Had a work-safety training today.

[Deleted member 17578]

Was a manditory training on how to deal with agression and unwanted behavior during work. Customers showing agression, maybe even assaulting you. Also sexual intimidation, threats and more.

Wasnt looking forward to this since trainings like this are usually poorly done without practical training/exercise. Waste of time.

But this time was different.

Guy in his late fifties that used to be a soldier, then a combat/weapons trainer, then policeman, then policeman-trainer was giving us the training.

Very cool guy and very usefull tips/tricks that we learned.
The training lasted 8 hours of which 5 hours were practical. With hired actors in simulated work situations starting a fight with you.
Seeing how you deal with the stress and what you can do better in those situations.

Situations like this almost never happen like this irl as most customers arent this aggressive. Very cool to see how poorly I handle stressfull situations like this though and how easily this instructor would defuse the situation instead.

First time 'social skills' actually got a meaning for me. And how your personality clashes with reality and what you want out of it when things get rough.

Ngl I can imagine how NT you must be if you have a dad like this and grow up with a guy like this as your example. Amazing role-model tbh, exact opposite of my own dad.

This guy was pretty fit and good-looking for a guy in his 50s, also very well spoken, intelligent, empathic and optimistic.

I honestly think this was the first time in my life I met a man, ever, that I would want to be one day; Personality and lifestyle-wise.

Different from when you just see a good-looking/famous/rich guy. That could otherwise have a completely trash personality.

Every teacher, mentor, dad, uncle, etc I have ever had I never felt inspired by. Never felt like they were good role-models or people that would have a positive influence in my life if interacted with.

Very positive day for me. Shows me that there's a certain goal for me, an inspiration, of what I could become myself in the future.

How do you guys feel about male role-models in your life?

 

[Deleted member 14693]

Shows me that there's a certain goal for me, an inspiration, of what I could become myself in the future.

 

[Deleted member 17578]

Was also cool to talk about this openly with colleagues in this context.

Ive been sexually intimidated by women at my workplace many times, also received death-threats, got intimidated/verbally abused before, have my expertise questioned, integrity questioned and much more. Usually I largely ignored this or played it off lightly, not take it serious.

But I don't want to do that anymore. I am a human-being, not a machine.

Dealing with aggressive humans in customer interaction can be absolutely brutal. My company fucks up, or the customer fucks up or simply has a bad day. Now I have to deal with this shit.
But I always have to stay professional. When someone is going all ham on me I have to stay calm and de-escalate. Not easy.

 

[Deleted member 20370]

a strong scruffy bear can really change a femboys life, mirin

 

[Deleted member 17578]

View attachment 2195157

A guy like this would never be a role-model to anyone.

This guy left a great impression. Well put together, experienced, emotionally mature, etc. Men like this seem to be rare asf

 

[St.TikTokcel]

Was a manditory training on how to deal with agression and unwanted behavior during work. Customers showing agression, maybe even assaulting you. Also sexual intimidation, threats and more.

Wasnt looking forward to this since trainings like this are usually poorly done without practical training/exercise. Waste of time.

But this time was different.

Guy in his late fifties that used to be a soldier, then a combat/weapons trainer, then policeman, then policeman-trainer was giving us the training.

Very cool guy and very usefull tips/tricks that we learned.
The training lasted 8 hours of which 5 hours were practical. With hired actors in simulated work situations starting a fight with you.
Seeing how you deal with the stress and what you can do better in those situations.

Situations like this almost never happen like this irl as most customers arent this aggressive. Very cool to see how poorly I handle stressfull situations like this though and how easily this instructor would defuse the situation instead.

First time 'social skills' actually got a meaning for me. And how your personality clashes with reality and what you want out of it when things get rough.

Ngl I can imagine how NT you must be if you have a dad like this and grow up with a guy like this as your example. Amazing role-model tbh, exact opposite of my own dad.

This guy was pretty fit and good-looking for a guy in his 50s, also very well spoken, intelligent, empathic and optimistic.

I honestly think this was the first time in my life I met a man, ever, that I would want to be one day; Personality and lifestyle-wise.

Different from when you just see a good-looking/famous/rich guy. That could otherwise have a completely trash personality.

Every teacher, mentor, dad, uncle, etc I have ever had I never felt inspired by. Never felt like they were good role-models or people that would have a positive influence in my life if interacted with.

Very positive day for me. Shows me that there's a certain goal for me, an inspiration, of what I could become myself in the future.

How do you guys feel about male role-models in your life?

Typical slavcel household. Cuckold spineless betabuxxer father and neurotic helicopter parent mother. That's life.

 

[Deleted member 17578]

a strong scruffy bear can really change a femboys life, mirin

Ive had many trainings, lectures, presentations, instructions before in my life. Many times by people the same age as him, that would still come across as a nervous high schooler.

True confidence in everything you do is rare asf

 

[ascension]

I miss your inceldom doomer posts but happy for you

 

[Deleted member 17578]

Typical slavcel household. Cuckold spineless betabuxxer father and neurotic helicopter parent mother. That's life.
View attachment 2195192

Yeah explains my household perfectly.

Failed loveless marriage.
Cuck betabux father without spine.
Abusive neurotic mother.

Both parents without real friends, family or other bonds. No passions, no ambitions, no hobbies.

True failed human beings, raising new failed human beings (me).

Weirdest thing though was this guy was divorced with 3 kids. No-homo but its impossible for me to understand how a woman would not find this guy good enough.

 

[St.TikTokcel]

Yeah explains my household perfectly.

Failed loveless marriage.
Cuck betabux father without spine.
Abusive neurotic mother.

Both parents without real friends, family or other bonds. No passions, no ambitions, no hobbies.

True failed human beings, raising new failed human beings (me).

Weirdest thing though was this guy was divorced with 3 kids. No-homo but its impossible for me to understand how a woman would not find this guy good enough.

Funniest thing is that they usually wait into 30/40s for their offspring. Imagine giving birth at that age. My mum's friend got pregnant at 50 and her son turned out to be a socially clueless autist. Regardless, most of the slavcels households are like that. Some fathers decide to completely go away from the household and live by their own (without divorcing).

 

[Deleted member 17578]

I miss your inceldom doomer posts but happy for you

I am starting to get tired of my inceldom doomer mindset. Too many times I ask myself what purpose that mindset serves me now, what results ive gotten from it and what I hope to achieve with it.

Even though I feel very depressed most days still and have negative thoughts, I dont see much purpose in writing about it or thinking more deeply about it anymore. Or having it affect my behavior as much.

I think the mindset comes from wanting to share your emotions and struggles with others to help and deal with the trauma, heal from the trauma from the past.

But when this is about trauma from a long time ago, and you are socializing with people that cant really relate with that traumatic past, you can't find what you are looking for. You get stuck in this state, never finding salvation.

 

[ascension]

I am starting to get tired of my inceldom doomer mindset. Too many times I ask myself what purpose that mindset serves me now, what results ive gotten from it and what I hope to achieve with it.

Even though I feel very depressed most days still and have negative thoughts, I dont see much purpose in writing about it or thinking more deeply about it anymore. Or having it affect my behavior as much.

I think the mindset comes from wanting to share your emotions and struggles with others to help and deal with the trauma, heal from the trauma from the past.

But when this is about trauma from a long time ago, and you are socializing with people that cant really relate with that traumatic past. You get stuck in this state, never finding salvation.

Same tbh. Over the last few months I've tried to make a real effort to move past that negative phase. Still don't feel great some days but I've made good progress. And at the end of the day I realised that no one actually cares about what I've been through, and I'm just hurting myself by stewing in that depression.

 

[Deleted member 17578]

Same tbh. Over the last few months I've tried to make a real effort to move past that negative phase. Still don't feel great some days but I've made good progress. And at the end of the day I realised that no one actually cares about what I've been through, and I'm just hurting myself by stewing in that depression.

Exactly. You are talking to people that never were a part of your life when the trauma was happening.

Ideally we would've had people to talk to back then, but we didn't. We were young, defence-less and vulnerable, victims of our environment. We arent to blame, neither are the people we know now.

Depression for me feels like punishing myself for something that happened in the past that I have no control over now, and probably didnt even have back then. Helplessneas.

 

[Deleted member 17578]

Was also very interesting to see how my colleagues responded to agression and stressfull situations.

Luckily I wasn't the only one retreating mentally, not knowing how to deal with the situation adequately and largely 'just taking it'. The situation either had to defuse on its own, or escalate to a point where the only response left was calling security/supervisors.

Also the first time I felt sympathy to women dealing with sexual intimidation. It can be stressful dealing with this in a professional manner, even as a guy. But women experience this much more often and strongly ofcourse.

Meanwhile we as men are more often intimidated through physical violence, death-threats, etc.

 

[Deleted member 17578]

Also I went way too deep and hard on one occasion.

Basically one way to defuse a situation was to share your emotions with the agressor. So if a person was calling you a worthless loser with a meaningless shit-job that cant do anything properly, saying something like:

'I really don't like what you are saying to me now. It makes me feel really shitty and uncomfortable. ...'

Which might seem cringe if you read it like this here. But in practice it seemed to bring the message across very well and really put a mirror in front of the agressor and his behavior, what it caused. And having a calming effect in most cases.

This really hit deep with me and made me reflect on how I stopped taking my own emotional responses to life seriously, neglecting my emotions. As I could never see myself say something like this, hell perhaps even to myself, and expect to be taken seriously.

Really self-reflective day today. Seeing yourself and your colleagues get pushed to the limit through aggression.

The training was also paid like normal working hours. So I earned 150 euros while being taught valuable life skills.


Great value

 

[Max Frauder]

What a fucking loser. You meet an older guy with a bit of genuine confidence and you're smitten.

 

[Deleted member 17578]

What a fucking loser. You meet an older guy with a bit of genuine confidence and you're smitten.

I never meet men like this

 

[Crusile]

Great day to be alive

 

[Splinter901]

Tl dr what u slaving as?

 

[aBetterMii]

In blue collar it is encouraged to tell a guy to gi fuck himself, but not customers (we dont deal with em anyway) its a very different rnvriomrnt but i feel like it has helped me a lot socially

 

[Deleted member 13158]

Wow a cop knows how to handle and diffuse confrontation shocker

 

[incel194012940]

never, only the exact opposite of role models, people that spike my cortisol at night and make me think I’d rather be homeless and no limbs

the closest I ever is “I admire this guy for being extremely manipulative” and memorize one or two of their tactics that don’t work without baseline charisma/confidence

 

[incel194012940]

this thread spiked my optimism and had me thinking about how to improve life for 20 min when it’s probably a side effect of a drug-induced mania

 

[Deleted member 17578]

this thread spiked my optimism and had me thinking about how to improve life for 20 min when it’s probably a side effect of a drug-induced mania

Drug induced mania is very legit. I am on one right now. Hoping it lasts a while