been crying the last 2 days after getting dumped

[bddcoper]

it just the way she did it hurts. she says she wants someone better in every way (that she doesn't want to settle) and that she wouldnt change for me but would for someone else. she says im not considerate, that im not generous enough, that i dont treat her like other boyfriends treat their women, that im not emotionally mature, that my views are too traditional. i've also broken promises and started most arguments we've had, which she listed but not as bluntly.

we still talk and she still wants to hook up but doesnt want to date and doesn't want any of the commitments of dating because im such an awful boyfriend apparently. she says she wants me to keep seeing other people so i can find the right girl but i dont want to. she says she wont be doing friends with benefits with other guys.

she says i treat/treated her better when we are just friends, which is true because im just being myself without taking anything to heart. im still the guy she loved first when we were friends and the opposite of the reasons she listed for the breakup were things she would always tell me (like im so considerate and such). i was just acting that way because of redpill was supposed to work but playing games and breaking promises and playing with her emotionally just made me lose her.

how can i get her back? we lost our V to each other and we meet up most days and last night she slept over. i honestly wish she would just admit its a looks thing so i can be over it but she insists its not and later that looks are the only reason she still talks to me. i dont want this i just want real authentic love like we had 3 months ago. yes im free and yes we are still doing things couples do but currently without the possibility of reciprocated love

 

[bddcoper]

bump please dont DNR me

 

[Sulfuras]

so she said she would change for others but not you, she doesn't appreciate you and doesn't want anything to do with you unless it is sex for her own pleasure and you cry about it?

get over it is the only and best advice I can give you and the easiest way to do that is to realise what a bitch she is and then ask yourself: "is she really worth crying over?"

 

[Yvann133]

it just the way she did it hurts. she says she wants someone better in every way (that she doesn't want to settle) and that she wouldnt change for me but would for someone else. she says im not considerate, that im not generous enough, that i dont treat her like other boyfriends treat their women, that im not emotionally mature, that my views are too traditional. i've also broken promises and started most arguments we've had, which she listed but not as bluntly.

we still talk and she still wants to hook up but doesnt want to date and doesn't want any of the commitments of dating because im such an awful boyfriend apparently. she says she wants me to keep seeing other people so i can find the right girl but i dont want to. she says she wont be doing friends with benefits with other guys.

she says i treat/treated her better when we are just friends, which is true because im just being myself without taking anything to heart. im still the guy she loved first when we were friends and the opposite of the reasons she listed for the breakup were things she would always tell me (like im so considerate and such). i was just acting that way because of redpill was supposed to work but playing games and breaking promises and playing with her emotionally just made me lose her.

how can i get her back? we lost our V to each other and we meet up most days and last night she slept over. i honestly wish she would just admit its a looks thing so i can be over it but she insists its not and later that looks are the only reason she still talks to me. i dont want this i just want real authentic love like we had 3 months ago. yes im free and yes we are still doing things couples do but currently without the possibility of reciprocated love

 

[foreverstuckinLTN]

Idk man but i think she playin with u , she said that she wants someone better than u in every way right? And she wants u as friends , i think she's using u for her to feel better and when she feels more better she gonna move to another guy, i think sometimes its better to let it go , even if u love her.

 

[bddcoper]

so she said she would change for others but not you, she doesn't appreciate you and doesn't want anything to do with you unless it is sex for her own pleasure and you cry about it?

get over it is the only and best advice I can give you and the easiest way to do that is to realise what a bitch she is and then ask yourself: "is she really worth crying over?"

she says she would change for the right guy*

im crying because we spent 3 months out of our first 6 together long distance over the summer after only dating for a few weeks. she wasnt a bad person to begin with we had our ups and downs but i know if i had reacted more maturely to our disagreements none of this wouldve happened and we would still be happy together as last semester of uni was probably the happiest few months ive had in my life (my first real relationship). i mean even the day she broke up with me i had wronged her (not even 24 hours after seeing her again after LD) by not sitting next to her during an event we had to go to because she was acting bitchy and not talking much the day after she took a plan B after she told me "finish in me i dont care anymore".

i dont know who's in the wrong curious abt your thoughts. yes she was a huge bitch when she broke up with me but it hurts because she fell out of love with me after i started being someone i really wasn't

im not crying over her im crying because ill never find love. because of the things she said and because she meant every word. even when i thought i found love with someone who genuinely cared for me i lost it because of my actions and am afraid this sort of thing will keep happening

 

[Wicket]

You'll get over it soon brah keep going

 

[bddcoper]

Idk man but i think she playin with u , she said that she wants someone better than u in every way right? And she wants u as friends , i think she's using u for her to feel better and when she feels more better she gonna move to another guy, i think sometimes its better to let it go , even if u love her.

she wants me as a hookup (friends with benefits) but yes friends im sure u are just abbreviating

its possible shes using me to feel better and its possible shes waiting for a better guy. the person (me) she met in february will be hard to beat and i guess she also admits it. she says she wants looks and personality in a relationship and that my looks alone arent enough for her to stay dating. maybe its because i genuinely treated her horribly while we were dating and amazingly when we werent.

ive pretty much hit my rock bottom this year so my confidence to do anything except try to get back with her is 0.

 

[Sulfuras]

she says she would change for the right guy*

im crying because we spent 3 months out of our first 6 together long distance over the summer after only dating for a few weeks. she wasnt a bad person to begin with we had our ups and downs but i know if i had reacted more maturely to our disagreements none of this wouldve happened and we would still be happy together as last semester of uni was probably the happiest few months ive had in my life (my first real relationship). i mean even the day she broke up with me i had wronged her (not even 24 hours after seeing her again after LD) by not sitting next to her during an event we had to go to because she was acting bitchy and not talking much the day after she took a plan B after she told me "finish in me i dont care anymore".

i dont know who's in the wrong curious abt your thoughts. yes she was a huge bitch when she broke up with me but it hurts because she fell out of love with me after i started being someone i really wasn't

im not crying over her im crying because ill never find love. because of the things she said and because she meant every word. even when i thought i found love with someone who genuinely cared for me i lost it because of my actions and am afraid this sort of thing will keep happening

if she truly fell out of love with you then there is probably no point in trying to get her back
the best thing you could do is wait till you are over it and try to get another gf

use this failed relationship as a training ground, think about what you could've done better and apply that to your new relationship

 

[superchud90000]

you're better off cutting her off bro, as this guy said :

Idk man but i think she playin with u

ik this probably isnt what you want to hear right now but theres no chance of getting that love you had back. she's literally just using you to get what she wants (friends w/ benefits) and you're letting her. on normal circumstances id say just stay friends with benefits if you prefer it but clearly you can't handle that when you've loved someone so much.

for your mental i would suggest cutting her off. theres nothing good that will come from staying friends with benefits. block all of her pages and don't look back.

she says she wont be doing friends with benefits with other guys.

also please keep in mind she doesn't owe you anything, and as all foids will she will likely do as she pleases with other men when the time comes. girls lie about this alot, and its likely another method to keep you attatched to her

she's basically completely lost feelings bro, it likely hurts because it's your first body and all that but you need to let go. once a girl looses feelings shes basically done.

 

[deadmau154]

Tales from da basement, circa December 2010

 

[BlondKanyeWest]

Why are you crying over a subhuman? ascend and mog her to death. Then find a better girl. But in order to achieve this you need to clean your own mind, because if you continuously think about her you'll never be able to move on and do what i said in the beginning.

 

[IsItTooLateToMaxx]

DID read, and bro im sorry, best thing i can tell you is just cut everything off with her cuz it’ll just hold you back more. i know you dont know me but feel free to message me we can talk whenever

 

[foreverstuckinLTN]

she wants me as a hookup (friends with benefits) but yes friends im sure u are just abbreviating

its possible shes using me to feel better and its possible shes waiting for a better guy. the person (me) she met in february will be hard to beat and i guess she also admits it. she says she wants looks and personality in a relationship and that my looks alone arent enough for her to stay dating. maybe its because i genuinely treated her horribly while we were dating and amazingly when we werent.

ive pretty much hit my rock bottom this year so my confidence to do anything except try to get back with her is 0.

I think she is playing with your emotions bro and she's using u to feel better emotionally and then she gonna throw you , man look im not saying this just to say it , im sayin it from experience i know how those girls will act , and also im sayin this bcs i dont want you to get crushed by that girl at the end cuz it will fuck you up mentally.

Its time to let it go , i promise you you're going to get over it and move on.

Good luck bro.

 

[bddcoper]

if she truly fell out of love with you then there is probably no point in trying to get her back
the best thing you could do is wait till you are over it and try to get another gf

use this failed relationship as a training ground, think about what you could've done better and apply that to your new relationship

she says that she still likes me and has feelings, but also thinks that even if we work things out the relationship will feel forced and eventually go back to the way it was/is now (emotional immaturity)

i guess i mean we keep seeing each other im not going to ask her to get back together again, but if after a month she doesnt mention it at all it might be time to move on or truly see her as FWBs

i know for sure what i couldve done better now and a lot of things can be fixed just when i act like myself and dont take every little word or action to heart. like i said she thought i was the opposite of all her breakup reasons back in february-pre summer break until we started dating and i changed into someone i wasn't

thanks for the advice man i really appreciate every word you wrote

you're better off cutting her off bro, as this guy said :



ik this probably isnt what you want to hear right now but theres no chance of getting that love you had back. she's literally just using you to get what she wants (friends w/ benefits) and you're letting her. on normal circumstances id say just stay friends with benefits if you prefer it but clearly you can't handle that when you've loved someone so much.

for your mental i would suggest cutting her off. theres nothing good that will come from staying friends with benefits. block all of her pages and don't look back.



also please keep in mind she doesn't owe you anything, and as all foids will she will likely do as she pleases with other men when the time comes. girls lie about this alot, and its likely another method to keep you attatched to her

she's basically completely lost feelings bro, it likely hurts because it's your first body and all that but you need to let go. once a girl looses feelings shes basically done.

yes you're right. i also should've mentioned we were friends with benefits before we started dating (shes not slutty in that sense ig because im still the only person who has fucked her). even back then she wasnt seeing anyone else. she knows i want her back but refuses. apparently all these thoughts started 3 weeks ago, around the time i broke my promise to meet up with her over the summer then two days ago i texted her something really rude after an awful day in person together that just broke her. even after we had that bad day together she still texted asking me to hang out and i fucked it up by telling her no in the worst possible way

i want to give it a month or so of being FWBs to see if she comes back after the plan B wears off/her cycle resets or if this is permanently how she feels. she says she feels normal but when i was reading through reddit threads for plan b sides the women didnt realize how bitchy they were being and many had similar experiences as me (just in my ex's perspective )

thanks for every word btw

Why are you crying over a subhuman? ascend and mog her to death. Then find a better girl. But in order to achieve this you need to clean your own mind, because if you continuously think about her you'll never be able to move on and do what i said in the beginning.

i already do mog her to death im 6'1" hmtn (she met me at lhtn i would say) shes hltb maybe lmtb (someone here rated her mltb-hltb so my feelings aside she might be that but when i see her all i can think is how beautiful she looks) yet i still love her it doesnt matter what she looks like but its sad despite this she still wants more. i want to give it some time in case it is hormonal from plan b (see two paragraphs above) but hopefully by then ill be indifferent about her if things havent changed by im sure shell be indifferent about me and we'll go separate ways

DID read, and bro im sorry, best thing i can tell you is just cut everything off with her cuz it’ll just hold you back more. i know you dont know me but feel free to message me we can talk whenever

thank you man and its okay its mainly my fault for being someone im not in the worst possible ways. i think whats keeping me up right now is the fact that we're still seeing each other and talking and because theres still a chance we get back together since our breakup was so sudden and not thought out very well.

I think she is playing with your emotions bro and she's using u to feel better emotionally and then she gonna throw you , man look im not saying this just to say it , im sayin it from experience i know how those girls will act , and also im sayin this bcs i dont want you to get crushed by that girl at the end cuz it will fuck you up mentally.

Its time to let it go , i promise you you're going to get over it and move on.

Good luck bro.

do you really think so? she asked me to be her boyfriend and said i love you first and cared for me and always texted first i just feel like i fucked up and wish i couldve prove to her i didnt. the reason she lost feelings was because of my mistakes in the relationship she didnt do anything wrong she would always just be quiet and never bring stuff up to avoid arguments and she was doing her best to please me but i didnt appreciate any of it until now but its too late. i just want what we had back

 

[H72]

it just the way she did it hurts. she says she wants someone better in every way (that she doesn't want to settle) and that she wouldnt change for me but would for someone else. she says im not considerate, that im not generous enough, that i dont treat her like other boyfriends treat their women, that im not emotionally mature, that my views are too traditional. i've also broken promises and started most arguments we've had, which she listed but not as bluntly.

we still talk and she still wants to hook up but doesnt want to date and doesn't want any of the commitments of dating because im such an awful boyfriend apparently. she says she wants me to keep seeing other people so i can find the right girl but i dont want to. she says she wont be doing friends with benefits with other guys.

she says i treat/treated her better when we are just friends, which is true because im just being myself without taking anything to heart. im still the guy she loved first when we were friends and the opposite of the reasons she listed for the breakup were things she would always tell me (like im so considerate and such). i was just acting that way because of redpill was supposed to work but playing games and breaking promises and playing with her emotionally just made me lose her.

how can i get her back? we lost our V to each other and we meet up most days and last night she slept over. i honestly wish she would just admit its a looks thing so i can be over it but she insists its not and later that looks are the only reason she still talks to me. i dont want this i just want real authentic love like we had 3 months ago. yes im free and yes we are still doing things couples do but currently without the possibility of reciprocated love

You got to cut her off your only hurting yourself more by allowing her to be a major part in your life

 

[foreverstuckinLTN]

do you really think so? she asked me to be her boyfriend and said i love you first and cared for me and always texted first i just feel like i fucked up and wish i couldve prove to her i didnt. the reason she lost feelings was because of my mistakes in the relationship she didnt do anything wrong she would always just be quiet and never bring stuff up to avoid arguments and she was doing her best to please me but i didnt appreciate any of it until now but its too late. i just want what we had back

Wait what were the mistakes u did in the relationships?

 

[superchud90000]

yes you're right. i also should've mentioned we were friends with benefits before we started dating (shes not slutty in that sense ig because im still the only person who has fucked her). even back then she wasnt seeing anyone else. she knows i want her back but refuses. apparently all these thoughts started 3 weeks ago, around the time i broke my promise to meet up with her over the summer then two days ago i texted her something really rude after an awful day in person together that just broke her. even after we had that bad day together she still texted asking me to hang out and i fucked it up by telling her no in the worst possible way

i want to give it a month or so of being FWBs to see if she comes back after the plan B wears off/her cycle resets or if this is permanently how she feels. she says she feels normal but when i was reading through reddit threads for plan b sides the women didnt realize how bitchy they were being and many had similar experiences as me (just in my ex's perspective )

thanks for every word btw

honestly a good idea to see if the plan b wears off if she feels the same

i guess id say try to detach yourself during that time? or atleast try to analyze what you did wrong previously so this doesnt happen again if she doesnt feel that way and ends up getting back w/ you

 

[thickbitch]

Don't forget to change your tampon you little bitch

 

[bddcoper]

Wait what were the mistakes u did in the relationships?

directly from previous comments:

> she thought i was the opposite of all her breakup reasons back in february-pre summer break until we started dating and i changed into someone i wasn't

> i genuinely treated her horribly while we were dating and amazingly when we werent

> she asked me to be her boyfriend and said i love you first and cared for me and always texted first i just feel like i fucked up and wish i couldve prove to her i didnt.

> she knows i want her back but refuses. apparently all these thoughts started 3 weeks ago, around the time i broke my promise to meet up with her over the summer then two days ago i texted her something really rude after an awful day in person together that just broke her. this happened when even after we had that bad day together she still texted asking me to hang out and i fucked it up by telling her no in the worst possible way because i was still sour from her being cold in person. i wish i had just said yes and met up so we couldve talked in person we would still be together

i would always start shit from nothing because i took every little thing too personally. like i would be cold even just a little if i got upset or give an attitude (sometimes noticeable sometimes slight) over the phone. like once she was getting ready to go to some concert with her friends over the summer and she called me as she was curling her hair and i remember just getting upset because she would never curl her hair before seeing me (didnt show it at all over the phone but its these types of little insignificant things that built up that did get me noticeably upset eventually). these cycles of me building up my resentment towards her then acting differently kept happening while we were long distance over the summer and eventually ruined things

 

[foreverstuckinLTN]

directly from previous comments:

> she thought i was the opposite of all her breakup reasons back in february-pre summer break until we started dating and i changed into someone i wasn't

> i genuinely treated her horribly while we were dating and amazingly when we werent

> she asked me to be her boyfriend and said i love you first and cared for me and always texted first i just feel like i fucked up and wish i couldve prove to her i didnt.

> she knows i want her back but refuses. apparently all these thoughts started 3 weeks ago, around the time i broke my promise to meet up with her over the summer then two days ago i texted her something really rude after an awful day in person together that just broke her. this happened when even after we had that bad day together she still texted asking me to hang out and i fucked it up by telling her no in the worst possible way because i was still sour from her being cold in person. i wish i had just said yes and met up so we couldve talked in person we would still be together

i would always start shit from nothing because i took every little thing too personally. like i would be cold even just a little if i got upset or give an attitude (sometimes noticeable sometimes slight) over the phone. like once she was getting ready to go to some concert with her friends over the summer and she called me as she was curling her hair and i remember just getting upset because she would never curl her hair before seeing me (didnt show it at all over the phone but its these types of little insignificant things that built up that did get me noticeably upset eventually). these cycles of me building up my resentment towards her then acting differently kept happening while we were long distance over the summer and eventually ruined things

Hmmm my advice is to move on cuz since she doesnt want to get back with u , ur just going to make ur mental health worse and worse with no win cuz u will waste ur time for something that doesnt want you anymore , you'll find another girl next time and im glad that u knew that u did mistakes so next time you will not do the same thing again.

We all make mistakes and we learn from them , you'll find another girl who'll treat u better and you'll live with her forever.

Good luck.

 

[bddcoper]

Hmmm my advice is to move on cuz since she doesnt want to get back with u , ur just going to make ur mental health worse and worse with no win cuz u will waste ur time for something that doesnt want you anymore , you'll find another girl next time and im glad that u knew that u did mistakes so next time you will not do the same thing again.

We all make mistakes and we learn from them , you'll find another girl who'll treat u better and you'll live with her forever.

Good luck.

thanks man i appreciate every word

 

[foreverstuckinLTN]

thanks man i appreciate every word

Yw man

 

[LeanByDecemer]

Why do you want to get back with a girl who does hook ups though? She's letting random men hit without commitment but you want to give her commitment? She ain't it.

For men, moving onto another bitch after a breakup is actually valid, the rebound strat doesn't work against us like it does for women. I highly reccomend that.