Dating outside of your social circle is a waste of time if you are not good looking

[TheVoidInside]

Dating outside of your social circle e.g online dating, cold approaching, clubs, festivals etc. This stuff does not work if you are not good looking.

The reason it doesnt work is because "dating" isnt what it used to be. Back in the day, say in the early 2000s, dates had weight to them.
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Women wouldnt go out with someone they didn't like. Hence why when a guy landed a date, he would be cheering about it because it was most likely gonna be a slay.

Nowdays, with social media and dating apps, women can get "dates" like air. And just as easily she was able to meet you through the app, she can, with the same ease, "unmeet" you.

Because you have zero leverage over a woman you meet off a dating app. You are as expendable as a cigarette. And women are very aware of this so, they will have sex with the good looking guys while keeping the less attractive guys as simps or even worse, just ghost them after the first date. No costs whatsover.

You could even make the argument that average looking guys with girlfriends, had their girlfriends saw them on Tinder, they would either swipe left on them or go out with them once and then ghost them.

Meeting girls off social circles is the safest bet for an unattractive guy because she will either like you or not. She can't ghost you, she can't unmeet you, so she will have to be cautious if she agrees to spend time alone with you.

And if you don't have social circles then its basically over. Social circles aren't a panacea either since its possibly that there isn't a single attractive girl in them let alone that is not taken already.

 

[FrenchareMedCucks]

Social circle is also a scam you need to spend time, be NT, spend 4000€+ at least per year to do Normies hobbies like vacation, festival

And as a newcomer all the male orbiters will trash talk you since they are all on the same single chick for a long time

 

[TheVoidInside]

Social circle is also a scam you need to spend time, be NT, spend 4000€+ at least per year to do Normies hobbies like vacation, festival

And as a newcomer all the male orbiters will trash talk you since they are all on the same single chick for a long time

still your only viable choice if sub 6psl

 

[Deleted member 16280]

Sounds about right. People are lonelier than ever. And also bored. So a girl texts you back or agreed to a date knowing she doesn’t like you. She just wants something to do. This really is bad for everyone but it’s where we are as a society.

 

[TheVoidInside]

. So a girl texts you back or agreed to a date knowing she doesn’t like you. She just wants something to do.

pretty much how things were with all the 10 girls i went out with. and the worst offender ws my old itis who agreed meeting me a second time despite not being attracted to me.

 

[girthygirt]

still your only viable choice if sub 6psl

not sub 6 psl thats closing in on chadlite id say anyone under mid htn

 

[TheVoidInside]

not sub 6 psl thats closing in on chadlite id say anyone under mid htn

cope rating scale

 

[girthygirt]

cope rating scale

ur the one who used psl bro not me

 

[Clown Show]

"Dates" don't exist in 2025.

It's either Chad ordering a foid to his house for a quick and selfish slay or subchad simping to oblivion for some foid in his social circle for a very uncertain chance of betabuxxing cuck ltr occurring.

 

[TheVoidInside]

ur the one who used psl bro not me

i was on lookism, you werent

 

[TheVoidInside]

"Dates" don't exist in 2025.

It's either Chad ordering a foid to his house for a quick and selfish slay or subchad simping to oblivion for some foid in his social circle for a very uncertain chance of betabuxxing cuck ltr occurring.

the world is black and white after all

 

[girthygirt]

i was on lookism, you werent

u sure got me there

 

[160cmcurry]

that's usually how people who at least slightly meet the looks threshold get their dates, they meet within social circles, assuming that social circle has women in it. if you didn't have any of that growing up, it's over. your high school years are the most important for your development. they shape your adult life and determine what you'll go on to do. if you have a dead instagram or snap account with barely any engagement and just random people you don’t even know, it's over. people who graduate straight out of high school already rack up hundreds or even thousands of followers. if your social media isn’t like that and it's not some shit meme account just get rid of it. you’re not some top 5% secret chad who's a 'cool mysterious guy' for having a low social media presence, you’re just a fucking loser

 

[TheVoidInside]

if you have a dead instagram or snap account with barely any engagement and just random people you don’t even know, it's over.

literally my instagram lol. i dont know a single one of my followers

people who graduate straight out of high school already rack up hundreds or even thousands of followers.

too bad instagram didnt exist when i was in HS

you’re not some top 5% secret chad who's a 'cool mysterious guy' for having a low social media presence, you’re just a fucking loser

im a worothelss loser

 

[Nick.Harte]

Meeting girls off social circles is the safest bet for an unattractive guy

The girls you would be meeting in social circles have dating apps installed on their phones.

If you’re unattractive, it’s over

 

[Nick.Harte]

im a worothelss loser

Same

 

[TheVoidInside]

The girls you would be meeting in social circles have dating apps installed on their phones.

If you’re unattractive, it’s over

how can we compete???

 

[Nick.Harte]

how can we compete???

We don’t

I’m rotting
Keep chasing your oneitis who’s getting fucked by an ethnic bad boi

 

[glaruz]

Dating foids in social circles is retarded and how every normie gets cucked and cheated on. You need to find some foid with 0 social life outside family and make sure it stays that way.

 

[glaruz]

that's usually how people who at least slightly meet the looks threshold get their dates, they meet within social circles, assuming that social circle has women in it. if you didn't have any of that growing up, it's over. your high school years are the most important for your development. they shape your adult life and determine what you'll go on to do. if you have a dead instagram or snap account with barely any engagement and just random people you don’t even know, it's over. people who graduate straight out of high school already rack up hundreds or even thousands of followers. if your social media isn’t like that and it's not some shit meme account just get rid of it. you’re not some top 5% secret chad who's a 'cool mysterious guy' for having a low social media presence, you’re just a fucking loser

And all of them later get cucked. Not to mention all the effort which the other user above mentioned. JFL and being a clown for months just to get used up leftovers from the so called "social circle". And btw, there are always winners and losers so in that pack you have a bunch of losers who get nothing and later leave the group, while the women they like get fucked by the other men. Normieland is a joke.

 

[TheVoidInside]

Keep chasing your oneitis who’s getting fucked by an ethnic bad boi

and just as the day was gonna end without remembering that...

 

[Deleted member 16280]

And all of them later get cucked. Not to mention all the effort which the other user above mentioned. JFL and being a clown for months just to get used up leftovers from the so called "social circle". And btw, there are always winners and losers so in that pack you have a bunch of losers who get nothing and later leave the group, while the women they like get fucked by the other men. Normieland is a joke.

They hated Jesus, for he spoke the truth.

 

[BadLuck7892]

Dating outside of your social circle e.g online dating, cold approaching, clubs, festivals etc. This stuff does not work if you are not good looking.

The reason it doesnt work is because "dating" isnt what it used to be. Back in the day, say in the early 2000s, dates had weight to them.
'
Women wouldnt go out with someone they didn't like. Hence why when a guy landed a date, he would be cheering about it because it was most likely gonna be a slay.

Nowdays, with social media and dating apps, women can get "dates" like air. And just as easily she was able to meet you through the app, she can, with the same ease, "unmeet" you.

Because you have zero leverage over a woman you meet off a dating app. You are as expendable as a cigarette. And women are very aware of this so, they will have sex with the good looking guys while keeping the less attractive guys as simps or even worse, just ghost them after the first date. No costs whatsover.

You could even make the argument that average looking guys with girlfriends, had their girlfriends saw them on Tinder, they would either swipe left on them or go out with them once and then ghost them.

Meeting girls off social circles is the safest bet for an unattractive guy because she will either like you or not. She can't ghost you, she can't unmeet you, so she will have to be cautious if she agrees to spend time alone with you.

And if you don't have social circles then its basically over. Social circles aren't a panacea either since its possibly that there isn't a single attractive girl in them let alone that is not taken already.

Granted, my experience with getting a woman online is 10+ years old.

That being said, I've had better luck getting a woman online than through social circles.

I had somewhat of a social circle in college. Yet my social circle didn't help me get a foid (I graduated college in 2012). All 6 foids I nailed in college, I met online.

After college, I haven't really had a social circle at all. Yet I managed to get a girlfriend that lasted several months through online dating shortly after college. Then, about 2 years after college, I landed an affair with a married woman I met online.

In addition to the fact these stories took place 10+ years ago, there's also another possible explanation for why I've done better through online methods than through a social circle: My looks aren't the problem. My autism is the problem. With online dating/hookup platforms, your picture is the main thing a foid pays attention to.

On the other hand, even though I never informed my social circle in college of my autism, they could at least tell I was socially inept. No foid wants to get with the socially inept guy from her social circle.

With my good looks, combined with the fact my autism isn't as noticeable online, I can (or at least could) do somewhat well through online methods. Yeah, my foids I met online generally didn't last long (because they picked up on my social ineptitude once we met in person)...but I could at least get something from these online foids (unlike my social circle foids)

 

[TheVoidInside]

Granted, my experience with getting a woman online is 10+ years old.

That being said, I've had better luck getting a woman online than through social circles.

I had somewhat of a social circle in college. Yet my social circle didn't help me get a foid (I graduated college in 2012). All 6 foids I nailed in college, I met online.

After college, I haven't really had a social circle at all. Yet I managed to get a girlfriend that lasted several months through online dating shortly after college. Then, about 2 years after college, I landed an affair with a married woman I met online.

In addition to the fact these stories took place 10+ years ago, there's also another possible explanation for why I've done better through online methods than through a social circle: My looks aren't the problem. My autism is the problem. With online dating/hookup platforms, your picture is the main thing a foid pays attention to.

On the other hand, even though I never informed my social circle in college of my autism, they could at least tell I was socially inept. No foid wants to get with the socially inept guy from her social circle.

With my good looks, combined with the fact my autism isn't as noticeable online, I can (or at least could) do somewhat well through online methods. Yeah, my foids I met online generally didn't last long (because they picked up on my social ineptitude once we met in person)...but I could at least get something from these online foids (unlike my social circle foids)

maybe this stuff doesnt work in my country ig

 

[BadLuck7892]

maybe this stuff doesnt work in my country ig

My online lays mainly came from Craigslist.

Craigslist doesn't allow sex ads anymore (and I'm not sure if Craigslist was ever popular in Greece...if I recall, you're from Greece)

 

[TheVoidInside]

My online lays mainly came from Craigslist.

Craigslist doesn't allow sex ads anymore (and I'm not sure if Craigslist was ever popular in Greece...if I recall, you're from Greece)

this stuff doesnt exist in greece. tinder only