WHAT DO U THINK is the fastest way for me to lose KHHV, if I'm kinda NT, or just get any experience with a girl, I'm out of school until september

I tried posting myself to 200 followers no luck, I've tried dming like 3 girls no luck, they just leave me on read or respond dry, but still follow me and not completely grossed out

no girls ever approached me but I don't go outside much, but even at school not much IOIS




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[for3vrchad]

Ok,

im 16, 5,11 live in NYC, Arab/white passing/Latino passing ish,

hltn-lmtn roughly speaking, my face is in pics below



WHAT DO U THINK is the fastest way for me to lose KHHV, if I'm kinda NT, or just get any experience with a girl, I'm out of school until september

I tried posting myself to 200 followers no luck, I've tried dming like 3 girls no luck, they just leave me on read or respond dry, but still follow me and not completely grossed out

no girls ever approached me but I don't go outside much, but even at school not much IOIS




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i mean ur 16 so kv is fine. the hh part is a lil much imo but it's fine.

you're about mtn so you're chilling but hmmmm idek. i normally use dating apps or just thru college shit but ur not 18+ so u cant.

once u start going outside a lot, there will be many chances. whether it be at the park, in a nice walkable area, mall, etc there are still plenty of areas yk. i hope u can at least drive now

 

[acm]

tips for general socialising and trying to find slays/ltrs post-highschool? i'm done this year, and where i live (sydney), social life is notoriously dead. if you don't make friends in your first few months of uni, u're pretty much friendless since everyone sticks to their highschool and early uni friends. i do plan on joining a bunch of clubs, abusing pregab + baclo, and of course, i'll be much better looking by the time uni comes around (late feb next year).

and oneitis syndrome how does one beat that?
long story but i definitely need to get over a girl. lost her, zero chance of ltr, and it wasn't even my fault.

 

[for3vrchad]

tips for general socialising and trying to find slays/ltrs post-highschool? i'm done this year, and where i live (sydney), social life is notoriously dead. if you don't make friends in your first few months of uni, u're pretty much friendless. i do plan on joining a bunch of clubs and shit, and of course i'll be much better looking by the time uni comes around (late feb next year).

and oneitis syndrome how does one beat that?

you're perfect since you're in uni. once you go back compliment guys at the uni gym on their physique, make small talk in the cafeteria, go to frat parties if that's a thing in australia. it'll be easy to befriend the guys unless ur like ND, and even then, there are always a few autists in a fraternity.

obv do the bunch of club stuff and the ladies will naturally come too. join greek life if you're into that and can handle hazing.

you can fix oneitis syndrome by sleeping around with different women. it never fully goes away, and you'll still be reminded of her in different girls and things but it won't suck to think abt eventually.

 

[Centurion Hunter]

short or fat honestly, focus on fixing that first.

Just improoove your height bro

 

[poreskin]

i mean ur 16 so kv is fine. the hh part is a lil much imo but it's fine.

you're about mtn so you're chilling but hmmmm idek. i normally use dating apps or just thru college shit but ur not 18+ so u cant.

once u start going outside a lot, there will be many chances. whether it be at the park, in a nice walkable area, mall, etc there are still plenty of areas yk. i hope u can at least drive now

really?

I'd assume

1: Meeting through a mutual friend, which I do have one really well known friend who did try to put me on but I said no, but I'm like hanging by the branches in that friendship, we meetup 1-2 times a month 1 is closer to average

2: meeting in a natural enviorment like functions or concerts and events or packed malls, I'm not sure if he would even invite me probably will like 65 percent chance he will

and you need a big group to meet girls there id assume

3; Do you mean random meets, because people don't really trust people, like at Dunkin donuts on a random Thursday I don't think that's realistic



ALSO, I don't know if its too obvious but my voice is sounds feminine and a slight ND accent, and my face looks kinda Nd and weirdly young and my smile looks weirdly femnine and ND aswell, I feel this kinda minimizes my chances.

where?

 

[for3vrchad]

Just improoove your height bro

lmfao i'm pretty sure i set this thread to only apply to guys 5'10 and above if i remember correctly

 

[for3vrchad]

really?

I'd assume

1: Meeting through a mutual friend, which I do have one really well known friend who did try to put me on but I said no, but I'm like hanging by the branches in that friendship, we meetup 1-2 times a month 1 is closer to average

2: meeting in a natural enviorment like functions or concerts and events or packed malls, I'm not sure if he would even invite me probably will like 65 percent chance he will

and you need a big group to meet girls there id assume

3; Do you mean random meets, because people don't really trust people, like at Dunkin donuts on a random Thursday I don't think so?

where?

you can meet a girl from anywhere gang. i met up with and cracked a high-mtb i met off of roblox (she was 21)

who's he? i mean yeah ideally hang at least with another friend, since they also give some social-proof

 

[poreskin]

you can meet a girl from anywhere gang. i met up with and cracked a high-mtb i met off of roblox (she was 21)

who's he? i mean yeah ideally hang at least with another friend, since they also give some social-proof

yeah we do go in big grops but not frequently, and I did kinda put him off last meetup, I asked him indirectly and in an NT way if he will still invite me next meetup and he said perhaps

 

[poreskin]

you can meet a girl from anywhere gang. i met up with and cracked a high-mtb i met off of roblox (she was 21)

who's he? i mean yeah ideally hang at least with another friend, since they also give some social-proof

what do you think of the gym for meeting girls

 

[poreskin]

you can meet a girl from anywhere gang. i met up with and cracked a high-mtb i met off of roblox (she was 21)

who's he? i mean yeah ideally hang at least with another friend, since they also give some social-proof

what would you do if u were me to lose it quickly or atleast maximize my chances remember I'm in nyc

 

[acm]

you're perfect since you're in uni. once you go back compliment guys at the uni gym on their physique, make small talk in the cafeteria, go to frat parties if that's a thing in australia. it'll be easy to befriend the guys unless ur like ND, and even then, there are always a few autists in a fraternity.

obv do the bunch of club stuff and the ladies will naturally come too. join greek life if you're into that and can handle hazing.

you can fix oneitis syndrome by sleeping around with different women. it never fully goes away, and you'll still be reminded of her in different girls and things but it won't suck to think abt eventually.

oh nah i'm still in highschool, i still have months to go before i'm finished (done late october).

i did hear that in uni, being friends with one singular girl is way more valuable than multilpe guys. just off that one, you'll be able to connect with a bunch of other girls whom you could slay/ltr. is that true? i'd go out to say that social environment from syd to america are pretty different. i heard people in the us are quite friendly, whilst sydney is more "go do your school/work then gtfo," no real social culture which is why it's so hard and also important to make friends early.

and any green/red flags for LTRs? what tips would you give for LTRs or if you were trying to slay a girl

 

[ivan.kuk]

I have also lost most of my pair-bond compatability to form deep emotional connections from sex due to frequent hookups. I've asked other high bodycount women and they agree.

Bit sad. But hey, atleast you slay amirite.

 

[for3vrchad]

Bit sad. But hey, atleast you slay amirite.

haha yeah, while its nice, you learn the emotional part of sex is 100x more important than any physical feeling you can get from it. it's like drinking an matca iced latte without the matcha.

 

[Outlander]

 

[ivan.kuk]

haha yeah, while its nice, you learn the emotional part of sex is 100x more important than any physical feeling you can get from it. it's like drinking an matca iced latte without the matcha.

I feel empty from hookups. Especially when cumming. Haven't came in 300+ days.

 

[for3vrchad]

I feel empty from hookups. Especially when cumming. Haven't came in 300+ days.

same here, it only makes u feel great maybe like 15% of the time, and if u went through a recent breakup it sucks.

dont get me wrong its still nice to have sex lol but it's rlly not that amazing if ur not actually in a long term committed relationship