Confidence is bullshit, but low neuroticism and self consciousness is

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No one cares how confident you are. If anything, they wish you had less confidence. Humility is generally more likeable.

What actually matters is neuroticism and selfconsciousness. Being highly inhibited and negative makes people come off weird

They're delayed. You can see the wheels turning in their head, but they can't act. It weirds people out. It makes one either way too quiet or too tryhard. They can never match the vibe. They assume they're not good enough and bad things are going to happen, so they have to run a million simulations of what could happen before they act. I can sense these pepole instantaneously and it's immediately offputting. It's like a -2 to SMV.
 
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they have to run a million simulations of what could happen before they act
Yeah this is literally me every time I get asked something in front of a group of people
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i do it on purpose
to push subhumans away
 
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bad genes = negative external reinforcement from peers
this leads you to triple guess yourself at all times and assume youre not good enough thus the action youre going to take may result in a bad outcome
so now youre a high inhib, self conscious, neurotic loser

its just an indicator for bad genes
 
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I can sense these pepole instantaneously and it's immediately offputting. It's like a -2 to SMV.

org members must be an open book for you then
 
Yeah this is literally me every time I get asked something in front of a group of people
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Yeah, I run into colleagues or acquaintances like this and it's like they can't have smalltalk without calculating the last digit of pi. Makes everything weird and awkward. Can't imagine how unattractive this is to women.
 
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There’s a balance. With me I either say the first thing that comes to my head (jestermaxxed) or go AFK irl for five minutes. You can’t spend too long formulating responses but you still have to think before you speak otherwise you won’t make sense and humiliate yourself

I’m just slow, high inhib and self-conscious af tbh. I tend to stare at people I’ve spoken to before and if I see them with other people I tend to avoid approaching them. Especially foids. Also I struggle with opening conversation naturally, other people have to open topics or there will be an awkward silence

Even on these forums I tend to re-edit posts and avoid posting stuff in fear of backlash.
 
There’s a balance. With me I either say the first thing that comes to my head (jestermaxxed) or go AFK irl for five minutes. You can’t spend too long formulating responses but you still have to think before you speak otherwise you won’t make sense and humiliate yourself

I’m just slow, high inhib and self-conscious af tbh. I tend to stare at people I’ve spoken to before and if I see them with other people I tend to avoid approaching them. Especially foids. Also I struggle with opening conversation naturally, other people have to open topics or there will be an awkward silence

Even on these forums I tend to re-edit posts and avoid posting stuff in fear of backlash.
It's truly over for your neurotransmitters if you're too high inhib to hit post here
 
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It's truly over for your neurotransmitters if you're too high inhib to hit post here
It’s giga over. I still have to ascend somehow though.
 
No one cares how confident you are. If anything, they wish you had less confidence. Humility is generally more likeable.

What actually matters is neuroticism and selfconsciousness. Being highly inhibited and negative makes people come off weird

They're delayed. You can see the wheels turning in their head, but they can't act. It weirds people out. It makes one either way too quiet or too tryhard. They can never match the vibe. They assume they're not good enough and bad things are going to happen, so they have to run a million simulations of what could happen before they act. I can sense these pepole instantaneously and it's immediately offputting. It's like a -2 to SMV.
Tbh it's up for debate on how long you can wait before answering someone. The author of "How to make friends and influence people" suggests you can wait longer than you would expect, which would give you more time to formulate an appropriate response and avoid saying something stupid. On the other hand, some people argue you should always be natural with your speech and having to think before speaking makes you look aspie and non-NT. I'd say it's somewhere in the middle where a little thought can help avoid offending someone while you need to be talking and adding small comments in a group setting to show that you're part of the group.
 
Yeah, I run into colleagues or acquaintances like this and it's like they can't have smalltalk without calculating the last digit of pi.
I like pie. Strawberry cheesecake pie is the best type of pie 🥧.
 

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