do women view self harm scars as ugly/repulsive?

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i have had a self harm habit for years now, and i have various cuts and burns on my shoulder and arm.
will women be disgusted by it if i have my shirt off around them, or is it not something to worry about?
and if it is repulsive, is there anything that can hide it?
 
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i have had a self harm habit for years now, and i have various cuts and burns on my shoulder and arm.
will women be disgusted by it if i have my shirt off around them, or is it not something to worry about?
and if it is repulsive, is there anything that can hide it?
self harm ofc yes means you are suicidal and hate your life
 
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It's repulsive, it shows you're suicidal, mentally ill to an extent, and depressed. They're going to feel weirded out and probably be shocked, this is a dumb ass question no offense though. Its not about it being ugly, but its about it being shocking and also mentally ill asf.
 
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is scarmaxxing the meta for 2026?
 
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Sad to hear that bro, hope you'll be able to kick the habit. I don't think it's a big deal from an aesthetic standpoint, but girls probably get turned off by it because it's a sign of mental weakness. But if it's in the past then it's not as big of a deal breaker.
 
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i have had a self harm habit for years now, and i have various cuts and burns on my shoulder and arm.
will women be disgusted by it if i have my shirt off around them, or is it not something to worry about?
and if it is repulsive, is there anything that can hide it?
only would be good if you told you fight a lion on a africa trip or something dont tell the truth to them they are evil bitches they dont care about your emotions only the bros (y)
 
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i have had a self harm habit for years now, and i have various cuts and burns on my shoulder and arm.
will women be disgusted by it if i have my shirt off around them, or is it not something to worry about?
and if it is repulsive, is there anything that can hide it?
You could easily cover it up with makeup
 
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Sad to hear that bro, hope you'll be able to kick the habit. I don't think it's a big deal from an aesthetic standpoint, but girls probably get turned off by it because it's a sign of mental weakness. But if it's in the past then it's not as big of a deal breaker.
appreciate it. so are you saying it’s not worth hiding or do you think i should cover it? quite a lot of the scars are pretty recent looking.
 
appreciate it. so are you saying it’s not worth hiding or do you think i should cover it? quite a lot of the scars are pretty recent looking.
do this

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i have had a self harm habit for years now, and i have various cuts and burns on my shoulder and arm.
will women be disgusted by it if i have my shirt off around them, or is it not something to worry about?
and if it is repulsive, is there anything that can hide it?
Your Brain GIF
 
No benefit to self harm:lasereyes:
 

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appreciate it. so are you saying it’s not worth hiding or do you think i should cover it? quite a lot of the scars are pretty recent looking.
If you just wanna crack then just hide I'd say like what's the point, just turn the lights off and give her the dick. But if you're looking for a gf then idk man honestly.

Something I've always thought is that you shouldn't sell yourself short. Like if the first thing you say on the first date is "HI MY NAME IS HARDYY I CUT MYSELF" then that's stupid and will scare any reasonable girl away. But obviously you have to tell her that you've done SH before you two get serious. So just show her a really good time and how great of a guy you are like the 3 first dates or something, and then tell her about the SH. I don't think it's lying showing your good qualities before being honest with your bad qualities.
 
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I got them too but I tried to aim for some of them to be aesthetic obv most aren't but trust me if they aren't pertruding your'e good
 
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just find a mentally ill goth girl and bond together through your similarities. ez
 
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You can hide the scars with makeup if you ever do go shirtless in front of a girl depending on the girl they could be shocked maybe weirded out abit or they could just ignore it or try be supportive and ask about it
 
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If you feel you've moved past depression and self-harm, it would be better to tell the truth and say you got past a depressive time of your life. It might look bad to squeamish girls but if thats your worry just hide it with makeup, it wont look "repulsive" if they know the story behind it
 
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i have had a self harm habit for years now, and i have various cuts and burns on my shoulder and arm.
will women be disgusted by it if i have my shirt off around them, or is it not something to worry about?
and if it is repulsive, is there anything that can hide it?
Can’t really hide it without long sleeves but you can get rid of the scars permanently with multiple sessions of laser
 
i have had a self harm habit for years now, and i have various cuts and burns on my shoulder and arm.
will women be disgusted by it if i have my shirt off around them, or is it not something to worry about?
and if it is repulsive, is there anything that can hide it?
not only can they be ugly but it also shows the woman that you are suicidal and thus don't value life as much as a sane human should.
 
i have had a self harm habit for years now, and i have various cuts and burns on my shoulder and arm.
will women be disgusted by it if i have my shirt off around them, or is it not something to worry about?
and if it is repulsive, is there anything that can hide it?
No if you are chad
 
i have had a self harm habit for years now, and i have various cuts and burns on my shoulder and arm.
will women be disgusted by it if i have my shirt off around them, or is it not something to worry about?
and if it is repulsive, is there anything that can hide it?
depends on the type of women tbh
I can see a certain type of alt/emo girl almost fetishising it but they probably have bpd
but normie girls will probably range from not caring to being turned off by it depending on how gross it looks. don’t tell them its from SH its unbecoming for a man
 
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some lowk fw it, but tbh it also shows them who u are. off first impression too it can really make someone think of you in a different light than you want to be yk
 
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Self harm is a female tendency so yes it's a turn off unless the girl is mentally ill as well
 
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