Chainsaw-HTN-Man
I just want love
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Ok guys, I have a dilemma.
I know acting joyful and clingy makes your girl lose respect and drop your perceived value, and many guys claim that showing a more aloof behaviour makes girls more attached to you.
The question is that I like being chalant by nature, I laugh a lot and have genuine curiosity for other people. I tend to talk because I like to express my points of view or discuss topics because I like to socialize yk.
I tried acting nonchalant and gave me results but it's literally another persn and not me and I have to be thinking in doing it instead of naturally doing it, it takes cognitive energy and it burns me out sometimes.
So what I want to ask you guys, is it really that importatnt acting non chalant with a girl? Should I try to become aloof as a default mode? Could girls like maybe a chalant guy if he is attractive enough but he is very chalant or in the long term they always leave? What i do
?
I know acting joyful and clingy makes your girl lose respect and drop your perceived value, and many guys claim that showing a more aloof behaviour makes girls more attached to you.
The question is that I like being chalant by nature, I laugh a lot and have genuine curiosity for other people. I tend to talk because I like to express my points of view or discuss topics because I like to socialize yk.
I tried acting nonchalant and gave me results but it's literally another persn and not me and I have to be thinking in doing it instead of naturally doing it, it takes cognitive energy and it burns me out sometimes.
So what I want to ask you guys, is it really that importatnt acting non chalant with a girl? Should I try to become aloof as a default mode? Could girls like maybe a chalant guy if he is attractive enough but he is very chalant or in the long term they always leave? What i do
?
