girl i was obsessed with just blocked me

[Greycel Slayer]

probably no one will bother to read this as I'm a greycel, but alas, i will write it.

i first met this girl in school, let's call her Claire, her hair being a curly dirty blonde, her eyes green. i was significantly older than her as i was in high school and she was in middle school and normally we wouldn't have met. But we did meet due to after school activities. In the beginning, i thought she was an annoying brat, as she would constantly tease me but i came to warm up to her as a person the more time i spent with her. Based on some things that she did, i have reason to believe she used to have a crush on me, but at that time she was a kid so nothing would've happened. Eventually i went off to college and the only connection i had with her, was social media. I didn't think i'd ever see her again.

She for some reason followed me with her private account and i followed back without thinking much of it. After this, i would be periodically updated about her life as she would post a lot, i mean a lot, on it. Over the years I watched her mature into an attractive girl. Fast forward a few years later, she's finishing high school and im finishing college. She is now very attractive.

She was living in a completely different state now, and one of my best friends was graduating in that same area. He invited me to party with him after his graduation and I decided to go. So I took a deep breath and messaged her saying something like: "Hi Claire, it's been forever! Are you still living in -her city-?" She said: yes, i am
me: im going there next month to see my friend graduating, we should do something! "she: yes we can go out to a cafe"

First we were just texting, but one day i randomly called her. We clicked instantly and talked for over an hour, we wouldn't run out of things to talk about. Mind you, im a fucking incel, i had never facetimed a girl, an attractive one at that for that long. I was in a bliss. After that day, we started facetiming daily for a couple of weeks in anticipation for when we'd meet. As you can imagine, that made me fall for her head over heels. There is a major problem tho, she was in a long distance relationship with a guy from her home country. Even knowing this, I was still falling for her hard, i didn't care about some random guy across the planet.

At the end, we ended up meeting at a shopping mall. When I saw her in real life for the first time in years, we hugged and went out to eat together at sushi place, after that we spent the entire afternoon together window shopping, eating ice cream and talking. At the end of the day, we sat on a few benches outside of the mall during the sunset and she started singing songs to me really close to my face, i just know in that moment i could've kissed her, but i didn't. she was still underage and she was in a relationship, as much as i wanted to, i was too much of a coward and didn't do it.

the next day, we stopped talking. she actually ghosted me when i invited her to do something else the next day which was my last day in her city. so i flew back home. that was it. a dissapointment. i felt regret and frustration over not having kissed her and i started obsessing over her more and more. i formulated this absurd plan to go back to her state to see her with the excuse that i had a job interview there. I was going to wait until after the summer to do it though as she was travelling to her home country during the summer.

During the summer, i went even beyond insane and i started learning her language on duolingo. i was studying in such an unhinged way that i finished the whole duolingo course in 2 months. after that, i looked for people to start practicing with online and i made very fast progress in the language, now, the reason this is not as insane as it sounds is because languages are my passion and i actually know a variety of languages already. So adding a new one wouldn't be necessarily something weird that i was doing just for her.

At the end of the summer, i had already bought the plane ticket to go to my fake "job interview" and as i was texting her that i was going to see her, she made a live on instagram. i joined the live. in the live, she specifically called me and asked me where i live again. i told her where. she said: i'm moving there! I couldn't believe my ears. I was going to travel to her, but now she's moving to my city? it was too good to be true.

After that, i was taking a shower that night and she texted me "hey, wanna call?" i got out of the shower immediately and called her. we facetimed for 2 hours this time! I revealed to her that i had been learning her language and she reacted really positively, even wanting to teach me some words. She talked about us doing all sorts of stuff together, like swimming in her pool, going on clubs, you name it. I was very excited to see her. The day that she moved here, we face timed again and we agreed to meet the next day.

The next day she comes to my apartment and we spend the afternoon together again, only this time, we were in my apartment, we swam together, went to the sauna together, we went to the nearby shopping center and even went on a Ferris Wheel together. I was the happiest man alive. But there's one thing I did that ruined it all.

if anyone actually read until now and wants to know the rest, leave a reaction and i will tag you on the next.

dnr but feel bad for you

 

[aesthetic beauty]

Now to tell the truth, I still don't know exactly why she started to dislike me, but i did a lot of little stupid things, i dont know which one exactly was responsible for fucking it up, or if it was a combination of them.

On that day that she was visiting me, before getting in the Ferris wheel, i got us ice cream. Once we were inside the gondola, we were talking and enjoying the view, she was taking pictures of the ocean from there. We were sitting across from each other and chilling, then, some of her ice cream fell on top of her foot, she was wearing flipflops and raised her foot up towards me to show me that it had fallen on her. Now, in retrospective, that was a really retarded thing for me to do, but at the time it felt natural, so i just licked the ice cream off her foot. (It wasn't even smooth as the ice cream didn't immediately come off and i had to lick it for a couple more seconds and wipe it with my hand)

She seemed a bit weirded out but she just laughed and said "no one ever did that before haha" and she didn't seem to care much at the time. After that, we went on to go to my apartment, in it, at some point we were talking about her her instagram and i told her her current pictures look too hoeish and that her old pictures were better. Again, it was out of place for me to say that given that i'm not her boyfriend, so maybe that was also part of it.

I felt very comfortable talking about any subject with her, even controversial ones as she didn't mind racist or homophobic jokes at all, if anything, she was also against trans ideology and she particularly hated arab immigrants in her country and would be openly racist towards them. One time when i jokingly pointed at a ridiculous feminine outfit on a store and joked about me wearing it, she said that i'd get beaten the f up in her country for wearing it, she said that's just how it is in her country. (made me like her more). But i think i took it too far as i used the n-word a lot with her jokingly, she pointed out that i shouldn't say it while in public especially when near blacks (im kinda socially stupid so i have no filter)

Later, we were reminiscing our days in the old school and we talked about the other girls that were in her grade. I unfortunately was feeling too comfortable with her and i commented that most of them were looking hot now (big mistake) she didn't seem to like that i said that.

Anyhow, regardless of what it was that made her upset, you'd never know it on the day, because even at the end of it, she was still totally cool with me. The next day, i realized she had forgotten her make up on my apartment, so i texted her about it. she said she needed it back and we were arranging to see each other so i could give it back to her, we were going to meet again but she canceled because she was "busy" that day helping her dad prepare for an event (that she had invited me to before and i was kinda looking forward to going)

After that day i sent her some more messages trying to set up another date, but she became increasingly drier and eventually stopped responding. I didn't want to triple text her after the initial ghost, so i just gave her space, maybe she was busy with other stuff, who knows

A week after, i pretended it was all good and just texted her again like she hadn't ghosted me the previous week. she ghosts me again. i try calling her. she doesn't pick it up. she also removes me from her stories of her private account. At that point i was really confused because the last time we saw each other we were cool, i didn't understand why she turned so cold out of nowhere.

the day of the event that her family was organizing finally came, and i didn't go as we weren't talking anymore. On that day, she took me off her stories even from her normal account. the only reason i was able to see it is because i have another account. at this point, i was feeling dread inside me, all this effort and all of this emotional investment i had put into her.... the last time we saw each other i remember her smiling at me as if everything was alright. i couldn't and still can't pinpoint what exactly made her hate me.

on the day before halloween, i put her private account on my close friends and i post a story about halloween (hoping that she'd want to hang out for halloween) she removes me as a follower on her private account entirely. (i also noticed she removed about half of her private followers along with me, weird....) i couldn't believe what was happening. anything i tried to do was only pushing her further away. It was at this moment i should've understood that for whatever reason she's done with me and moved on, but i didn't.

Everyday i would pass by my kitchen and look at the bag with her make up on my counter, that i didn't get to give back to her because she wouldn't meet with me. It was driving me crazy. I thought about going to her house and giving it to her so i could at least get some closure. but that would be too invasive, i can't go to her house uninvited. Especially because her house is quite far from mine. So i went to her dad's workplace instead which was very close to where i live and dropped off the bag there saying it's to give it to her. I also put a special chocolate in the bag that she hadn't had in ages and that she commented she missed. It was a friendly gesture intended to get her to warm back up to me. The entire day passes and she doesn't send me anything on social media. I don't even know if she got the package i left for her.

I eventually stop trying to get to her but i continue to learn her language. Again, languages are my passion and at this point i already like the language itself too, so i was looking for some cultural events of this country and i found one online to attend. It was yesterday, so friday in the morning. I didn't have any physical classes that day, but her being in high school, i assumed that she'd have class that day and be at school. So i had zero expectations of seeing her there. But upon arriving, there she was.

I debated if i should even walk over as i didn't want her to think that i was stalking her, but i took a deep breath and said to myself "i've come all this way, i might as well say hi". I walked over to where she was and when she saw me, she froze. she was shocked to see me and visibly uncomfortable.

She turned around and walked the opposite way, i went after her and said "wait, let's talk" she stopped and greeted me although she was avoiding eye contact and clearly felt uncomfortable and awkward. I tried lightening the mood and specially said that i liked going to various country's cultural events and that i didn't think she'd be there and acted like it was chill but i asked her what was going on as things had gotten awkward and if it was something i said or did. She said it was nothing to do with me and that it was personal stuff but she wanted to be alone. I said to her she can tell me what's going on, she said if she were to tell me she'd cry. I didn't push her further and tried lightening the mood speaking her language with her. She didn't seem pleased anymore with me trying to speak her language.

In any case, i talked to some other people at the event, and even her father who was there and whom i had previously met, i greeted him and he seemed to still be fond of me (so whatever happened for her to hate me, she didn't tell her dad). i also asked her if she got the package i left for her and she said that she did. i was happy that she did, but i forgot to ask her about the chocolates, if she liked them or not, now that's something i will never know.

This time was nothing like the other two times i saw her. She was cold to me in real life for the first time and it felt so brutal. I joined a group that she was talking and after a while she just walked off, i thought she was just heading out for a moment so i didn't go after her. But that was the last time i'd see her. she just dipped after that.

upon getting back home, i debated if i should text her, but i thought it was better to just leave it. seeing her acting so cold to me in person made me lose a lot of my passion for her as i hadn't seen it in person yet and was still remembering her warm smile and hug since the last time we had seen each other. I was sad.

Then, yesterday night, i noticed she had blocked me on everything. On both her instagram accounts as well as snapchat. (i still have her on tiktok and whatsapp but i will never text her again, because she clearly hates me now and i finally stopped coping)

This was heartbreaking for me, even though she was not my girlfriend, even though we ended up never even kissing, it was a very special relationship for me. that's it, that's the full story, i could give more details, but this is the gist of it.

It's over.



@RAMU KAKA @positivecoper @Donkeyballs @Mewton @thw7 @thecel

She found someone else and either didn’t see you as a romantic partner or moved on when you didn’t make a move. That’s why she removed half of her followers. Those were probably dudes she was interested in/smashing.

 

[Greycel Slayer]

She found someone else and either didn’t see you as a romantic partner or moved on when you didn’t make a move. That’s why she removed half of her followers. Those were probably dudes she was interested in/smashing.

There is no point in caring or trying unless you have HTN smv. The more you invest yourself into it, the more destructive the blow will be. What I mean is that it's far better and efficient to moneymaxx and treat foids how you would treat a homeless man, expecting nothing from them.

 

[MongolTurk]

i read it and this 100% made up. This is like one of those fantasy romance things that the tiktok girls read

 

[Deleted member 44159]

i was significantly older than her as i was in high school and she was in middle school and

 

[Joe Rogancel]

if this rlly happened OP then I feel sorry asf for you, similar thing happened to me and it literally broke me.

 

[kebab]

@socialcel bro this has to be the most pathetic user here.

 

[socialcel]

@socialcel bro this has to be the most pathetic user here.

got brain damage reading that.

luckily this could never happen to me as I’m numb to everything and feel nothing since the age of 12

 

[TURK-KUN]

@socialcel bro this has to be the most pathetic user here.

IDK man, at least I went out with a pretty girl, sure, it didn't go well, but lots of guys here have never even made it that far

 

[SoundnVision]

Just move on fella don't waste your thoughts and energy on people who don't want or give a fuck about you life is too short

 

[kranerman23123]

Bro same few may pay attention to this tale of mine as I navigate life as a greycel, but nonetheless, I'll pen it down.
My acquaintance with this girl, let's dub her Claire, commenced in our school days. Claire possessed curly dirty blonde hair and piercing green eyes. Our paths intertwined through after-school activities, despite the notable age gap – I, in high school, and she, in middle school. Initially, I found her to be an irritating presence, incessantly teasing me. However, as time elapsed, I grew fond of her personality. Certain actions hinted at a past crush she might have harbored for me, though nothing transpired during those formative years.
Upon my departure for college, our sole connection remained through social media. Unexpectedly, Claire followed my private account, and without much thought, I reciprocated. Through her frequent posts, I witnessed her evolution into a striking young woman. Fast forward several years, she was on the verge of high school graduation, while I was wrapping up my college journey. Her relocation to another state seemed to sever any chance of our paths crossing again.
Coincidentally, a close friend's graduation celebration beckoned me to Claire's new locale. Summoning courage, I reached out to her via message, sparking a conversation about potentially meeting up during my visit. Thus began a series of exchanges that eventually escalated to regular FaceTime sessions. Despite my self-perceived status as an incel, our conversations flowed effortlessly, fueling my infatuation.
Yet, a significant hurdle emerged – Claire was committed to a long-distance relationship. Despite this revelation, my feelings for her intensified unabated. Our eventual reunion at a local mall stirred emotions within me, as we spent an idyllic day together, culminating in a poignant sunset moment. Despite the temptation, I refrained from acting on my desires, mindful of her age and relationship status.
However, the abrupt cessation of communication the following day left me grappling with disappointment and regret. Obsession consumed me, leading to a reckless plan to revisit her under the guise of a job interview. In a feverish frenzy, I even endeavored to learn her native language, albeit fueled partly by my existing passion for languages.
As fate would have it, Claire announced her relocation to my city during an Instagram live session. The serendipitous turn of events left me incredulous yet overjoyed. Subsequent conversations and rendezvous only deepened my affection for her, culminating in a blissful day spent together in my apartment.
Yet, amidst the euphoria, a grave misstep on my part threatened to unravel everything.
If you've persevered through this narrative and wish to learn its conclusion, indicate your interest, and I shall continue the saga.

 

[edodalic29]

You over pursued her and it turned her off jfl