Are you happy ?

[Peco]

Looksmaxxing makes you feel like shit let's be honest. It opens your eyes to an harsh reality and promises a solution. But does it really give you that? You'll never be content with how you look because of the unhealthy mindset that this community has made you develop.

You have to detach from the idea that your moral value is determined by your looks. I'm not trying to argue whether it objectively is or it isn't because it doesn't matter. You should keep improving your looks, like you do with your education or social skills, but you shouldn't think these things determine your value as person. If you are so self conscious of your own looks that's gonna be detremental for you. Even if you do become better looking you will not appreciate its advantages to the fullest. You'll never be confident in yourself because you'll always be projecting your value in a future where your flaws have been fixed. But if you keep thinking like this that future will never exist. For every flaw you fix there is a new one that appears, it will never be enough.

This is a pretty simple fix, I made a longer thread about this whole concept, I'll link it here if you wanna read it: https://looksmax.org/threads/the-looksmaxxing-paradox-and-how-to-get-around-it.2087735/

 

[Lemur]

no

 

[Peco]

no

The whole concept of the community should be to make people happier yet most of the people that frequent it are not. You could say that it makes sense, because the people that join the community are those that are already unhappy and are trying to find a way to fix that. But I would argue that most people who learn about looksmaxxing actually become even less happy than they were before, which makes the community's goal a paradox.

You could say that the blackpill only tells you that looks are the most important thing in life, not that looking better will make you happier. But if we are being honest, all the people that participate in the movement try to improve their appearance not for the sake of it, but because they wanna be happier.

 

[Lemur]

The whole concept of the community should be to make people happier yet most of the people that frequent it are not. You could say that it makes sense, because the people that join the community are those that are already unhappy and are trying to find a way to fix that. But I would argue that most people who learn about looksmaxxing actually become even less happy than they were before, which makes the community's goal a paradox.

You could say that the blackpill only tells you that looks are the most important thing in life, not that looking better will make you happier. But if we are being honest, all the people that participate in the movement try to improve their appearance not for the sake of it, but because they wanna be happier.

arent u the nigga that thinks recessions are fully developmental?

 

[Peco]

arent u the nigga that thinks recessions are fully developmental?

Yes but what does that have to do with what I'm saying here ? Keep the discussion relevant

 

[Lemur]

Yes but what does that have to do with what I'm saying here ? Keep the discussion relevant

yeh okay but this is water that everyone knew

 

[britcig]

Looksmaxxing makes you feel like shit let's be honest. It opens your eyes to an harsh reality and promises a solution. But does it really give you that? You'll never be content with how you look because of the unhealthy mindset that this community has made you develop.

You have to detach from the idea that your moral value is determined by your looks. I'm not trying to argue whether it objectively is or it isn't because it doesn't matter. You should keep improving your looks, like you do with your education or social skills, but you shouldn't think these things determine your value as person. If you are so self conscious of your own looks that's gonna be detremental for you. Even if you do become better looking you will not appreciate its advantages to the fullest. You'll never be confident in yourself because you'll always be projecting your value in a future where your flaws have been fixed. But if you keep thinking like this that future will never exist. For every flaw you fix there is a new one that appears, it will never be enough.

This is a pretty simple fix, I made a longer thread about this whole concept, I'll link it here if you wanna read it: https://looksmax.org/threads/the-looksmaxxing-paradox-and-how-to-get-around-it.2087735/

the pain of this view on reality is significantly overcome by the peace of either thinking you made it or it’s forever over. either your life becomes 200x better or you learn to simply accept every negativity in your life

 

[Peco]

yeh okay but this is water that everyone knew

I had this criticism on my other post as well. I really do not think this is water. All the people here and I'm not overstating, spend hours analyzing their faces in pictures or camera. Evertyime they walk by a reflective surface they need to look at themselves to check if they look good. I'm sure when you are outside and especially in social situations you constantly compare yourself with other people.

If what I said was actually obvious to people this would not happen. Doing any of the things that I listed above does nothing for improving your looks. Knowing how you look at a certain moment does not change how you look in that moment, nor does comparing with others. These are obviously harmful habits for your mental health, and they objectively do not help you with improving your looks. So why do people keep doing these things ? It's their emotional reaction to an underlying insecurity that the community has created in them. People need to understand how dumb and harmful these habits are an eliminate them as soon as possible.

People take for granted that the insecurities are the price to pay for learning about the blackpill. That makes no sense, and even if they understand it on the surface, they do not apply the knowledge in their own lives

 

[zerko]

I'd say I am very happy would say went from lmtn-mtn to htn with mostly puberty and a lot of softmaxes 15yo-17yo. And get treated very well can talk to girls easily get good treatment from new people etc.

I do notice that I ALWAYS find a new flaw so I do NOT rot on my pc incelmaxxing and actually live my life go on dates, out with friends, clubbing, work, school.

To be honest I believe looks are a thing that brings you into a room and everything else being charismatic, being able to talk to people, being confident funny basically your personality YES personality will take you out that room everything stacks together.

Most important thing to do is to NT max NO ONE will like you if your autistic or that they know you looksmax. Keep all this shit to yourself ascend and just delete your account and forget everything.

 

[Peco]

the pain of this view on reality is significantly overcome by the peace of either thinking you made it or it’s forever over. either your life becomes 200x better or you learn to simply accept every negativity in your life

This is a polarizing and not so smart way to think about it. Neither of those things will ever happen, you'll never reach a point where you are 100% secure of yourself, and you'll never actually give up and accept it's over if you are a normal person without any major genetical deformity. This is simply the truth. With this mindset the only way to be fulfilled would be becoming a flawless divine creature.

 

[Peco]

I'd say I am very happy would say went from lmtn-mtn to htn with mostly puberty and a lot of softmaxes 15yo-17yo. And get treated very well can talk to girls easily get good treatment from new people etc.

Yes like I said improving your looks is good and not something you should avoid doing.

I do notice that I ALWAYS find a new flaw so I do NOT rot on my pc incelmaxxing and actually live my life go on dates, out with friends, clubbing, work, school.

I don't understand what you are trying to say here. Are you saying that despite the fact that you keep finding new flaws you don't let that affect you ?

To be honest I believe looks are a thing that brings you into a room and everything else being charismatic, being able to talk to people, being confident funny basically your personality YES personality will take you out that room everything stacks together.

Yeah of course, looks are everything is a good motto but it's obviously 1 dimensional and stupid to think that's true.

Most important thing to do is to NT max NO ONE will like you if your autistic or that they know you looksmax. Keep all this shit to yourself ascend and just delete your account and forget everything.

 

[zerko]

I don't understand what you are trying to say here. Are you saying that despite the fact that you keep finding new flaws you don't let that affect you ?

Exactly, looks are indefinite. You can NEVER achieve true happiness with your looks the more you dig into it the harder it is to get out.

Sure i'm more confident when I go out and get great ioi's but when I am home and just chilling and just look at myself I don't think I look good, probably dislike my looks more than before. Back when I was like fucking mtn I thought I looked good lol.

I don't look for new flaws I know my failos and go on from there, I know exactly what I want to do and when that's done so around this summer will delete my account tiktok account and live my life.

I sometimes think like for example this girl im dating currently would she look at me the same if I didn't have the looks? Would I even have a chance if I was an ltn. Life is tough and EVERYONE should focus on their looks, I personally like to think I just want to look as healthy as possible so health indicators perfect skin, hair, posture etc, obviously in the end its all your bones LOL, but whatever helps to cope the mind helps it.

 

[Peco]

Exactly, looks are indefinite. You can NEVER achieve true happiness with your looks the more you dig into it the harder it is to get out.

Sure i'm more confident when I go out and get great ioi's but when I am home and just chilling and just look at myself I don't think I look good, probably dislike my looks more than before. Back when I was like fucking mtn I thought I looked good lol.

That's common to most people here and I was like that too. Looksmaxxing should be about becoming happier but it does the opposite. Again people assume they have to pay a price for learning about the blackpill when it's really all in your mind.

I don't look for new flaws I know my failos and go on from there, I know exactly what I want to do and when that's done so around this summer will delete my account tiktok account and live my life.

That's good

I sometimes think like for example this girl im dating currently would she look at me the same if I didn't have the looks? Would I even have a chance if I was an ltn. Life is tough and EVERYONE should focus on their looks, I personally like to think I just want to look as healthy as possible so health indicators perfect skin, hair, posture etc, obviously in the end its all your bones LOL, but whatever helps to cope the mind helps it.

Yeah that's a good way to look at it

 

[Skelletometric]

Looksmaxxing makes you feel like shit let's be honest. It opens your eyes to an harsh reality and promises a solution. But does it really give you that? You'll never be content with how you look because of the unhealthy mindset that this community has made you develop.

You have to detach from the idea that your moral value is determined by your looks. I'm not trying to argue whether it objectively is or it isn't because it doesn't matter. You should keep improving your looks, like you do with your education or social skills, but you shouldn't think these things determine your value as person. If you are so self conscious of your own looks that's gonna be detremental for you. Even if you do become better looking you will not appreciate its advantages to the fullest. You'll never be confident in yourself because you'll always be projecting your value in a future where your flaws have been fixed. But if you keep thinking like this that future will never exist. For every flaw you fix there is a new one that appears, it will never be enough.

This is a pretty simple fix, I made a longer thread about this whole concept, I'll link it here if you wanna read it: https://looksmax.org/threads/the-looksmaxxing-paradox-and-how-to-get-around-it.2087735/

I find the journey pretty fun I’m not that ugly and I’m LMing with a couple friends and my gf it’s pretty awesome even if it has its streches

 

[Peco]

I find the journey pretty fun I’m not that ugly and I’m LMing with a couple friends and my gf it’s pretty awesome even if it has its streches

Yeah that's good. It's definitely easier to understand what I explained if you are more average/above average looking, because then it's harder to go down the rabbit hole and become too self conscious. I still think that even if you are below average that's how you should think about the blackpill, understanding that looks are something you can work on like you do with your grades or social skills but without that affecting your whole mind and filling you with resentment towards yourself or the world

 

[zerko]

hat's common to most people here and I was like that too. Looksmaxxing should be about becoming happier but it does the opposite. Again people assume they have to pay a price for learning about the blackpill when it's really all in your mind.

Agreed, for this reason i'll NEVER ever take this too serious in the end life is all jokes. Sure I roid, do risky shit but in my mind I feel normal yk, im not nd and especially people irl could NEVER guess anything I did or am doing.

It's ALL in the mind and what you believe in.