MoggerGaston
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I have cold-approached many times before, but usually they were desperation moves?!
Like you are approaching a girl you aren't really interested in, usually drunk, and you don't really care about her or the outcome. You are in this "i don't give a fuck' mindset when you do it.
So imo those don't really count, they are just shit-attempts tbh. Low-effort. I have done many of those but it's kinda just this spray and pray approach without real impact or reward. Low effort, low reward.
But it's been a long time that I have cold-approached a girl I really liked in a sober state ngl. With serious intent and expectations, effort.
Met a goth/emo HTB with a lot of face piercings today in my city at a work-event I had to be at. Looked something like this:
was immediately in love with her looks and vibe. She worked as a receptionist at the venue/place the work-event was at. + she would serve us drinks, etc.
Eventually I talked with my colleagues about her. My colleagues found it strange that a girl with so many face-piercings would be employed at such a high establishment, as in my own firm, people aren't allowed to have piercings during work. That helped me get an idea of what kind of conversation I could start with her. Eventually they told me to just go for it and approach her, which gave me confidence.
just needed the right opportunity at this point to make my move,
...
which of course never came, it's never the 'right' time to make your move when you feel insecure. ~2 hours passed.
...
and now the career event was coming to an end. Pressure was high as I now had to leave to go home, so this was my last chance.
I approached her and started chatting. I mentioned how strange it was that she got employed with her piercings, she was surprised and mentioned she never received any complaints about it and never had issues.
I talked about my own company policy about it, how she never would've been hired, and how she must be working at this 'ghetto shit' place compared to ours (obvious joke since this was a high-class venue).
She digged the joke and went along with it, calling her place ghetto, etc. Laughing about it.
I then told her her piercings look really good on her so I am not surprised it was never an issue for her, she thanked me and started blushing.
....
I asked her if she wants to hangout with me sometime.
....
She was flattered, thanked me kindly, but told me she had a girlfriend. (lesbian/bi).
Felt REALLY good doing this today. I haven't done a serious cold-approach in more than a year.
I just know that if I wouldn't have approached her, I would've been disappointed in myself for letting this opportunity slide, I don't meet girls that I really dig in looks like her THAT OFTEN. (maybe once a week or so.)
I also think my approach was top-tier rizz:
it was casual and low-effort at the start,
I made her laugh within a few sentences,
complimented her in a non-cringy way to show my interest in her romantically,
and then closed it by asking to hangout
And her response was the best possible situation too.
She was acceptive towards my approach,
then digged my joke/rizz,
my compliment made her blush,
and she was flattered that I asked her out.
She was already in a relationship with a girl, so it didn't go anywhere. But I am pretty sure she digged me and would've gone out with me if she was single.
Idk just feels great, I am glad I approached, I am happy with the outcome honestly.
I feel more confident now, I feel respected, valued, and more likely to approach again in the future.
It's so much different than these retarded club-approaches where you get looked at by the girl like: 'how the fuck you dare to approach me, stop annoying me, piss off, etc.'
fuck that shit tbh.
I GOT REJECTED.
And I still feel like I succeeded today.
How sick is that. Don't have that often.
Also she was hot asf.
idk prob HTB facially, but was she was my obsession during this career event so pretty much giga-stacy in my subjective hormonal view of the situation in the moment.
Had I not approached her, I would've felt like shit now. Rejection like this isn't that bad ngl.
Like you are approaching a girl you aren't really interested in, usually drunk, and you don't really care about her or the outcome. You are in this "i don't give a fuck' mindset when you do it.
So imo those don't really count, they are just shit-attempts tbh. Low-effort. I have done many of those but it's kinda just this spray and pray approach without real impact or reward. Low effort, low reward.
But it's been a long time that I have cold-approached a girl I really liked in a sober state ngl. With serious intent and expectations, effort.
Met a goth/emo HTB with a lot of face piercings today in my city at a work-event I had to be at. Looked something like this:
was immediately in love with her looks and vibe. She worked as a receptionist at the venue/place the work-event was at. + she would serve us drinks, etc.
Eventually I talked with my colleagues about her. My colleagues found it strange that a girl with so many face-piercings would be employed at such a high establishment, as in my own firm, people aren't allowed to have piercings during work. That helped me get an idea of what kind of conversation I could start with her. Eventually they told me to just go for it and approach her, which gave me confidence.
just needed the right opportunity at this point to make my move,
...
which of course never came, it's never the 'right' time to make your move when you feel insecure. ~2 hours passed.
...
and now the career event was coming to an end. Pressure was high as I now had to leave to go home, so this was my last chance.
I approached her and started chatting. I mentioned how strange it was that she got employed with her piercings, she was surprised and mentioned she never received any complaints about it and never had issues.
I talked about my own company policy about it, how she never would've been hired, and how she must be working at this 'ghetto shit' place compared to ours (obvious joke since this was a high-class venue).
She digged the joke and went along with it, calling her place ghetto, etc. Laughing about it.
I then told her her piercings look really good on her so I am not surprised it was never an issue for her, she thanked me and started blushing.
....
I asked her if she wants to hangout with me sometime.
....
She was flattered, thanked me kindly, but told me she had a girlfriend. (lesbian/bi).
Felt REALLY good doing this today. I haven't done a serious cold-approach in more than a year.
I just know that if I wouldn't have approached her, I would've been disappointed in myself for letting this opportunity slide, I don't meet girls that I really dig in looks like her THAT OFTEN. (maybe once a week or so.)
I also think my approach was top-tier rizz:
it was casual and low-effort at the start,
I made her laugh within a few sentences,
complimented her in a non-cringy way to show my interest in her romantically,
and then closed it by asking to hangout
And her response was the best possible situation too.
She was acceptive towards my approach,
then digged my joke/rizz,
my compliment made her blush,
and she was flattered that I asked her out.
She was already in a relationship with a girl, so it didn't go anywhere. But I am pretty sure she digged me and would've gone out with me if she was single.
Idk just feels great, I am glad I approached, I am happy with the outcome honestly.
I feel more confident now, I feel respected, valued, and more likely to approach again in the future.
It's so much different than these retarded club-approaches where you get looked at by the girl like: 'how the fuck you dare to approach me, stop annoying me, piss off, etc.'
fuck that shit tbh.
I GOT REJECTED.
And I still feel like I succeeded today.
How sick is that. Don't have that often.
Also she was hot asf.
idk prob HTB facially, but was she was my obsession during this career event so pretty much giga-stacy in my subjective hormonal view of the situation in the moment.
Had I not approached her, I would've felt like shit now. Rejection like this isn't that bad ngl.
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