How do I get over my first love?

[MedMogger]

Back in April/May time this year I had a friends with benefits, and I ended up catching feelings for the girl. It had to end with her as she ended up moving far away, but we left things on good terms.

I was really dreading when she left cause I knew I’d feel like this. I just miss her so much. And not even just for the sex. I miss things like just going shopping with her, going gym with her, just lying in bed chatting with her, and just waking up to see all her texts she’d sent me.

I miss the connection we had. Whenever I’d see her we’d both be happy to see each other. And I feel she’s been the only girl that genuinely cared for me and my wellbeing.

She has been the only girl I’ve been with that I’ve loved. And it’s kind of hitting me harder every day, as more time goes since I was last with her. It’s been 4 months now since I was with her.

At first I was doing okay. Hooked up with a few other girls, and kind of just moved on. But last girl I got with, all I could think about the whole time was her. And the more girls I get with, the further away from my life she seems.

I’m thinking of just ending it all if I can’t be with her.

What should I do?

 

[enlightful]

Back in April/May time this year I had a friends with benefits, and I ended up catching feelings for the girl. It had to end with her as she ended up moving far away, but we left things on good terms.

I was really dreading when she left cause I knew I’d feel like this. I just miss her so much. And not even just for the sex. I miss things like just going shopping with her, going gym with her, just lying in bed chatting with her, and just waking up to see all her texts she’d sent me.

I miss the connection we had. Whenever I’d see her we’d both be happy to see each other. And I feel she’s been the only girl that genuinely cared for me and my wellbeing.

She has been the only girl I’ve been with that I’ve loved. And it’s kind of hitting me harder every day, as more time goes since I was last with her. It’s been 4 months now since I was with her.

At first I was doing okay. Hooked up with a few other girls, and kind of just moved on. But last girl I got with, all I could think about the whole time was her. And the more girls I get with, the further away from my life she seems.

I’m thinking of just ending it all if I can’t be with her.

What should I do?

Do you intuitively think she still has feelings for you at this point?

 

[zuffensons]

Text her maybe meetup one day

 

[browncurrycel]

Fuck other girls ig

 

[autistic_tendencies]

Imagine her taking a huge dump

 

[EvilSatanArseRapist]

Back in April/May time this year I had a friends with benefits, and I ended up catching feelings for the girl. It had to end with her as she ended up moving far away, but we left things on good terms.

I was really dreading when she left cause I knew I’d feel like this. I just miss her so much. And not even just for the sex. I miss things like just going shopping with her, going gym with her, just lying in bed chatting with her, and just waking up to see all her texts she’d sent me.

I miss the connection we had. Whenever I’d see her we’d both be happy to see each other. And I feel she’s been the only girl that genuinely cared for me and my wellbeing.

She has been the only girl I’ve been with that I’ve loved. And it’s kind of hitting me harder every day, as more time goes since I was last with her. It’s been 4 months now since I was with her.

At first I was doing okay. Hooked up with a few other girls, and kind of just moved on. But last girl I got with, all I could think about the whole time was her. And the more girls I get with, the further away from my life she seems.

I’m thinking of just ending it all if I can’t be with her.

What should I do?

Damn bro. Oxytocine done fucked you over. There is no fixing it there is only cope.

 

[MedMogger]

Do you intuitively think she still has feelings for you at this point?

Idk tbh. She is back living with her boyfriend who she was with at the time that I was hooking up with her.

We weren’t ever official. I was just her fling on the side.

 

[MedMogger]

Text her maybe meetup one day

I can’t. She lives so far away. And we agreed we weren’t meant to be anything serious, and it was only a short fling whilst she was living away from her boyfriend for a while. But I caught feelings ngl

 

[MedMogger]

Fuck other girls ig

Doesn’t work. All I can think about is her still. Maybe I could try a relationship tbf. I haven’t had anything remotely long term since her, just quick hook ups here and there. But a relationship might be a better rebound.

 

[MedMogger]

Imagine her taking a huge dump

Doesn’t put me off her even though. To me she was too beautiful, so doesn’t even disgust me.

 

[MedMogger]

Damn bro. Oxytocine done fucked you over. There is no fixing it there is only cope.

That’s what I was thinking. Maybe I’ll just always miss her and have to live with it. Of all the girls I’ve been with, I’ve never missed any like her though. She wasn’t even perfect. She had her flaws. But I still liked her despite them.

 

[twojei]

Back in April/May time this year I had a friends with benefits, and I ended up catching feelings for the girl. It had to end with her as she ended up moving far away, but we left things on good terms.

I was really dreading when she left cause I knew I’d feel like this. I just miss her so much. And not even just for the sex. I miss things like just going shopping with her, going gym with her, just lying in bed chatting with her, and just waking up to see all her texts she’d sent me.

I miss the connection we had. Whenever I’d see her we’d both be happy to see each other. And I feel she’s been the only girl that genuinely cared for me and my wellbeing.

She has been the only girl I’ve been with that I’ve loved. And it’s kind of hitting me harder every day, as more time goes since I was last with her. It’s been 4 months now since I was with her.

At first I was doing okay. Hooked up with a few other girls, and kind of just moved on. But last girl I got with, all I could think about the whole time was her. And the more girls I get with, the further away from my life she seems.

I’m thinking of just ending it all if I can’t be with her.

What should I do?

Do you really miss her or rather, do you miss what she made you feel? That's a key difference boyo. Is it her or the image of her that you made up in your mind? It is very rare honestly for humans to desire a thing because of itself, and not because of what it represents to them.

 

[EvilSatanArseRapist]

I can’t. She lives so far away. And we agreed we weren’t meant to be anything serious, and it was only a short fling whilst she was living away from her boyfriend for a while. But I caught feelings ngl

That’s what I was thinking. Maybe I’ll just always miss her and have to live with it. Of all the girls I’ve been with, I’ve never missed any like her though. She wasn’t even perfect. She had her flaws. But I still liked her despite them.

The human animal isn't meant for short flings and hook ups, as is evident by our brain, hormones and biochemistry. Once you fuck some one your brain releases a FUCK TON of bonding hormones, expecting you to be with this person for the rest of your life and growing children, doing this a bunch and then not seeing that person again is obv traumatising as fuck. Eventually you will prolly get over her but it still is kinda fucked.
Maybe tell her. Tell her that you don't agree you were nothing serious, or that could you should be more. Nothing you can lose right? You are seperated anyways.

her boyfriend

Nvm she for the streets.
(Rep posts nigga)

 

[MedMogger]

Do you really miss her or rather, do you miss what she made you feel? That's a key difference boyo. Is it her or the image of her that you made up in your mind? It is very rare honestly for humans to desire a thing because of itself, and not because of what it represents to them.

You’re right. It’s what she made me feel that I miss mostly ngl. Since I read this, I’ve actually felt wayy better about the whole situation.
To me she represented having a girlfriend, without the worry of having to think about a future with her, and just enjoy being with her. Whereas with other girls, they’ve been trying to jump into serious relationship/marriage too quick.

 

[MedMogger]

The human animal isn't meant for short flings and hook ups, as is evident by our brain, hormones and biochemistry. Once you fuck some one your brain releases a FUCK TON of bonding hormones, expecting you to be with this person for the rest of your life and growing children, doing this a bunch and then not seeing that person again is obv traumatising as fuck. Eventually you will prolly get over her but it still is kinda fucked.
Maybe tell her. Tell her that you don't agree you were nothing serious, or that could you should be more. Nothing you can lose right? You are seperated anyways.

Nvm she for the streets.
(Rep posts nigga)

Yhh makes sense tbh. It’s weird cause I know I never could spend my life with her, as my parents would never approve of her - cause of her lifestyle. And even when I went into it, I thought it’d just be a bit of fun. But Yhh bonding hormones make it all bad tbh.

I can’t tell her though. Too much pride. And Yhh as you said about “she for the streets”, she is back with her boyfriend now. Living with him. And he’s a cuck who will let her do anything, so she’s not gonna get rid of him. Plus I’m not even her type, she’s into black guys. She only wanted me cause she thought I was good looking she said.

 

[commensale]

u dont

 

[xela2008]

Why would you end it all over a girl who you didn't even have a serious relationship with lol.