TheVoidInside
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Dating outside of your social circle e.g online dating, cold approaching, clubs, festivals etc. This stuff does not work if you are not good looking.
The reason it doesnt work is because "dating" isnt what it used to be. Back in the day, say in the early 2000s, dates had weight to them.
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Women wouldnt go out with someone they didn't like. Hence why when a guy landed a date, he would be cheering about it because it was most likely gonna be a slay.
Nowdays, with social media and dating apps, women can get "dates" like air. And just as easily she was able to meet you through the app, she can, with the same ease, "unmeet" you.
Because you have zero leverage over a woman you meet off a dating app. You are as expendable as a cigarette. And women are very aware of this so, they will have sex with the good looking guys while keeping the less attractive guys as simps or even worse, just ghost them after the first date. No costs whatsover.
You could even make the argument that average looking guys with girlfriends, had their girlfriends saw them on Tinder, they would either swipe left on them or go out with them once and then ghost them.
Meeting girls off social circles is the safest bet for an unattractive guy because she will either like you or not. She can't ghost you, she can't unmeet you, so she will have to be cautious if she agrees to spend time alone with you.
And if you don't have social circles then its basically over. Social circles aren't a panacea either since its possibly that there isn't a single attractive girl in them let alone that is not taken already.
The reason it doesnt work is because "dating" isnt what it used to be. Back in the day, say in the early 2000s, dates had weight to them.
'
Women wouldnt go out with someone they didn't like. Hence why when a guy landed a date, he would be cheering about it because it was most likely gonna be a slay.
Nowdays, with social media and dating apps, women can get "dates" like air. And just as easily she was able to meet you through the app, she can, with the same ease, "unmeet" you.
Because you have zero leverage over a woman you meet off a dating app. You are as expendable as a cigarette. And women are very aware of this so, they will have sex with the good looking guys while keeping the less attractive guys as simps or even worse, just ghost them after the first date. No costs whatsover.
You could even make the argument that average looking guys with girlfriends, had their girlfriends saw them on Tinder, they would either swipe left on them or go out with them once and then ghost them.
Meeting girls off social circles is the safest bet for an unattractive guy because she will either like you or not. She can't ghost you, she can't unmeet you, so she will have to be cautious if she agrees to spend time alone with you.
And if you don't have social circles then its basically over. Social circles aren't a panacea either since its possibly that there isn't a single attractive girl in them let alone that is not taken already.
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