Dont alienate yourself from society

[Uglybrazilian]

Even if you are not NT keep in touch with whats happening out there, the music, social media etc, if you go full isolation when you try to socialize you'll feel like a complete outcast

It took me a while to understand this...when I finally began to socialize I felt like an alien, I didn't know any singer or song people would talk about, I didn't even know how to use Instagram properly jfl it was clear I was one of a kind which made me even more stressed out and nervous on social situations

Fortunately Im improving day by day, socializing more on work and meeting new people since I got a GF on february, I believe I'll finally overcome my social anxiety in like 2 or 3 years if I keep this pace

 

[Siberia_]

Would bundas grandes ignore you if you dont know the lyrics of funk songs?

 

[Growth Plate]

You don't tell me what to do, man.

 

[Adriana Lima]

Yeah im working on this too

 

[mogstar]

Yeah im working on this too

Even if you are not NT keep in touch with whats happening out there, the music, social media etc, if you go full isolation when you try to socialize you'll feel like a complete outcast

It took me a while to understand this...when I finally began to socialize I felt like an alien, I didn't know any singer or song people would talk about, I didn't even know how to use Instagram properly jfl it was clear I was one of a kind which made me even more stressed out and nervous on social situations

Fortunately Im improving day by day, socializing more on work and meeting new people since I got a GF on february, I believe I'll finally overcome my social anxiety in like 2 or 3 years if I keep this pace

 

[Deleted member 11748]

yeah I will pass on that

 

[Uglybrazilian]

Would bundas grandes ignore you if you dont know the lyrics of funk songs?

Not necessairily but its not good to feel alienated from people, it will probably make you even more stressed out if you are already socially anxious

 

[Deleted member 8853]

Cope
Face is everything
People are more approving of you because you have a gf now not of some random NT knowledge about everyday stuff you learned.

 

[CupOfCoffee]

I agree 100%. And people who disagree with you are legit hermits who've never left their house or talked to real people. It's absolutely humiliating to be in a social situation and be seen as the only weird person, at least be aware of basic stuff in music tv sports and know the basics of card games billiards abd shit like that, can make it so much easier to interact

 

[ChadFucksYourOneitis]

tbh , It's probably too late for me.
I've been living like a mountain monk for almost 6 years. I don't really know anything about Tiktok , instagram , influencers or any mainstream thingy. I've no idea how to initiate a conversation nor how to socialize properly. I'm awkward af in the social gathering. I couldn't even remember the last time I chatted romantically with a woman.

I'm the most outcast of all outcasts.

 

[ChadFucksYourOneitis]

My inferiority complex forces me to alienate myself from society.

-Being bullied and humiliated by "friends" and "teachers" all my school years for something I'm born with and have no control over.
-OCD , anxiety and being unable to understand and express facial emotions.
-Some major life failures
-Declining overall health

 

[Deleted member 2403]

Alienated by society, all this pressure give me anxiety (anxiety...)
Walk slow through the fire
Like, who gon' try us?

 

[Deleted member 6305]

Do you know what's being alienated?
Just take a step back and analyze things, average people are just trying to cope with their sad lifes with vile things, I'm not saying I'm 100% aware of the causalities of everything but it's obvious that blending with normies has nothing to do with knowing what they like.

 

[Beetlejuice]

true

 

[Uglybrazilian]

Do you know what's being alienated?
Just take a step back and analyze things, average people are just trying to cope with their sad lifes with vile things, I'm not saying I'm 100% aware of the causalities of everything but it's obvious that blending with normies has nothing to do with knowing what they like.

You shouldnt force yourself to like what normies like, but at least keep in touch with it so you wont feel a complete weirdo in social situations(which will make you even more anxious if you are prone to social anxiety)

Overcoming social anxiety its hard and we'll have to do things we dont like because thats how you get rid of a phobia, and being socially anxious is a bad thing for u 99% of the times

 

[Uglybrazilian]

I agree 100%. And people who disagree with you are legit hermits who've never left their house or talked to real people. It's absolutely humiliating to be in a social situation and be seen as the only weird person, at least be aware of basic stuff in music tv sports and know the basics of card games billiards abd shit like that, can make it so much easier to interact

Yeah, its not like you have to actually become like everyone, the point is to just be close enough to dont feel like an alien. Things will be way easier in the beginning if you dont feel like a complete outcast.

 

[Uglybrazilian]

My inferiority complex forces me to alienate myself from society.

-Being bullied and humiliated by "friends" and "teachers" all my school years for something I'm born with and have no control over.
-OCD , anxiety and being unable to understand and express facial emotions.
-Some major life failures
-Declining overall health

I was on a similar situation(except for the bullying), but things are getting better, its still hell on earth tbh, everyday is a battle for me(specially at work), but there is no way to overcome social phobia without actually exposing yourself and feeling this terrible feelings, its hard as fuark but its necessary

 

[Deleted member 6305]

You shouldnt force yourself to like what normies like, but at least keep in touch with it so you wont feel a complete weirdo in social situations(which will make you even more anxious if you are prone to social anxiety)

Overcoming social anxiety its hard and we'll have to do things we dont like because thats how you get rid of a phobia, and being socially anxious is a bad thing for u 99% of the times

I don't know... I never tried to be like others when I was new in some group of people, I literally had nothing in common with my friends and still we were friends because it you bring new things they'll start to expand their ideas and it's an exchange, you shouldn't just absorb everything.

 

[BigJimsWornOutTires]

Ugh. People. Sometimes I wonder, "Why people?" Why not talking elephants or conversational fish? Ugh. I may never fully understand this reality. And I'm okay with that.

 

[Uglybrazilian]

I don't know... I never tried to be like others when I was new in some group of people, I literally had nothing in common with my friends and still we were friends because it you bring new things they'll start to expand their ideas and it's an exchange, you shouldn't just absorb everything.

Its a good mindset, but its hard for that to work if you are socially anxious(which is my case and many here). I know people who dont like mainstream culture and still they are extroverted and calm when socializing, thats where I want to be, but at first trying to get in touch with other people's tastes, hobbys etc made things easier for me, because I didn't feel awkward around people, as time is passing and Im progressing, Im gettin less and less nervous about my interests and things I like

 

[AlwaysHaveQuestions]

it sucks having to keep track of things you don't care about