Girlfriend said “I love you” to her guy friend, need advice

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A while ago I was on call with my girlfriend. She had me on speaker. She went over to the door and her guy friend stopped by to drop something off for my girlfriend’s mom. They had a conversation, my girlfriend said thank you and they both ended up saying “bye” followed by an “I love you.”

I decided to talk to her about it since me and my female friends don’t communicate that way. My girlfriend said this is how their friend group (Composed of my girlfriend, her female friend, and her guy friend) typically say their goodbyes.

Initially, she said if it was something I wasn’t comfortable with, she would talk to her friend about it. I thought everything would be settled here, but instead she tried explaining to me how I was “overreacting.”

The reason I’m concerned about this is not because I don’t trust her, but because there has been two instances where my girlfriend or her friend introduce other female friends to the group and twice, the guy has tried to get at those “new friends.” I feel like at times, he is just waiting for one of them to become single in order to get at them since he’s always inviting them over to his house in order for them to spend time with him and his family. I mentioned this to her and she kind of brushed it off saying “that’s just how we talk. My female friends are single so it’s totally understandable that he would try to get at them if he finds them attractive.”

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go ragemode on said guy friend
 
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Either break up with her because a partner should never say your overreacting if something effects you, or just beat the hell out of that guy honestly he sounds like a prick, either back away from the situation entirely by breaking up or teach the guy a lesson whatever suits you better man, I hope your situation gets better man
 
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if you stay with her youre actually a cuck
 
This is "Honey i'm going on a girls only trip to Italy..." type of cucked
 
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A while ago I was on call with my girlfriend. She had me on speaker. She went over to the door and her guy friend stopped by to drop something off for my girlfriend’s mom. They had a conversation, my girlfriend said thank you and they both ended up saying “bye” followed by an “I love you.”

I decided to talk to her about it since me and my female friends don’t communicate that way. My girlfriend said this is how their friend group (Composed of my girlfriend, her female friend, and her guy friend) typically say their goodbyes.

Initially, she said if it was something I wasn’t comfortable with, she would talk to her friend about it. I thought everything would be settled here, but instead she tried explaining to me how I was “overreacting.”

The reason I’m concerned about this is not because I don’t trust her, but because there has been two instances where my girlfriend or her friend introduce other female friends to the group and twice, the guy has tried to get at those “new friends.” I feel like at times, he is just waiting for one of them to become single in order to get at them since he’s always inviting them over to his house in order for them to spend time with him and his family. I mentioned this to her and she kind of brushed it off saying “that’s just how we talk. My female friends are single so it’s totally understandable that he would try to get at them if he finds them attractive.”

@Lonenely sigma @Lefty Rankin @Jatt
It depends on context, was the "love you" a high-pitched and fast one, or a low-pitch and short one? Some people just say that instead of thanks or do it teasingly.

But if you trust your girl I mean... do nothing? If you indeed trust her then I wouldn't be worrying about it
 
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It depends on context, was the "love you" a high-pitched and fast one, or a low-pitch and short one? Some people just say that instead of thanks or do it teasingly.

But if you trust your girl I mean... do nothing? If you indeed trust her then I wouldn't be worrying about it
also, yeah 80% likely that the guy is likely just waiting for your girl and you to breakup so he can play his shot, but I don't think there are any other indications that she may cheat on you with him.
 
You need to not be a bitch and make it clear that ain't acceptable or she will walk all over you. Foids like when you put your foot down
 
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YTA, stop being insecure
 
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