ramustetic
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Hello everyone, i am Ramustetic and I want to share a personal experience because I think a lot of guys here will recognize parts of it.
When I was 16, I was chopped.
Skinny-fat, no muscle, bloated face, mid skin, light eyebrows. Zero structure, zero discipline. I didn’t look after myself at all. At the time I thought I was “fine”, which in hindsight is actually funny.
Since I was 15, I’ve gone every summer to the South of France for about 3–4 weeks. From 16 onwards, I went out at night with friends, beaches in the evening, clubs, that whole vacation vibe where everyone is supposed to meet each other.
We were confident, but mostly because we didn’t yet realize we were kind of chopped.
We’d walk up to groups of girls at the beach thinking this was completely normal behavior.
Reality check: friendly conversations, quick friendzones, or just zero interest. No sexual tension at all.
At that age (16–18), girls are absolutely interested in fun, flirting, sex — especially on vacation. But back then, I never felt that interest directed at me.
What I did notice was that the slightly older guys, more developed, more masculine, better looking, were getting all the attention without trying. Girls just gravitated toward them.
That was the first time I realized:
“Oh… so this isn’t random.”
After that first summer, I started lifting seriously.
At 16:
At 17, things were slightly better. Still not special, but less invisible.
At 18, I started getting attention — and something interesting happened.
At 19, it fully clicked.
Not only did I get more attention every year — the girls themselves also got better looking.
This is something people rarely talk about:
The more attractive you become, the more attractive the women who approach you will be.
Lower-tier girls usually don’t even try anymore. They already assume they don’t have a chance, so they filter themselves out automatically. Sounds harsh, but it’s efficient.
That alone is a massive advantage:
Now at 19:
I went full research mode (probably a bit autistic, not gonna lie):
Same beaches.
Same clubs.
Same South of France.
Completely different experience.
Now, girls approach me.
I’ll just be standing there, and they start conversations. Of course I still approach when I want, but the dynamic has flipped.
It’s no longer friendly or polite.
Intentions are clear, fast, and direct.
I’ve had girls 18 to 35 openly asking me to leave the club with them. No long talking phase, no proving myself, no “let’s see your personality first”.
Why did this never happen at 16 or 17 — but happens consistently now?
Because looks determine your first impression.
And once that impression is strong, you’re already most of the way in.
In nightlife specifically, personality plays a very small role at the start. It’s visual, instinctive, and fast.
People love to say “anyone can pull in clubs.”
If that were true, my less attractive friends wouldn’t be standing next to me all night getting zero attention, while being funnier and more social than me.
Yet that’s exactly what happens.
Uncomfortable, but real.
If women don’t notice you:
Max your body.
Improve your face.
Fix grooming and presentation.
As you level up, the quality of women levels up with you — and a lot of problems solve themselves.
That’s been my experience, year after year.
When I was 16, I was chopped.
Skinny-fat, no muscle, bloated face, mid skin, light eyebrows. Zero structure, zero discipline. I didn’t look after myself at all. At the time I thought I was “fine”, which in hindsight is actually funny.
Since I was 15, I’ve gone every summer to the South of France for about 3–4 weeks. From 16 onwards, I went out at night with friends, beaches in the evening, clubs, that whole vacation vibe where everyone is supposed to meet each other.
We were confident, but mostly because we didn’t yet realize we were kind of chopped.
We’d walk up to groups of girls at the beach thinking this was completely normal behavior.
Reality check: friendly conversations, quick friendzones, or just zero interest. No sexual tension at all.
At that age (16–18), girls are absolutely interested in fun, flirting, sex — especially on vacation. But back then, I never felt that interest directed at me.
What I did notice was that the slightly older guys, more developed, more masculine, better looking, were getting all the attention without trying. Girls just gravitated toward them.
That was the first time I realized:
“Oh… so this isn’t random.”
Year by year change (and this is important)
After that first summer, I started lifting seriously.
At 16:
- 178 cm (5'10)
- ~60 kg
- Skinny-fat, weak frame
At 17, things were slightly better. Still not special, but less invisible.
At 18, I started getting attention — and something interesting happened.
At 19, it fully clicked.
Not only did I get more attention every year — the girls themselves also got better looking.
This is something people rarely talk about:
The more attractive you become, the more attractive the women who approach you will be.
Lower-tier girls usually don’t even try anymore. They already assume they don’t have a chance, so they filter themselves out automatically. Sounds harsh, but it’s efficient.
That alone is a massive advantage:
- Less awkward interactions
- Less rejection energy
- Higher baseline quality without effort
Physical changes
Now at 19:
- 185 cm (6'1)
- 82 kg lean
- Over 20 kg of muscle gained across the years
I went full research mode (probably a bit autistic, not gonna lie):
- Training
- Nutrition
- Recovery
- Basic looksmaxing
- Mewing
- Mouth taping / nasal breathing
- Skin care
- Darker, fuller eyebrows
- Better grooming overall
Same location, different reality
Fast forward to now.Same beaches.
Same clubs.
Same South of France.
Completely different experience.
Now, girls approach me.
I’ll just be standing there, and they start conversations. Of course I still approach when I want, but the dynamic has flipped.
It’s no longer friendly or polite.
Intentions are clear, fast, and direct.
I’ve had girls 18 to 35 openly asking me to leave the club with them. No long talking phase, no proving myself, no “let’s see your personality first”.
Why did this never happen at 16 or 17 — but happens consistently now?
Because looks determine your first impression.
And once that impression is strong, you’re already most of the way in.
In nightlife specifically, personality plays a very small role at the start. It’s visual, instinctive, and fast.
People love to say “anyone can pull in clubs.”
If that were true, my less attractive friends wouldn’t be standing next to me all night getting zero attention, while being funnier and more social than me.
Yet that’s exactly what happens.
Uncomfortable, but real.
Final thought
If women don’t notice you:
- It’s probably not your personality
- It’s probably not your confidence
- And it’s definitely not “bad luck”
Max your body.
Improve your face.
Fix grooming and presentation.
As you level up, the quality of women levels up with you — and a lot of problems solve themselves.
That’s been my experience, year after year.
