How bad is it to appear unthreatening/high trust?

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Out of force of habit I try to make myself seem as unthreatening around others as possible by smiling widely and having a happy look in my eyes. I stop myself from using body language that can come off as aggressive.
Should I just stop this shit? Idk why I do this? I don't want people to feel threatened by me. I used to get comments that my movement and the way I carried myself was "unnatural" and that I came off as threatening when I stared people in the eyes.

Ever since then I've tried to correct for it. Is this a bad idea?
 
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Id wager people say you look threatening because you have positively tilted eyebrows, which makes you look low trust / stern / too serious with a neutral expression.
i also guess those comments mainly came from women in your family.

honestly it depends on your goals. As far as women are concerned all that stuff doesn’t matter much. But if you are going to do a job interview it’s usually better to purposely appear higher trust and smile and all that. It all depends on context imo
 
Id wager people say you look threatening because you have positively tilted eyebrows, which makes you look low trust / stern / too serious with a neutral expression.
i also guess those comments mainly came from women in your family.

honestly it depends on your goals. As far as women are concerned all that stuff doesn’t matter much. But if you are going to do a job interview it’s usually better to purposely appear higher trust and smile and all that. It all depends on context imo
Really? I've always been told I have a kind/high trust face on here. But when people interact with and get to know me this is dispelled. At all my previous jobs I was hated LMAO. I've been working on a new persona that's more likeable and less threatening. I know it sounds edgy but I don't know myself as a person I'm hidden behind masks and I try to appear unthreatening bc without them I give off weird vibes. Not even creepy vibes, people don't say I'm creepy they always use "unnatural". Like before every action I ran it through my head as how to act in the most normal way, like an alien copying humans.
 
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Really? I've always been told I have a kind/high trust face on here. But when people interact with and get to know me this is dispelled. At all my previous jobs I was hated LMAO. I've been working on a new persona that's more likeable and less threatening. I know it sounds edgy but I don't know myself as a person I'm hidden behind masks and I try to appear unthreatening bc without them I give off weird vibes. Not even creepy vibes, people don't say I'm creepy they always use "unnatural". Like before every action I ran it through my head as how to act in the most normal way, like an alien copying humans.
The whole trustworthiness thing is a very confusing and nebulous concept in the PSL sphere.
to be honest I don't have a firm grasp of the concept myself and I'm still learning, but I always thought it was weird for you to say you were "high trust", I even told you in a past thread that you looked "cunning". I.e, low trust, because of how your eyebrows are tilted and shaped. Eyebrow placement and tilt is one of the main thing influencing how trustworthy a face looks.
Trustworthiness is a spectrum and many people fall in between. You can have a mix of trustworthy and untrustworthy features. You are not at the extreme of high trustworthiness at all imo, with your eye area you can't be.
I wager that it's the case because of that specific comment :
I came off as threatening when I stared people in the eyes.

With positively tilted eyebrows, with a neutral expression, your stare automatically looks more "aggressive" and "threatening" than someone with a neutral expression who has arched eyebrows like this :
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I could be wrong though
 
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I'm having the opposite problem smh

I look like a high-t, low trust badboy.


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Really? I've always been told I have a kind/high trust face on here. But when people interact with and get to know me this is dispelled. At all my previous jobs I was hated LMAO. I've been working on a new persona that's more likeable and less threatening. I know it sounds edgy but I don't know myself as a person I'm hidden behind masks and I try to appear unthreatening bc without them I give off weird vibes. Not even creepy vibes, people don't say I'm creepy they always use "unnatural". Like before every action I ran it through my head as how to act in the most normal way, like an alien copying humans.
So you are non-NT? Got it
 
Really? I've always been told I have a kind/high trust face on here. But when people interact with and get to know me this is dispelled. At all my previous jobs I was hated LMAO. I've been working on a new persona that's more likeable and less threatening. I know it sounds edgy but I don't know myself as a person I'm hidden behind masks and I try to appear unthreatening bc without them I give off weird vibes. Not even creepy vibes, people don't say I'm creepy they always use "unnatural". Like before every action I ran it through my head as how to act in the most normal way, like an alien copying humans.
Aspergers
 
You just sound aspie man
 
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