Nectar
Optimistic n carefree | Future Lite
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I am a 18 year old male that has never had a girlfriend or sex, and don't know how long I should keep this up. I worry because at this rate, I see myself being forever alone, for numerous reasons.
How the hell am I ever going to find a partner if I never date? What are my chances finding someone that will marry me without sex? I have remained completely inexperienced in dating and sex and consequently feel I am a lot less desirable to women than I could have been, while all of my friends have been in numerous relationships. This lack of experience has really done a number on my self-esteem and confidence.
Am I so evil if I don't want an arranged marriage? Is this my only fate as a muslim? It drives me INSANE with envy just hearing about or seeing other couples, I feel so lonely and envious of everyone around me.
The real thing that is worrying me is, how much more time should I waste? I might eventually be in my 50s and realize I have been alone half of my life. I think that maybe given the circumstances in the time we live in, that maybe it would be permissible if I were to start dating. I don't see how I will ever come even close to finding a partner if I don't.
What do other muslims do?? Do you all get arranged marriages? I'm in such a dilemma because my religion is important to me. I feel tempted to go bar hopping with friends because I feel I need to start socializing with the opposite sex, but then chicken out at the end because of religion. I have been sitting on the fence for too long, I need to know if I can go ahead with this.
How does a muslim get married living in western society? Are there any options besides arranged marriages?
How the hell am I ever going to find a partner if I never date? What are my chances finding someone that will marry me without sex? I have remained completely inexperienced in dating and sex and consequently feel I am a lot less desirable to women than I could have been, while all of my friends have been in numerous relationships. This lack of experience has really done a number on my self-esteem and confidence.
Am I so evil if I don't want an arranged marriage? Is this my only fate as a muslim? It drives me INSANE with envy just hearing about or seeing other couples, I feel so lonely and envious of everyone around me.
The real thing that is worrying me is, how much more time should I waste? I might eventually be in my 50s and realize I have been alone half of my life. I think that maybe given the circumstances in the time we live in, that maybe it would be permissible if I were to start dating. I don't see how I will ever come even close to finding a partner if I don't.
What do other muslims do?? Do you all get arranged marriages? I'm in such a dilemma because my religion is important to me. I feel tempted to go bar hopping with friends because I feel I need to start socializing with the opposite sex, but then chicken out at the end because of religion. I have been sitting on the fence for too long, I need to know if I can go ahead with this.
How does a muslim get married living in western society? Are there any options besides arranged marriages?
