Being muslim and a virgin in western society is killing me. Need advice.

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I am a 18 year old male that has never had a girlfriend or sex, and don't know how long I should keep this up. I worry because at this rate, I see myself being forever alone, for numerous reasons.

How the hell am I ever going to find a partner if I never date? What are my chances finding someone that will marry me without sex? I have remained completely inexperienced in dating and sex and consequently feel I am a lot less desirable to women than I could have been, while all of my friends have been in numerous relationships. This lack of experience has really done a number on my self-esteem and confidence.

Am I so evil if I don't want an arranged marriage? Is this my only fate as a muslim? It drives me INSANE with envy just hearing about or seeing other couples, I feel so lonely and envious of everyone around me.

The real thing that is worrying me is, how much more time should I waste? I might eventually be in my 50s and realize I have been alone half of my life. I think that maybe given the circumstances in the time we live in, that maybe it would be permissible if I were to start dating. I don't see how I will ever come even close to finding a partner if I don't.

What do other muslims do?? Do you all get arranged marriages? I'm in such a dilemma because my religion is important to me. I feel tempted to go bar hopping with friends because I feel I need to start socializing with the opposite sex, but then chicken out at the end because of religion. I have been sitting on the fence for too long, I need to know if I can go ahead with this.

How does a muslim get married living in western society? Are there any options besides arranged marriages?
 
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@SecularIslamist @Xangsane sorry for the long essay but thoughts?
 
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Have sex, duh
 
Bro I did not have sex until 30 years old. It is what is is.. Maybe its better in the end. Just arrage marriage girl that are loyal and care about you. Having sex is with diff people is wast of time.
 
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They don't need to know at the end you are a men and this urge, which is natural, will eventually take over, especially in a society that is ultra-oriented towards this practice.
 
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They don't need to know at the end you a men and this urge, which is natural, will eventually take over, especially in a society that is ultra-oriented towards this practice.
My parents let me eat non halal food and a little bit of alcohol I am born and living in west to Iranian parents. I am too scared to tell my dad I want a gf and slay.
 
My parents let me eat non halal food and a little bit of alcohol I am born and living in west to Iranian parents. I am too scared to tell my dad I want a gf and slay.
You need to growth and make choice for yourself, i'm not muslim in a strict familly or anything and idkn how it is for you but nothing will happen if you don't try to cross the bridge by yourself given what you've described to me, you'll just follow a boring life pretty much mapped out by your parents/religions.
 
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You need to growth and make choice for yourself, i'm not muslim in a strict familly or anything and idkn how it is for you but nothing will happen if you don't try to cross the bridge by yourself given what you've described to me, you'll just follow a boring life pretty much mapped out by your parents/religions.
I want to go uni next year and get laid secretly even going to holiday to Ibiza, Marabella etc. Lifeโ€™s too short for this. I gymmax, have a decent face and average height
 
muh islamic values prevent me from having sex no jfl u dont have sex coz yr ugly boyo
 
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muh islamic values prevent me from having sex no jfl u dont have sex coz yr ugly boyo
My persian f boy friend who is 16 has a body count of 26 (all white western HTBโ€™s)
 
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My persian f boy friend who is 16 has a body count of 26 (all white western HTBโ€™s)
yeah u in socal persians here are usually slayers
 
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