Can someone decode what my GF means here?

[Xangsane]

She said she'd invite white blonde girls to our wedding (the one after the initial nikkah, the big one where we spend more) where "they'd watch us kiss then the blonde whites have to go home to their fat balding husbands because the entire town and university ran a train through them"

I asked her "every guy likes a blonde" and she said "they often marry at 35 to some fat old rich guy because the university ran through them like a train because everyone wants them" and "they can still marry a fat old rich guy while I take the pretty Ken doll".

 

[Xangsane]

@Pikabro


@chaddyboi66 did good analysis which I will reply to in detail but I'm interested in what others think

 

[Xangsane]

@aesthetic beauty

 

[Xangsane]

@TRUE_CEL

 

[Xangsane]

@lucivert

 

[Xangsane]

@TheTakeoverHasBegun

 

[Gengar]

She is saying she got herself a prize (I do believe you’re a MTN, without all the edits) so yes, you indeed a prize compared to those men she described.

But what is most interesting is the fact you guys want to kiss after the nikah ceremony? I have never seen that happen.

It’s not part of the Islamic culture to act lovey dovey like that in front of a crowd, but I could be wrong.

Paging dr @emeraldglass. Thoughts?

 

[Xangsane]

She is saying she got herself a prize (I do believe you’re a MTN, without all the edits) so yes, you indeed a prize compared to those men she described.

Thank you!
This is an average composite of the men she used to be with:

But what is most interesting is the fact you guys want to kiss after the nikah ceremony? I have never seen that happen.

It’s not part of the Islamic culture to act lovey dovey like that in front of a crowd, but I could be wrong.

Paging dr @emeraldglass. Thoughts?

She said not the Islamic ceremony which is more low key (but more important) but the ceremonial western style one when we have more money.

 

[emeraldglass]

She is saying she got herself a prize (I do believe you’re a MTN, without all the edits) so yes, you indeed a prize compared to those men she described.

But what is most interesting is the fact you guys want to kiss after the nikah ceremony? I have never seen that happen.

It’s not part of the Islamic culture to act lovey dovey like that in front of a crowd, but I could be wrong.

Paging dr @emeraldglass. Thoughts?

Shaykh Muhammad ibn Ibraaheem (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in his Fataawa (10/277) that kissing one’s wife in front of people is not permissible.


It is not permissible for a man or a woman to speak to anyone else of what happens between them in bed which no one else should see but them, because of the evils and temptations that result from that and because it opens the door to the shaytaan. This has to do with one who speaks about what he did with his wife, so how about one who does things in front of people where they can see him!

 

[aesthetic beauty]

She said she'd invite white blonde girls to our wedding (the one after the initial nikkah, the big one where we spend more) where "they'd watch us kiss then the blonde whites have to go home to their fat balding husbands because the entire town and university ran a train through them"

I asked her "every guy likes a blonde" and she said "they often marry at 35 to some fat old rich guy because the university ran through them like a train because everyone wants them" and "they can still marry a fat old rich guy while I take the pretty Ken doll".

Your girlfriend is crazy and has an inferiority complex to blonde women.

 

[Gengar]

Shaykh Muhammad ibn Ibraaheem (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in his Fataawa (10/277) that kissing one’s wife in front of people is not permissible.


It is not permissible for a man or a woman to speak to anyone else of what happens between them in bed which no one else should see but them, because of the evils and temptations that result from that and because it opens the door to the shaytaan. This has to do with one who speaks about what he did with his wife, so how about one who does things in front of people where they can see him!

I always found it cringe af whenever I saw people engaging in PDA (public display of affection). And in a way, it makes me somewhat uncomfortable, because if I look, it means I’m jealous, if I don’t look, it means I’m jealous too. So I have no idea how to act. Most recently, around two months ago, it happened in front of me when I was seated on a train. There was a one-person only seat and some Dutch guy was sitting on there, a typical kakkertje. Then his girlfriend sat on his lap and they would kiss. Super awkward. What made it even more awkward was this cute, white foreign girl who asked if she could sit next to me (it was the only available seat) and I said sure. We were both ignoring the couple but it just made it very awkward for us two as well. Or that was just in my head.

 

[Xangsane]

Your girlfriend is crazy and has an inferiority complex to blonde women.

Why and why?

 

[aesthetic beauty]

She said she'd invite white blonde girls to our wedding (the one after the initial nikkah, the big one where we spend more) where "they'd watch us kiss then the blonde whites have to go home to their fat balding husbands because the entire town and university ran a train through them"

I asked her "every guy likes a blonde" and she said "they often marry at 35 to some fat old rich guy because the university ran through them like a train because everyone wants them" and "they can still marry a fat old rich guy while I take the pretty Ken doll".

Why and why?

 

[Xangsane]

Your girlfriend is crazy and has an inferiority complex to blonde women.

Do you think j she is coping or is she right

 

[aesthetic beauty]

I think that she is psychotic.

Do you think j she is coping or is she right

 

[Xangsane]

I think that she is psychotic.

Why

 

[aesthetic beauty]

Why

She said she'd invite white blonde girls to our wedding (the one after the initial nikkah, the big one where we spend more) where "they'd watch us kiss then the blonde whites have to go home to their fat balding husbands because the entire town and university ran a train through them"

I asked her "every guy likes a blonde" and she said "they often marry at 35 to some fat old rich guy because the university ran through them like a train because everyone wants them" and "they can still marry a fat old rich guy while I take the pretty Ken doll".

 

[Chadeep]

Her porn Brain is making her to do this. She might be into voyeurism

 

[Xangsane]

Her porn Brain is making her to do this. She might be into voyeurism

Why

@aesthetic beauty but do you think she is right about the rich fat husbands part?

 

[Deleted member 30325]

She said she'd invite white blonde girls to our wedding (the one after the initial nikkah, the big one where we spend more) where "they'd watch us kiss then the blonde whites have to go home to their fat balding husbands because the entire town and university ran a train through them"

I asked her "every guy likes a blonde" and she said "they often marry at 35 to some fat old rich guy because the university ran through them like a train because everyone wants them" and "they can still marry a fat old rich guy while I take the pretty Ken doll".

Man your wife is crazy..
Don't ask me why

 

[Xangsane]

Man your wife is crazy..
Don't ask me why

Why is she crazy

 

[aesthetic beauty]

Why

@aesthetic beauty but do you think she is right about the rich fat husbands part?

No. Some will/might but intertia would lead most to date/marry htn+

 

[Xangsane]

No. Some will/might but intertia would lead most to date/marry htn+

Why don't you think she's correct about this?

 

[aesthetic beauty]

Why don't you think she's correct about this?

Men want blonde women. They are more likely to get a gl man due to this preference.

 

[Xangsane]

Men want blonde women. They are more likely to get a gl man due to this preference.

How many men in the world do you think want blonde women? Does this even count ethnic foids who dye their hair like Beyonce or just white blonde?

 

[emeraldglass]

I always found it cringe af whenever I saw people engaging in PDA (public display of affection). And in a way, it makes me somewhat uncomfortable, because if I look, it means I’m jealous, if I don’t look, it means I’m jealous too. So I have no idea how to act. Most recently, around two months ago, it happened in front of me when I was seated on a train. There was a one-person only seat and some Dutch guy was sitting on there, a typical kakkertje. Then his girlfriend sat on his lap and they would kiss. Super awkward. What made it even more awkward was this cute, white foreign girl who asked if she could sit next to me (it was the only available seat) and I said sure. We were both ignoring the couple but it just made it very awkward for us two as well. Or that was just in my head.

This could only happen to you Bhai. You got the best train stories. I get what you mean, I also don’t know how to behave with such foolishness around me. But I just ignore them, it’s they who have to feel uneasy not us.

 

[Gengar]

This could only happen to you Bhai. You got the best train stories. I get what you mean, I also don’t know how to behave with such foolishness around me. But I just ignore them, it’s they who have to feel uneasy not us.

You mean to say these things you haven’t seen yourself? JFL. And you’re right, just ignoring them is the best course of action. They are super cringe and insecure. Like relax dude, nobody’s gonna steal your mid chick that’s been through already.

 

[Deleted member 22924]

your girl wants to be white

 

[Xangsane]

your girl wants to be white

why

 

[Kamui]

Your girlfriend is crazy and has an inferiority complex to blonde women.

Every ethnic female ever

 

[aesthetic beauty]

Every ethnic female ever

Alot do. Black women tend to have an inferiority complex towards light skin women. IF you spend time on LSA they seem to hate light skin women even more than white women.

 

[Kamui]

Alot do. Black women tend to have an inferiority complex towards light skin women. IF you spend time on LSA they seem to hate light skin women even more than white women.

Ye, they tend to mald a lot about lightskin women cuz black men like lightskin foids more than dark skins and claim it’s colourism (which it is) but light skin foids just genuinely look better where as most dark skin foids look like gorillas

 

[aesthetic beauty]

Ye, they tend to mald a lot about lightskin women cuz black men like lightskin foids more than dark skins and claim it’s colourism (which it is) but light skin foids just genuinely look better where as most dark skin foids look like gorillas

I would say that a light skin woman is more likely to fit objective beauty standards, but when there is a gl darkskin woman she will get male attention, just less than a light skin woman of a similar psl. And Yeah a lot of the women who say that shit aren't attractive.

 

[Kamui]

I would say that a light skin woman is more likely to fit objective beauty standards, but when there is a gl darkskin woman she will get male attention, just less than a light skin woman of a similar psl. And Yeah a lot of the women who say that shit aren't attractive.

Ye to be considered attractive as a dark skin foid you have to be legit Stacy tier whereas to be attractive as a lightskin you just have to be slightly above Becky

 

[aesthetic beauty]

Ye to be considered attractive as a dark skin foid you have to be legit Stacy tier whereas to be attractive as a lightskin you just have to be slightly above Becky

ltb for black men. I would say htb for dark skin women. It is what it is. You can't change biology.

 

[Xangsane]

Every ethnic female ever

Why?

ltb for black men. I would say htb for dark skin women. It is what it is. You can't change biology.

My GF said 99% of the men that were attracted to her were "black men".

 

[aesthetic beauty]

Why?

My GF said 99% of the men that were attracted to her were "black men".

She is incorporating her disgust for black men and her own racial identity into her fetishes. She likes the color contrast of black blonde men and it gives her a masochistic pleasure to see women she sees as above her get fucked by men who she looks down on.

 

[ShowerMaxxing]

The pretty autistic ken doll

 

[Xangsane]

The pretty autistic ken doll

why?

She is incorporating her disgust for black men and her own racial identity into her fetishes. She likes the color contrast of black blonde men and it gives her a masochistic pleasure to see women she sees as above her get fucked by men who she looks down on.

I've allowed her to speak out the trauma she has and I've offered her to work on it together while I also try to fix mine too.

Who do you think she sees above her?

 

[aesthetic beauty]

why?

I've allowed her to speak out the trauma she has and I've offered her to work on it together while I also try to fix mine too.

Who do you think she sees above her?

blonde women

 

[Xangsane]

blonde women

anyone else?

 

[aesthetic beauty]

anyone else?

Nope

 

[Xangsane]

Nope

I want to get her to work on the traumas we have together by talking it out and knowing how to let go. Both hers and mine.

 

[aesthetic beauty]

I want to get her to work on the traumas we have together by talking it out and knowing how to let go. Both hers and mine.

Alot of this isn't trauma, it's rooted in biology. You can't make someone want to change. Sometimes people are who they are.

 

[Xangsane]

Alot of this isn't trauma, it's rooted in biology. You can't make someone want to change. Sometimes people are who they are.

why do you think so?

 

[Deleted member 31169]

cope

 

[Deleted member 13710]

She said she'd invite white blonde girls to our wedding (the one after the initial nikkah, the big one where we spend more) where "they'd watch us kiss then the blonde whites have to go home to their fat balding husbands because the entire town and university ran a train through them"

I asked her "every guy likes a blonde" and she said "they often marry at 35 to some fat old rich guy because the university ran through them like a train because everyone wants them" and "they can still marry a fat old rich guy while I take the pretty Ken doll".

Meaning: "I am playing this guy so hard and it is so easy I can't believe it." You have no experience with women and it shows.

 

[Xangsane]

Meaning: "I am playing this guy so hard and it is so easy I can't believe it." You have no experience with women and it shows.

Why

 

[Deleted member 13710]

Why

She can tell you have no experience with women (by experience, I'm not talking about anything specifically romantic or sexual, just experience being around women and knowing what they're like). She can tell you have this desperate fantasy of finding a "pure" girl who's "not like the other girls" (very common) and she will play into that fantasy to make you think of her in a specific way. She's playing into that fantasy, and it sounds like you're making it extremely easy for her. Women don't talk like that unless they're trying ot impress men.

 

[Xangsane]

She can tell you have no experience with women (by experience, I'm not talking about anything specifically romantic or sexual, just experience being around women and knowing what they're like). She can tell you have this desperate fantasy of finding a "pure" girl who's "not like the other girls" (very common) and she will play into that fantasy to make you think of her in a specific way. She's playing into that fantasy, and it sounds like you're making it extremely easy for her. Women don't talk like that unless they're trying ot impress men.

what makes you think she's trying hard to impress me?
Throughout our trip (we returned home yesterday evening) she seemed very much into me, not forcing it at all.