Does anyone else fear never being understood?

[realsclera]

Not to be a total fucking downer but honestly I avoid relationships and many times friendship out of fear of being misunderstood. I feel like no matter how hard I try no one will ever understand what I’m feeling or be able to comprehend how I experience the world. I don’t know if I’m nd or not but has this happened to anyone else? Is this just because I’m a retarded teenager? Will I be like this forever and is there some way to help?

 

[hypergamousmoidinal]

i dont understand

 

[afroheadluke]

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[realsclera]

i dont understand

Ah okay

 

[Sycophant]

at some point you'll come to the conclusion that you shouldn't wear your thoughts on your wrists - and to maintain a baseline level of social interaction you need to develop both a social resilience and a likable facade.

seeking validation from an online forum where you cannot discern sincere from shitposting is entirely destructive to ur mental.

Using nd / aspi / covert narc as an excuse to act in a way that would cause others to consider behaviors you could otherwise just not do - activly attributes to your inability to feel connected. ERGO, dont do that



@Centurion_Hunter @lightswinning

thoughts on people using typical stereotypical "containers of behavior" to detach themselves from developing - obv if you're abused as a child you need some out, like some genuine coping mechanism to blunt the initial blow of being dysfunctional to some extent

 

[realsclera]

at some point you'll come to the conclusion that you shouldn't wear your thoughts on your wrists - and to maintain a baseline level of social interaction you need to develop both a social resilience and a likable facade.

seeking validation from an online forum where you cannot discern sincere from shitposting is entirely destructive to ur mental.

Using nd / aspi / covert narc as an excuse to act in a way that would cause others to consider behaviors you could otherwise just not do - activly attributes to your inability to feel connected. ERGO, dont do that

I appreciate your advice the biggest thing is I just don’t know where to start

 

[Sycophant]

I appreciate your advice the biggest thing is I just don’t know where to start

anecdotally - i was very similar but the raw things youve identified aren't problems themselves

1. first actually develop some stereotypical personality trait - a trope - that people can actually associated themselves with that is typically a normal thing / found in abundance
2. agency - have control over yourself, how you feel. if to any extent you slut yourself out for attention - act in ANY way that is out of character / or out of character of what you want to be, youre losing agency of yourself. people care about themselves, then they have a hierarchy for care of theres they associate with, if your entire personality is not-serious, do anything to make others laugh, would willingly self deprecate for a joke - get a handle on this.
3. agency - what people need to know about you. People who are desperate for friends often divulge every part of their lives, push every ugly fact about them first - dont do this. You're an onion of a person, if people are interested - allow them to peel of your layers and have time to adjust to any idiosyncrasies you have. NEVER tell them deep personal facts about yourself. You should always know more about them, then they know about you
4. acknowledge youre going to appear retarded - and lose all sentiment held for initial conversations. youre going to appear retarded, id hope you go in it with a "care less" attitude, then one that makes you appear shut off and antisocial.
5. groom yourself, be presentable. Shower, brush ur teeth, shave, skin care - as much as you dont care and despite common beliefs, everyone judges a book by its cover because its more convenient
   
   For more help, js go through my profile and look at some of my similar responses to people (rep me)
   
   check out https://looksmax.org/threads/ntmaxxing-friendmaxxing-thread.110011/ - good quality general advice
   
   also check out @luuk @ZenithZXV (ill think of more ppl later)

 

[ZenithZXV]

Not to be a total fucking downer but honestly I avoid relationships and many times friendship out of fear of being misunderstood.

Or is it because you are making friends and relationships who are normgroids/have normgroid traits, you will notice which one is a normgroid and which one is not.

I feel like no matter how hard I try no one will ever understand what I’m feeling or be able to comprehend how I experience the world.

I have experienced this too, sentience is an important part of the human nature, the more sentient you are, the more likely you are to be aware of what you are thinking/doing, these people live different lives compared to you, and they cannot comprehend your thoughts because they have a low sentience, no wonder why most normgroids never question their existence, sentience is similar to a cpu.

I don’t know if I’m nd or not but has this happened to anyone else?

This also happens to someone even with neurotypical traits, as long as they have a complex mind, their thoughts are incomprehensible to the average normgroid who never question their existence, they go to school, work more, betabuxx, procreate and that's it, they live on autopilot.

Is this just because I’m a retarded teenager?

No.

Will I be like this forever and is there some way to help?

The only thing you can do is to not express your thoughts to people with lower sentience/intelligence.

 

[stigmaboy]

bro i get that fear big time

it's rough when you feel like you're speaking a different language even when you're trying your best. sometimes i think we overthink how much people are actually dissecting us though, fr. most people are just in their own heads. developing that inner confidence kinda helps numb the sting if someone *does* miss the mark. and yeah, online forums can be a double-edged sword for sure.

have you tried focusing on just a few ppl u trust instead of everyone?

 

[Societal Reject]

You must have low IQ

 

[Softmax09]

at some point you'll come to the conclusion that you shouldn't wear your thoughts on your wrists - and to maintain a baseline level of social interaction you need to develop both a social resilience and a likable facade.

seeking validation from an online forum where you cannot discern sincere from shitposting is entirely destructive to ur mental.

Using nd / aspi / covert narc as an excuse to act in a way that would cause others to consider behaviors you could otherwise just not do - activly attributes to your inability to feel connected. ERGO, dont do that



@Centurion_Hunter @lightswinning

thoughts on people using typical stereotypical "containers of behavior" to detach themselves from developing - obv if you're abused as a child you need some out, like some genuine coping mechanism to blunt the initial blow of being dysfunctional to some extent

But developing a „likable Facade“ can’t be a solution bro