Having zero friends is just fucking brutal

And with masking it really just takes one bad day, maybe low energy for example, and boom everyone sees the autist loser you are as you burn out and show your true self, so brutal
that's bullshit, it becomes natural and effortless after a point
 
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If you have even one friend your life will still be infinitely better than being a friendless chud

If you have like three good friends you’re basically set

I don’t think Ive ever made a genuine friend in my entire life, nobody has ever understood me or reciprocated the way I cared about them. It’s like a constant power imbalance that just shows up again and again. It’s a curse that follows me everywhere.

And once you’re out of high school you’re basically fucked, I have no idea how I will make a social life for myself, Ive been isolated for so long that I’m out of touch with everyone my age so they’ll think I’m even more weird, it’s more hopeless than ever with each passing day I just get more and more alienated and odd picking up weird mannerisms and shit. Extremely bleak.

Might just try to get a shitty minimum wage job if it means having people to talk to and do shit with

But that’s wishful thinking, because as a neurodivergent it’s 100x more likely people would just turn me into a lolcow or pretend I don’t exist
Anyone who struggle with talking to people, and making friends, dont isolate urself, genuinely keep trying, you will eventually understand social cues, behaviours, knowing whats appropriate or not, etc.

Start by making small talks in public to like older people in queues, go volunteer somewhere such as a food bank or animal shelter, you will 100% meet great virtuous people.

Dwbi theres hope 🙏🙏
 
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I feel like honest bruh, I rather keep my 2 homies over 300 more friends because loyalty gotta be more important than anything
 
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Anyone who struggle with talking to people, and making friends, dont isolate urself, genuinely keep trying, you will eventually understand social cues, behaviours, knowing whats appropriate or not, etc.

Start by making small talks in public to like older people in queues, go volunteer somewhere such as a food bank or animal shelter, you will 100% meet great virtuous people.

Dwbi theres hope 🙏🙏
Easy for you to say
 
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Easy for you to say
ive done to a lot of volunteering in food banks, my role was to distribute the prepared food baskets. ive met all sorts of people there: a dude who was convicted of attempted assault with a deadly weapon doing community service, old people who are way past retirement age, obese people (lol), drug addicts, people living in poverty. it was a humbling experience for me to see the 50 shades of grey of society.

But my take still stands, the volunteers you will be working with are genuine good people, it is a very good and friendly starting point for people struggling with their self and social skills. it gets better
 
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ive done to a lot of volunteering in food banks, my role was to distribute the prepared food baskets. ive met all sorts of people there: a dude who was convicted of attempted assault with a deadly weapon doing community service, old people who are way past retirement age, obese people (lol), drug addicts, people living in poverty. it was a humbling experience for me to see the 50 shades of grey of society.

But my take still stands, the volunteers you will be working with are genuine good people, it is a very good and friendly starting point for people struggling with their self and social skills. it gets better
I could say I look “good” but I look scary basically describes as looking mad all the time and I got scars that don’t help bru
 
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The friend pill is brutal
 
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I could say I look “good” but I look scary basically describes as looking mad all the time and I got scars that don’t help bru
Good natured people wont judge you because of scars and stuff, you will find those people, even though your physical conditions dont help, there is still people who are willing to connect with you
 
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i thought we were friends but alright lol
 
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i thought we were friends but alright lol
You niggas on .org are basically the only people I talk to and can actually relate Jfl so yeah ig but it doesn’t really translate to real life sadly
 
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You niggas on .org are basically the only people I talk to and can actually relate Jfl so yeah ig but it doesn’t really translate to real life sadly
hey hey hey

i consider you an irl buddy of mine

good guy prophet
 
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I moved around a lot when I was a kid. So the only time I've ever had friends was junior year (11th grade) and then we moved again, also in college I had a lot but obviously that's not forever. Then when I was 25 I started to get in with this really cool social circle that was led by housemate and his Stacy girlfriend, but then covid happened and we all moved. Just been unlucky my entire life, like I've barely even had chances.

I finally have plans to put myself out there through my artwork and hopefully make friends and meet women that way, but I don't have the money nor the time to do it this summer, legit always something in the way.
 
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If you have even one friend your life will still be infinitely better than being a friendless chud

If you have like three good friends you’re basically set

I don’t think Ive ever made a genuine friend in my entire life, nobody has ever understood me or reciprocated the way I cared about them. It’s like a constant power imbalance that just shows up again and again. It’s a curse that follows me everywhere.

And once you’re out of high school you’re basically fucked, I have no idea how I will make a social life for myself, Ive been isolated for so long that I’m out of touch with everyone my age so they’ll think I’m even more weird, it’s more hopeless than ever with each passing day I just get more and more alienated and odd picking up weird mannerisms and shit. Extremely bleak.

Might just try to get a shitty minimum wage job if it means having people to talk to and do shit with

But that’s wishful thinking, because as a neurodivergent it’s 100x more likely people would just turn me into a lolcow or pretend I don’t exist
That’s pretty brutal but a lot of people find out even if they have so called “friends” they’re just fake mfs anyway I coped for a long time with constant substance abuse when I first realised that all my friends apart from 3 were all fake they mainly dropped me cuz my ND leaked a few too many times
 
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If you have even one friend your life will still be infinitely better than being a friendless chud

If you have like three good friends you’re basically set

I don’t think Ive ever made a genuine friend in my entire life, nobody has ever understood me or reciprocated the way I cared about them. It’s like a constant power imbalance that just shows up again and again. It’s a curse that follows me everywhere.

And once you’re out of high school you’re basically fucked, I have no idea how I will make a social life for myself, Ive been isolated for so long that I’m out of touch with everyone my age so they’ll think I’m even more weird, it’s more hopeless than ever with each passing day I just get more and more alienated and odd picking up weird mannerisms and shit. Extremely bleak.

Might just try to get a shitty minimum wage job if it means having people to talk to and do shit with

But that’s wishful thinking, because as a neurodivergent it’s 100x more likely people would just turn me into a lolcow or pretend I don’t exist
ngl my situation is worse, my whole friend group but me is 6ft and one of em is like mmtn-hmtn, bros body count is higher than like 20 i believe, it’s brutal man cus im a manlet and hardstuck mltn
 
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I moved around a lot when I was a kid. So the only time I've ever had friends was junior year (11th grade) and then we moved again, also in college I had a lot but obviously that's not forever. Then when I was 25 I started to get in with this really cool social circle that was led by housemate and his Stacy girlfriend, but then covid happened and we all moved. Just been unlucky my entire life, like I've barely even had chances.

I finally have plans to put myself out there through my artwork and hopefully make friends and meet women that way, but I don't have the money nor the time to do it this summer, legit always something in the way.
how old are u lmao
 
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That’s pretty brutal but a lot of people find out even if they have so called “friends” they’re just fake mfs anyway I coped for a long time with constant substance abuse when I first realised that all my friends apart from 3 were all fake they mainly dropped me cuz my ND leaked a few too many times
That’s how high school went for me basically, I thought I had some friends but literally the only reason they kept me around was to laugh at me and my misfortune. As soon as I stopped messaging them first for shit I never got a word back.
 
ngl my situation is worse, my whole friend group but me is 6ft and one of em is like mmtn-hmtn, bros body count is higher than like 20 i believe, it’s brutal man cus im a manlet and hardstuck mltn
You should hop on hgh if growth plates aren’t fused
 
I moved around a lot when I was a kid. So the only time I've ever had friends was junior year (11th grade) and then we moved again, also in college I had a lot but obviously that's not forever. Then when I was 25 I started to get in with this really cool social circle that was led by housemate and his Stacy girlfriend, but then covid happened and we all moved. Just been unlucky my entire life, like I've barely even had chances.

I finally have plans to put myself out there through my artwork and hopefully make friends and meet women that way, but I don't have the money nor the time to do it this summer, legit always something in the way.
Always hellish to finally get a taste of what a healthy social life is like, just to lose it as quickly as you found it

Good luck, what kind of art do you make?
 
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ngl my situation is worse, my whole friend group but me is 6ft and one of em is like mmtn-hmtn, bros body count is higher than like 20 i believe, it’s brutal man cus im a manlet and hardstuck mltn
At least you have a friend group, you could be manlet ugly and ND all at once
 
how old are u lmao

32.

Always hellish to finally get a taste of what a healthy social life is like, just to lose it as quickly as you found it

Good luck, what kind of art do you make?

Yes it's brutal. But any social experience at all is good for XP and memories so there's at least that you can keep from it. I do landscape photography.
 
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Anyone who struggle with talking to people, and making friends, dont isolate urself, genuinely keep trying, you will eventually understand social cues, behaviours, knowing whats appropriate or not, etc.

Start by making small talks in public to like older people in queues, go volunteer somewhere such as a food bank or animal shelter, you will 100% meet great virtuous people.

Dwbi theres hope 🙏🙏
 
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32.



Yes it's brutal. But any social experience at all is good for XP and memories so there's at least that you can keep from it. I do landscape photography.
holy shit unc lmao super oldhead
 
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Just give up on this. I don’t think looksmaxxing will really save you here if not NT. Despite that I used to slay a bit off apps back when it was easier I have NEVER had any friends at any point in my life except briefly in online gaming and keeping in touch with a few of the girls I went on dates with, but they clearly find me subhuman and won’t keep conversation going.
 
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that's bullshit, it becomes natural and effortless after a point
you can't fake social skill, you either are skilled or not. You will either use them or won't

faking only extends into facts or information about yourself. People do it all the time. You don't have to lie too much about yourself, only enough. Past a point, maintaining lies becomes pointless because the effort put into it outweighs the benefits you get (unless you're courting trillionaires or you're some cia kgb spy james bond)

You should socially aim as high as possible ie. as realistic for you as possible. There's often an upper limit that is constrained by other more material things such as social class and environment, before it's ever about merely lying about yourself
 
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ngl bro get that surgery but then start doing the hard work and studying social skills and how people do shit. You have more means to do this kind of work than ever before. It's literally just about sitting down, studying and researching. You need to want to get it. Nothing will ever replace or substitute that hard work, because the hard work itself is substituting for all the time you didn't intuitively learn such skills throughout your formative years, from parents or the environment. With the internet, you get access to so much information, and get to live life vicariously through so many people, that you can learn a lot and that learning can be made easier, and it can truly make your life a lot better.

As for life after highschool and college, if you didn't socially develop 24/7 through middle and high school, then college as well, then yea there will be a huge gap between your social skills and the social skills required/average social skills. It's only going to grow because the average normie is now -maxxing and also rigorously research social skills, due to ambition, wanting to succeed and get rich, using AI, YT, etc. So actually it's only going to get harder for you if you don't pick up the slack. Demand for doing such work also skyrockets especially today because people claim of a negative trend in loneliness and social skills. Better get to work. I know what I'm talking about because I've been doing this for the past year and been extremely adapting to my past and current, even for my future environments. Normal people do it ALL THE TIME. The more you're delaying that work, the worse it gets. Yes it's basically life giving you homework and if you don't do it, you literally fall behind. It absolutely is like writing a research paper or some seminar for a class, life has its own curriculum as well. Only after bridging such a gap, will you be socially successful and comfortable in college and beyond. Everybody else is navigating the same thing as well
 
every post you make is like reading from the depths of my mind
 
nobody has ever understood me or reciprocated the way I cared about them. It’s like a constant power imbalance that just shows up again and again. It’s a curse that follows me everywhere.
so real i've never been treated as first option
But that’s wishful thinking, because as a neurodivergent it’s 100x more likely people would just turn me into a lolcow or pretend I don’t exist
the comments some made about me still echo in my head it's brutal :pepeSmoke:
 

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