Discussing solutions to loneliness as an autistic person

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I make alot of thread about the NTpill, and that no Timmy you're not lonely/friendless because your philtrum is slightly longer than average but because you're fucking autistic. And you were probably too autistic to tell that as well.

Well there's not many options, I promised a member here a solution based thread after he requested it. But there's not too many options, it's mostly over. But here goes:

  • Make friends with autistic people (this might not work because autistic people tend to be social recluse and might not want to hang out. Especially with newer people. Also it's a spectrum, a high functioning won't get along with a low functioning autist)
  • Make friends with adhd people (should work, but alot of them can't be trusted. They're more neurotypical than you, so they might try to take advantage of you. They might really be friends with you for your money or stuff like that, but it's not always the case)
  • Make friends with other loners, but the mentally ill ones. (This is your safest bet, although you may not enjoy the company of people who are extremely timid or shy you might have no other options in this case) and final one:
  • Worst option: Make friends with NT people (literal worst thing you could do, you will be the punching bag of the group. People who went to normal school while being autistic know, and can tell you how it feels. And in the end you will turn out lonely anyway, because they weren't really your friends. They had pity on you, but you can't donate friendships this is not some fundraiser. Friendship is not a charity, if it's not an equal opportunity for both and that persons still keeps talking with you be suspicious of them.)

TL;DR; FOR THE LAST ONE;
DON'T EVER ENTER A RELATIONSHIP WITH A POWER IMBALANCE, DON'T BE FRIENDS WITH PEOPLE STRONGER THAN YOU. AND DON'T TRUST PEOPLE WHO HAVE NOTHING TO GAIN BY DOING YOU A FAVOR, BUT STILL DO YOU A FAVOR BECAUSE THEY MIGHT WANT TO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF YOU.
 
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High IQ + BOTB worthy
 
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no Timmy you're not lonely/friendless because your philtrum is slightly longer than average but because you're fucking autistic. And you were probably too autistic to tell that as well.

ROFL
 
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Aspie checkin in, don’t agree with the last point of avoiding NT people, though hanging out with NT dudes is rough cause you see how “lit” there lives are, you can learn how to imitate them slowly, and they introduce you to women (this hasn’t worked for me as women are still chadlite+ only)

Making friends with loners has always worked for me.
 
adhd doesn't cause high inhib, do you have any autistic relatives?
It doesn't cause it but having it in conjunction makes me giga non nt. I've got 2 cousins with aspergers.
 
I don't know if this is what you want but if you only want to socialixe more you can also reach out to your family.
 
Learn to behave like normie dogs.
 
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Have you tried buying a sex doll?
 
no solution its over for males if they are high inhib no social circle and still virgin at 20
 
no solution its over for males if they are high inhib no social circle and still virgin at 20
agreed, the sooner you realize it the better.

but by high inhib u mean autism right? or something else idk
 
the life expectancy of autists is so low for a reason I'm 21 the only way to cope with loneliness boredom and the eternal void would be to become rich and be able to do whatever I want but my severe executive dysfunction and adhd will never allow that I'll just rot in the basement forever

very envious of the japanese hikikomoris they don't seem to get that feeling they just cope with their hobbies their anime their videogames and they seem pretty happy it's a western thing
 
the life expectancy of autists is so low for a reason I'm 21 the only way to cope with loneliness boredom and the eternal void would be to become rich and be able to do whatever I want but my severe executive dysfunction and adhd will never allow that I'll just rot in the basement forever

very envious of the japanese hikikomoris they don't seem to get that feeling they just cope with their hobbies their anime their videogames and they seem pretty happy it's a western thing
the pressure in the west to be successful is quite deligirent but you cannot ignore the fact this largely stems from the expectations of strict parents, strict capitalist culture, education driven society.

in japan they might not have the same culture or life but the fact of the matter is that they still have strict parents, strict culture and even they have a bottom of the hierarchy and dont think those people are happy
 
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the life expectancy of autists is so low for a reason I'm 21 the only way to cope with loneliness boredom and the eternal void would be to become rich and be able to do whatever I want but my severe executive dysfunction and adhd will never allow that I'll just rot in the basement forever

very envious of the japanese hikikomoris they don't seem to get that feeling they just cope with their hobbies their anime their videogames and they seem pretty happy it's a western thing
and i also have adhd and autism and in the same pinch, i feel like i will never accomplish anything in life. even making a cup of tea is hard, how am i gonna get a stable career or anything? so my mind tells me im better of rotting
 
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the only friends i have are ones i can talk about niche topics with and ones who enjoy my adhd quirks
 
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how bad is ur autism level?
not diagnosed but i get really obsessed with some topics especially obscure ones and i like repeating the same words, social wise i do not like making friends i actively ignore ppl if they try to get close
 
not diagnosed but i get really obsessed with some topics especially obscure ones and i like repeating the same words, social wise i do not like making friends i actively ignore ppl if they try to get close
sounds similar to me, except i even try to ignore my old friends because some days i just dont wanna hang out, although i feel terrible about it.

you know atleast our autism isnt on the level where we cant even take a shit by ourselves
 
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sounds similar to me, except i even try to ignore my old friends because some days i just dont wanna hang out, although i feel terrible about it.

you know atleast our autism isnt on the level where we cant even take a shit by ourselves
yes that is relatable i hate making small talk, i just wish i could automatically talk about what i want w ppl
 
yes that is relatable i hate making small talk, i just wish i could automatically talk about what i want w ppl
whenever im sleep deprived my anxiety disappears and i can say whatever i want

my brain is too tired to have adhd hyperactive thoughts
 
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whenever im sleep deprived my anxiety disappears and i can say whatever i want

my brain is too tired to have adhd hyperactive thoughts
i also have that, i've found having a cold shower or doing something to distract you helps, coffee makes it worse
 
im tired of rejection, not worth the effort
it is worth it to try if u really think u have a connection w someone, and also if u are scared of rejection u should keep ur friends bc its hard to make new ones
 
Another day another cope.

Bro, do you really think this is the right forum for these type of conversations? If you have legit autism, meaning you can't string words together to form a coherent sentence in a non-monotonous voice while looking directly at a person's eyes...then yes it is OVER (unless you are chadlite/chad).
 
Can agree with the punching bag part. I don’t need NT friends to meet girls. I can raw knuckle it through cold approach and online dating.

Having friends never helped. For example, at the bar I’d talk to 2 girls with my nt friend and he’d take over, doing 90% of the talking. Then I just look weird and the number doesn’t text back
 

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