Competence = Confidence

[Deleted member 15674]

The more competent you are at a task, the greater your confidence, I can attest to this in my day to day life. In BJJ I am everyone's bitch, and get my ass kicked. As a result, I am very low in the social hierarchy, while no one hates me and everyone is super helpful, friendly and encouraging to me - it's mostly because I am young, polite and friendly.

Now compare it to my judo class where I am one of the better students/pretty high up compared to everyone else. I hold WAAAAAAAAAY more authority, I get respect on a different level from everyone, the lower belts - even if they height and weight mog me and are older, still talk to me in a way they see me as an authority. I'm more confident, and am high up in the social hierarchy.

The difference? Competence. Your competence is your confidence, if you work a shit job and live paycheck to paycheck, you will NEVER be confident.

 

[buckchadley31]

If you ugly you can't be confident

 

[Deleted member 15674]

If you ugly you can't be confident

cope, I am ugly yet EVERYONE in my judo club speaks to me with lots of respect and authority. Even the women give me respect.

BJJ has no women, just older guys. But they treat me like a little brother ffs

 

[buckchadley31]

cope, I am ugly yet EVERYONE in my judo club speaks to me with lots of respect and authority. Even the women give me respect.

BJJ has no women, just older guys. But they treat me like a little brother ffs

Wasn't talking about you specifically nigga. I just summarized your thread in one sentence

 

[Deleted member 15674]

Wasn't talking about you specifically nigga. I just summarized your thread in one sentence

just competencymaxxx

 

[Amexmaxx]

Genetic competence is gl = confidence

 

[Afrikancel]

The more competent you are at a task, the greater your confidence, I can attest to this in my day to day life. In BJJ I am everyone's bitch, and get my ass kicked. As a result, I am very low in the social hierarchy, while no one hates me and everyone is super helpful, friendly and encouraging to me - it's mostly because I am young, polite and friendly.

Now compare it to my judo class where I am one of the better students/pretty high up compared to everyone else. I hold WAAAAAAAAAY more authority, I get respect on a different level from everyone, the lower belts - even if they height and weight mog me and are older, still talk to me in a way they see me as an authority. I'm more confident, and am high up in the social hierarchy.

The difference? Competence. Your competence is your confidence, if you work a shit job and live paycheck to paycheck, you will NEVER be confident.

Competence is the source of most of lifes joy. You cant be depressed at work or smth if youre good at it.
If youre good at somethings it becomes easy and subsequently not a problem in your life

 

[DoctorLooksmax]

I’ve said this before and used it as an analogy to explain why just be confident bro is a meme

You are confident when completing a task you know there’s a high chance of success in

For example if I’m doing my a level maths exam tomorrow- and I’ve done all the past papers and got all the questions right, I’ll feel very confident on the day on the exam, if I haven’t done any revision and did bad in class, I won’t feel confident at all. I can’t just be confident without something to back that up

It’s no different with women- if you’re a chad and have women compliment your looks constantly , you can go out to a bar and be confident you can pull or at least be received in a positive manner . If you’re a man who’s constently rejected there’s no way to be confident in the same scenario