Dating a girl who wants LTR until I get sex then ending it?

[SoberAndRetarded]

Went on a bumble date Monday, went great we made out a little, she’s saying she misses me already. I could do a fair amount better lookswise and she has no life pretty much, bad job, new to town no friends, etc..

Asked her to come over after our date Monday but she said she likes to wait until she’s dating the guy. She’s coming over tomorrow night (just to watch tv, but we’ll probably do more not sex tho probably). I feel terrible leading a girl on multiple dates and stuff just to get some action. Am I a piece of shit for doing this?

 

[Xangsane]

Did she state she wants an LTR?
Find other girls. Don't make her jaded.

 

[SoberAndRetarded]

Did she state she wants an LTR?
Find other girls. Don't make her jaded.

On her profile she said LTR, she just told me she likes to be dating before doing anything.

 

[Xangsane]

On her profile she said LTR, she just told me she likes to be dating before doing anything.

Move on. Tell her you're not compatible.

 

[SoberAndRetarded]

Move on. Tell her you're not compatible.

so I’m being an asshole?

 

[Xangsane]

so I’m being an asshole?

Yes. Find a girl that "doesn't know what she wants" or says she is okay with casual.

 

[Xangsane]

Went on a bumble date Monday, went great we made out a little, she’s saying she misses me already. I could do a fair amount better lookswise and she has no life pretty much, bad job, new to town no friends, etc..

Asked her to come over after our date Monday but she said she likes to wait until she’s dating the guy. She’s coming over tomorrow night (just to watch tv, but we’ll probably do more not sex tho probably). I feel terrible leading a girl on multiple dates and stuff just to get some action. Am I a piece of shit for doing this?

I also strongly suspect this woman is 25 years old or older, and no more than MTB.

 

[Vain786]

no ur being a faggot

use her for sex and onto the next one its no big deal

 

[SoberAndRetarded]

no ur being a faggot

use her for sex and onto the next one its no big deal

@Xangsane this is the devil on my shoulder. I’ve already done what you suggested but with another chick and I kind of regret not having one or two more dates and smashing..

 

[SoberAndRetarded]

I also strongly suspect this woman is 25 years old or older, and no more than MTB.

She’s 23 ltb

 

[Xangsane]

@Xangsane this is the devil on my shoulder. I’ve already done what you suggested but with another chick and I kind of regret not having one or two more dates and smashing..

I suggest you ask her if she prefers to have a coffee/lunch date on a weekend afternoon, or a drinks date on a weekday (suggest a bar near your place). If she chooses the first option, just say "we're not compatible, we're not looking for the same things".

 

[Marsiere214]

so I’m being an asshole?

fuck her dont listen to xangsane
no waifu material is on bumble

 

[Xangsane]

She’s 23 ltb

And are you looksmatched with her or do you mog her?

 

[Dr. Bludy]

Lock her up in your basement or low t

 

[Xangsane]

@WishIwasChico

 

[SoberAndRetarded]

And are you looksmatched with her or do you mog her?

No I mog a bit

 

[BigJimsWornOutTires]

u really don't know how that ends for you, do you? carry on.

 

[SoberAndRetarded]

u really don't know how that ends for you, do you? carry on.

What feeling guilty? I’m running this by the org because my friends will probably have a similar reaction and their opinions matter

 

[Xangsane]

No I mog a bit

Not worth it.
Just tell her that "I'm not feeling it" and move on.

 

[SoberAndRetarded]

Not worth it.
Just tell her that "I'm not feeling it" and move on.

Isn’t this just low t cucked behavior though? The game is fuck by any legal means available yeah?

 

[Xangsane]

Isn’t this just low t cucked behavior though? The game is fuck by any legal means available yeah?

Just be honest and tell her.

 

[Deleted member 24278]

Use her for sex and block her

 

[SoberAndRetarded]

Use her for sex and block her

What do you think about the other guys in here telling me I shouldn’t?

 

[SoberAndRetarded]

.

 

[SoberAndRetarded]

Just be honest and tell her.

I’ll see how it goes tomorrow night, she’s the one that wanted to come over to my place at night (I told her she can come over whenever)

 

[Xangsane]

I’ll see how it goes tomorrow night, she’s the one that wanted to come over to my place at night (I told her she can come over whenever)

She doesn't know what she wants then.

 

[Deleted member 24278]

What do you think about the other guys in here telling me I shouldn’t?

Don't care just use her for sex then claim you don't see this going anywhere

 

[Deleted member 23114]

Am I a piece of shit for doing this?

No. I'm too tired to write why and gonns go to sleep but you are not. Feel free to treat her as 'muh queen' etc. but don't then moan when all your 'goodness' isn't respected or valued and she drops you like a hat once she sees someone better.

If she wants to have sex with you, that is her choice, you did not force her and just because you have sex with her doesn't mean she is entitled to you to keep talking to her. JUST like if you take a girl on a date and spend lots on dinner etc. you are not entitled to fuck her. Play these bitches at their own game and don't get fucking burned.

Don't feel pity for these women as they certainly, if the circumstances were to arise, won't for you....

You will learn the hard way with this mentality I promise you.

 

[Xangsane]

@FastBananaCEO

 

[80iq]

use her like how she used me for homework

 

[SoberAndRetarded]

use her like how she used me for homework

Im really inexperienced with this stuff so I’m asking for opinions. I don’t want to regret doing something shitty to her or fucking her up for even a little while. She’s sweet and in a vulnerable place rn. If she shows any interest in banging I’m all over it but tomorrow night im just going to hangout with her and watch a movie and lay with eachother

 

[SoberAndRetarded]

No. I'm too tired to write why and gonns go to sleep but you are not. Feel free to treat her as 'muh queen' etc. but don't then moan when all your 'goodness' isn't respected or valued and she drops you like a hat once she sees someone better.

If she wants to have sex with you, that is her choice, you did not force her and just because you have sex with her doesn't mean she is entitled to you to keep talking to her. JUST like if you take a girl on a date and spend lots on dinner etc. you are not entitled to fuck her. Play these bitches at their own game and don't get fucking burned.

Don't feel pity for these women as they certainly, if the circumstances were to arise, won't for you....

You will learn the hard way with this mentality I promise you.

Thanks this makes sense

 

[DarkLoner94]

"Am I a piece of shit for doing this?" Nope your not

 

[SoberAndRetarded]

Just be honest and tell her.

Couldn’t do it. Tonight she came over we’re lying in my bed making out and then she starts talking about how she is looking only for LTR and asked me what I wanted and I was honest about it. W.e still got to feel her up so it’s not all a waste. I 100% could have smashed if I said I was looking for LTR but she’s too sweet. Anyways now she’s scolding me over text about it.

 

[Xangsane]

Couldn’t do it. Tonight she came over we’re lying in my bed making out and then she starts talking about how she is looking only for LTR and asked me what I wanted and I was honest about it. W.e still got to feel her up so it’s not all a waste. I 100% could have smashed if I said I was looking for LTR but she’s too sweet. Anyways now she’s scolding me over text about it.

Glad you left her alone and didn't lead her on.
What is she saying?

 

[SoberAndRetarded]

Glad you left her alone and didn't lead her on.
What is she saying?

She’s saying I did lead her on, but it’s only the second time we’ve met in person and in the span of mon-weds. I could have lied to her and fucked I’m sure of it. It was for the best, she liked me way more than I liked her so she’s upset. I feel a small degree of guilt for even having her over knowing i didnt want an LTR. This is the same thing that happened to me two months ago with another LTB, I could lie and nut but I have sympathy for them…

 

[Xangsane]

She’s saying I did lead her on, but it’s only the second time we’ve met in person and in the span of mon-weds. I could have lied to her and fucked I’m sure of it. It was for the best, she liked me way more than I liked her so she’s upset. I feel a small degree of guilt for even having her over knowing i didnt want an LTR. This is the same thing that happened to me two months ago with another LTB, I could lie and nut but I have sympathy for them…

I'm glad you did what you did. Always make sure to ask the girl what she wants, and if there's a strong indication she wants an LTR, let her go.

 

[SoberAndRetarded]

I'm glad you did what you did. Always make sure to ask the girl what she wants, and if there's a strong indication she wants an LTR, let her go.

Why is it every girl I match with only wants LTRs and not casual sex? Is it a “vibe” that chicks pick up even from the first few messages that they can demand a relationship before sex?

 

[Xangsane]

Why is it every girl I match with only wants LTRs and not casual sex? Is it a “vibe” that chicks pick up even from the first few messages that they can demand a relationship before sex?

They probably see you as a safer option.

 

[PrinceLuenLeoncur]

so I’m being an asshole?

You are but… FUCK HER DHES A DUMB CUNT CHAD ONLY CUNT GO FUCK HER IN HER PUSSY AND BLOCK HER AFTER

 

[SoberAndRetarded]

They probably see you as a safer option.

But I Mogged this chick. I just got the vibe from this chick when she would say “I miss you” “I’m so excited to see you tonight” that I was not the safe option

 

[Xangsane]

But I Mogged this chick. I just got the vibe from this chick when she would say “I miss you” “I’m so excited to see you tonight” that I was not the safe option

She probably saw you as a safer option for LTR after probably getting her heart broken by a HTN+

 

[SoberAndRetarded]

She probably saw you as a safer option for LTR after probably getting her heart broken by a HTN+

I doubt that last part. I could easily have led her on and broken her heart. It’s just happened to her too many times I guess.

 

[Deleted member 21661]

What do you think about the other guys in here telling me I shouldn’t?

Xangsane is a cuck. She's a whore, she'd fuck you ASAP if you were chad. Just do what you have to do imo.

 

[PrinceLuenLeoncur]

No. I'm too tired to write why and gonns go to sleep but you are not. Feel free to treat her as 'muh queen' etc. but don't then moan when all your 'goodness' isn't respected or valued and she drops you like a hat once she sees someone better.

If she wants to have sex with you, that is her choice, you did not force her and just because you have sex with her doesn't mean she is entitled to you to keep talking to her. JUST like if you take a girl on a date and spend lots on dinner etc. you are not entitled to fuck her. Play these bitches at their own game and don't get fucking burned.

Don't feel pity for these women as they certainly, if the circumstances were to arise, won't for you....

You will learn the hard way with this mentality I promise you.

Trust me everything you said down to a T Is correct and what I was gonna write congratulations based

 

[Xangsane]

I doubt that last part. I could easily have led her on and broken her heart. It’s just happened to her too many times I guess.

Please make sure it doesn't happen again.
Have you tried apps purely geared for casual sex, such as Tinder?

 

[Deleted member 21661]

No. I'm too tired to write why and gonns go to sleep but you are not. Feel free to treat her as 'muh queen' etc. but don't then moan when all your 'goodness' isn't respected or valued and she drops you like a hat once she sees someone better.

If she wants to have sex with you, that is her choice, you did not force her and just because you have sex with her doesn't mean she is entitled to you to keep talking to her. JUST like if you take a girl on a date and spend lots on dinner etc. you are not entitled to fuck her. Play these bitches at their own game and don't get fucking burned.

Don't feel pity for these women as they certainly, if the circumstances were to arise, won't for you....

You will learn the hard way with this mentality I promise you.

EXACTLY.
Idk why @Xangsane is defending her or trying to get you to support her. She knows exactly what she's doing. You think that she doesn't lead on and use guys? You think that if you were chad, she wouldn't fuck you?
Jfl at respecting women like this anymore. They're all whores.

 

[Xangsane]

EXACTLY.
Idk why @Xangsane is defending her or trying to get you to support her. She knows exactly what she's doing. You think that she doesn't lead on and use guys? You think that if you were chad, she wouldn't fuck you?
Jfl at respecting women like this anymore. They're all whores.

She would have jumped on him if he were Chadlite or Chad.

 

[SoberAndRetarded]

Xangsane is a cuck. She's a whore, she'd fuck you ASAP if you were chad. Just do what you have to do imo.

She kept saying how handsome and cute I was so I don’t think it was an attraction thing. She also sperged out when I answered the door and said “he what’s up how are you doing?” She thought I called her Alyssa (but I didn’t 100%)

 

[Deleted member 21661]

She kept saying how handsome and cute I was so I don’t think it was an attraction thing. She also sperged out when I answered the door and said “he what’s up how are you doing?” She thought I called her Alyssa (but I didn’t 100%)

She probably recognized that you mogged her then, but there's still a difference between that and chad.
Regardless, I don't think you should really have any sympathy towards her. Unless she's a virgin, she 100% did the same thing
Like, no matter what she says, this is the aftermath of her being a whore and rejecting her looksmatch. Especially if you're better looking.