Being an only child is extremely brutal socially

[Prøphet]

I genuinely think siblings are a social safety net that saves a lot of people from going full loser

If you’re friendless but at least have a brother, or even a sister to some extent, at least you’ll still always be around someone else your age to keep you somewhat in check and out of complete isolation

But as an only child myself, I noticed you are really extremely fucked if things dont go well socially. I literally haven’t spoken with someone else my age since I was maybe 15. It’s too easy to end up extremely weird from being only surrounded by older relatives, especially in today’s atomized world. So then you enter this vicious cycle that worsens itself over time until it’s irreversible.

I noticed in school, all the weird kids who are always raising their hands and reminding the teacher of homework, you know the type, are usually always ND and have no siblings. I think it’s seriously unnatural and damaging to child development to be the only youth in your household tbh.

 

[zeph.u]

I genuinely think siblings are a social safety net that saves a lot of people from going full loser

If you’re friendless but at least have a brother, or even a sister to some extent, at least you’ll still always be around someone else your age to keep you somewhat in check and out of complete isolation

But as an only child myself, I noticed you are really extremely fucked if things dont go well socially. I literally haven’t spoken with someone else my age since I was maybe 15. It’s too easy to end up extremely weird from being only surrounded by older relatives, especially in today’s atomized world.

I noticed in school, all the weird kids who are always raising their hands and reminding the teacher of homework, you know the type, are usually always ND and have no siblings. I think it’s seriously unnatural and damaging to child development to be the only youth in your household tbh.

As a family of four I’m forgotten (cope)

 

[slaviccartfiend]

Siblings aren't always your age and you won't always be friends with them

 

[Prøphet]

As a family of four I’m forgotten (cope)

These dynamics like the forgotten middle child, overprotected younger child, overpunished older child, etc are all infinitely better than the inept only child

 

[Outlander]

Agreed assuming you have good siblings. Being an only child means you've essentially got zero social network if you don't have friends and a gf, however I'd prefer that to having nasty siblings. I'm an only child and it probably contributed to me being as alone and outcasted as this

 

[Prøphet]

Siblings aren't always your age and you won't always be friends with them

Yeah but from what I hear usually you become chill with them once you’re high school age

It’s like a safeguard against being consumed by the dynamics of old people, and thus alienated from your peers. as long as you have a sibling within like 5 years of your age

 

[LowTierBateman]

Ngl i dont hang out with anybody i would hang out with my brother if he wasnt lame as hell

 

[slaviccartfiend]

Yeah but from what I hear usually you become chill with them once you’re high school age

It’s like a safeguard against being consumed by the dynamics of old people, as long as you have a sibling within like 5 years of your age

My sister is 10 years younger than me lol the dynamic is closer to that of a third parent rather than a friend

 

[zeph.u]

These dynamics like the forgotten middle child, overprotected younger child, overpunished older child, etc are all infinitely better than the inept only child

My entire life we had gone through hard stuff and my dad was working the entire time and my older sister was venting with my mom for years and then my brothers were born and I was forgotten

 

[Centurion Hunter]

I genuinely think siblings are a social safety net that saves a lot of people from going full loser

If you’re friendless but at least have a brother, or even a sister to some extent, at least you’ll still always be around someone else your age to keep you somewhat in check and out of complete isolation

But as an only child myself, I noticed you are really extremely fucked if things dont go well socially. I literally haven’t spoken with someone else my age since I was maybe 15. It’s too easy to end up extremely weird from being only surrounded by older relatives, especially in today’s atomized world. So then you enter this vicious cycle that worsens itself over time until it’s irreversible.

I noticed in school, all the weird kids who are always raising their hands and reminding the teacher of homework, you know the type, are usually always ND and have no siblings. I think it’s seriously unnatural and damaging to child development to be the only youth in your household tbh.

Imagine having an older brother that could prop ur smv up

 

[tansel]

tell me about it man

i went overseas to see my family last year for the first time & it was so brutal seeing all of my cousins having brothers & sisters

& i grew up all alone

 

[theblueprints]

Homeschooling is terrible as well

 

[milkshake_addict]

not true i have silbings and ive always be ignored/left alone by them

 

[tansel]

Homeschooling is terrible as well

u were homeschooled?

 

[impius]

I genuinely think siblings are a social safety net that saves a lot of people from going full loser

If you’re friendless but at least have a brother, or even a sister to some extent, at least you’ll still always be around someone else your age to keep you somewhat in check and out of complete isolation

But as an only child myself, I noticed you are really extremely fucked if things dont go well socially. I literally haven’t spoken with someone else my age since I was maybe 15. It’s too easy to end up extremely weird from being only surrounded by older relatives, especially in today’s atomized world. So then you enter this vicious cycle that worsens itself over time until it’s irreversible.

I noticed in school, all the weird kids who are always raising their hands and reminding the teacher of homework, you know the type, are usually always ND and have no siblings. I think it’s seriously unnatural and damaging to child development to be the only youth in your household tbh.

as an only child i deeply resonate with this paragraph

 

[theblueprints]

u were homeschooled?

Na, but I know a lot of people who have been homeschooled. They told me it took them a while to socially adjust

 

[Prøphet]

tell me about it man

i went overseas to see my family last year for the first time & it was so brutal seeing all of my cousins having brothers & sisters

& i grew up all alone

Same actually, all my cousins have siblings it was always pretty brutal to see whenever I would visit them as a kid

 

[Prøphet]

Homeschooling is terrible as well

Should be illegal, theres really no way to have the same social exposure / experience as school without actually doing it. Most of my time in school was terrible being mocked and outcasted most of the time and I’m still glad I went compared to the homeschool niggas

 

[Prøphet]

not true i have silbings and ive always be ignored/left alone by them

I guess it’s not a guarantee but generally it is better to at least have the chance to socialize with equals in your household, I think it does something positive for the brain regarding identity and authority figures

 

[tansel]

Same actually, all my cousins have siblings it was always pretty brutal to see whenever I would visit them as a kid

yeah man

i have a cousin who has an older sister & they’re literally like ride or die siblings

it geniunely hurt me so much seeing them be close that i literally cut them off because every time i talked to them i just felt sad that i didn’t have what they had

 

[milkshake_addict]

I guess it’s not a guarantee but generally it is better to at least have the chance to socialize with equals in your household, I think it does something positive for the brain regarding identity and authority figures

Its true it does something postitive for the brain I:E helping with social skills but it doesnt help you completely from being a loser

 

[Prøphet]

yeah man

i have a cousin who has an older sister & they’re literally like ride or die siblings

it geniunely hurt me so much seeing them be close that i literally cut them off because every time i talked to them i just felt sad that i didn’t have what they had

Yeah I feel that, I would also get pretty sad whenever they would leave after visiting because it was like getting a taste of what a healthier family structure looks like, really hated just being the only son of my parents with no one really on my same level in the immediate family

 

[tansel]

Yeah I feel that, I would also get pretty sad whenever they would leave after visiting because it was like getting a taste of what a healthier family structure looks like, really hated just being the only son of my parents with no one really on my same level in the immediate family

same dude

man i wish i had siblings lmao