Dating outside of your social circle is a waste of time if you are not good looking

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Dating outside of your social circle e.g online dating, cold approaching, clubs, festivals etc. This stuff does not work if you are not good looking.

The reason it doesnt work is because "dating" isnt what it used to be. Back in the day, say in the early 2000s, dates had weight to them.
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Women wouldnt go out with someone they didn't like. Hence why when a guy landed a date, he would be cheering about it because it was most likely gonna be a slay.

Nowdays, with social media and dating apps, women can get "dates" like air. And just as easily she was able to meet you through the app, she can, with the same ease, "unmeet" you.

Because you have zero leverage over a woman you meet off a dating app. You are as expendable as a cigarette. And women are very aware of this so, they will have sex with the good looking guys while keeping the less attractive guys as simps or even worse, just ghost them after the first date. No costs whatsover.

You could even make the argument that average looking guys with girlfriends, had their girlfriends saw them on Tinder, they would either swipe left on them or go out with them once and then ghost them.

Meeting girls off social circles is the safest bet for an unattractive guy because she will either like you or not. She can't ghost you, she can't unmeet you, so she will have to be cautious if she agrees to spend time alone with you.

And if you don't have social circles then its basically over. Social circles aren't a panacea either since its possibly that there isn't a single attractive girl in them let alone that is not taken already.
 
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Social circle is also a scam you need to spend time, be NT, spend 4000€+ at least per year to do Normies hobbies like vacation, festival

And as a newcomer all the male orbiters will trash talk you since they are all on the same single chick for a long time
 
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Social circle is also a scam you need to spend time, be NT, spend 4000€+ at least per year to do Normies hobbies like vacation, festival

And as a newcomer all the male orbiters will trash talk you since they are all on the same single chick for a long time
still your only viable choice if sub 6psl
 
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Sounds about right. People are lonelier than ever. And also bored. So a girl texts you back or agreed to a date knowing she doesn’t like you. She just wants something to do. This really is bad for everyone but it’s where we are as a society.
 
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. So a girl texts you back or agreed to a date knowing she doesn’t like you. She just wants something to do.
pretty much how things were with all the 10 girls i went out with. and the worst offender ws my old itis who agreed meeting me a second time despite not being attracted to me.
 
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"Dates" don't exist in 2025.

It's either Chad ordering a foid to his house for a quick and selfish slay or subchad simping to oblivion for some foid in his social circle for a very uncertain chance of betabuxxing cuck ltr occurring.
 
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"Dates" don't exist in 2025.

It's either Chad ordering a foid to his house for a quick and selfish slay or subchad simping to oblivion for some foid in his social circle for a very uncertain chance of betabuxxing cuck ltr occurring.
the world is black and white after all
 
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that's usually how people who at least slightly meet the looks threshold get their dates, they meet within social circles, assuming that social circle has women in it. if you didn't have any of that growing up, it's over. your high school years are the most important for your development. they shape your adult life and determine what you'll go on to do. if you have a dead instagram or snap account with barely any engagement and just random people you don’t even know, it's over. people who graduate straight out of high school already rack up hundreds or even thousands of followers. if your social media isn’t like that and it's not some shit meme account just get rid of it. you’re not some top 5% secret chad who's a 'cool mysterious guy' for having a low social media presence, you’re just a fucking loser
 
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if you have a dead instagram or snap account with barely any engagement and just random people you don’t even know, it's over.
literally my instagram lol. i dont know a single one of my followers

people who graduate straight out of high school already rack up hundreds or even thousands of followers.
too bad instagram didnt exist when i was in HS

you’re not some top 5% secret chad who's a 'cool mysterious guy' for having a low social media presence, you’re just a fucking loser
im a worothelss loser :feelswhy::feelswhy::feelswhy:
 
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Meeting girls off social circles is the safest bet for an unattractive guy
The girls you would be meeting in social circles have dating apps installed on their phones.

If you’re unattractive, it’s over
 
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The girls you would be meeting in social circles have dating apps installed on their phones.

If you’re unattractive, it’s over
how can we compete???
 
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Dating foids in social circles is retarded and how every normie gets cucked and cheated on. You need to find some foid with 0 social life outside family and make sure it stays that way.
 
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that's usually how people who at least slightly meet the looks threshold get their dates, they meet within social circles, assuming that social circle has women in it. if you didn't have any of that growing up, it's over. your high school years are the most important for your development. they shape your adult life and determine what you'll go on to do. if you have a dead instagram or snap account with barely any engagement and just random people you don’t even know, it's over. people who graduate straight out of high school already rack up hundreds or even thousands of followers. if your social media isn’t like that and it's not some shit meme account just get rid of it. you’re not some top 5% secret chad who's a 'cool mysterious guy' for having a low social media presence, you’re just a fucking loser
And all of them later get cucked. Not to mention all the effort which the other user above mentioned. JFL and being a clown for months just to get used up leftovers from the so called "social circle". And btw, there are always winners and losers so in that pack you have a bunch of losers who get nothing and later leave the group, while the women they like get fucked by the other men. Normieland is a joke.
 
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Keep chasing your oneitis who’s getting fucked by an ethnic bad boi
and just as the day was gonna end without remembering that...
 
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And all of them later get cucked. Not to mention all the effort which the other user above mentioned. JFL and being a clown for months just to get used up leftovers from the so called "social circle". And btw, there are always winners and losers so in that pack you have a bunch of losers who get nothing and later leave the group, while the women they like get fucked by the other men. Normieland is a joke.
They hated Jesus, for he spoke the truth.
 

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