How do i introduce myself to ppl?? NT MOFOS GTFIH

[hugeloser]

I've just moved into a dorm. Literally just been hiding in my room ever since moving in, said hi to a few, place is kind of empty since school first start in a week

anyway. How the fuck do you introduce yourself?

Do you just say your name, and shake their hand? What if it's a girl, shaking a girls hand feels weird, but hugging her seems weirder.

Im so autistic. Somone save me

 

[Korea]

introductions are for formal events, if u deadass have to walk up to someone n introduce urself then there are other issues.

ive never introduced myself in my life outside of formal events/scenarioes. ppl just start talking to u

 

[Toddricus]

bro its not about introducing yourself, its about getting them comfortable around you, so let them introduce themselves first and joke around with them and then introducing yourself will be a breeze

 

[Toddricus]

ask them wanna introduce yourself? each person will say different amount of info about them and when its your turn you tell about yourself on the same level of info.

no need to touch them either by a handshake, theres no point if youre not comfortable with it yet, youre better off letting them reach out for a handshake or whatever so you dont do something they dont want

 

[Toddricus]

Also it might seem weird but let these people know that you are very interested in making friends but that you are a shy guy

so that they can know that and respect it,

if you dont be upfront about it they might see you as weird

but just saying youre a shy person will make them respect it way more and they will accommodate to your shyness accordingly

 

[ScienceCel]

I've just moved into a dorm. Literally just been hiding in my room ever since moving in, said hi to a few, place is kind of empty since school first start in a week

anyway. How the fuck do you introduce yourself?

Do you just say your name, and shake their hand? What if it's a girl, shaking a girls hand feels weird, but hugging her seems weirder.

Im so autistic. Somone save me

first thing u should understand is, people love talking about themselves, they can go hours rambling about their achivements, their life, their perspective etc. you can use this to ur advantage.
Next time u see someone in ur dorm just go up to them, say hey and then compliment something, their shirt, their pants, theyre hair, anything. theyll prolly smile and say thank u or something blah blah who gaf; then proceed to ask them something about themself, ask them what major theyre taking, if they have any sports tshirt or caps or jerseys on ask them about the sport, the team.

Also, people usually feel a sense of achivement and slight superirity when they help u out with something.
u can use this to ur advantage too by instead of asking them a vauge question abt sports or their major, ask them a more specific question like, whats the places to study in campus as youve been having a hard time focusing, whats the best food sports nearby, etc, stuff like this works even better.

and remember most people are very nice and welcoming, real life isnt like org lmao. best thing would be to not overthinkg it and force urself like litearlly force urself to say something to the first person u see, whatever coems to ur mind, and by implementing this habit u can literally train urself and youll probably see differnce in less than a week.

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[Toddricus]

Everything will eventually work out dont stress it and be upfront

if my advice was valuable i can gladly go deeper

 

[Toddricus]

first thing u should understand is, people love talking about themselves, they can go hours rambling about their achivements, their life, their perspective etc. you can use this to ur advantage.
Next time u see someone in ur dorm just go up to them, say hey and then compliment something, their shirt, their pants, theyre hair, anything. theyll prolly smile and say thank u or something blah blah who gaf; then proceed to ask them something about themself, ask them what major theyre taking, if they have any sports tshirt or caps or jerseys on ask them about the sport, the team.

Also, people usually feel a sense of achivement and slight superirity when they help u out with something.
u can use this to ur advantage too by instead of asking them a vauge question abt sports or their major, ask them a more specific question like, whats the places to study in campus as youve been having a hard time focusing, whats the best food sports nearby, etc, stuff like this works even better.

and remember most people are very nice and welcoming, real life isnt like org lmao. best thing would be to not overthinkg it and force urself like litearlly force urself to say something to the first person u see, whatever coems to ur mind, and by implementing this habit u can literally train urself and youll probably see differnce in less than a week.

REP MY HIGH EFFORT REPLY AND MARK AS SOLUTION ​

good tips but OP comes off as very anxious and giving a compliment thats not genuine about some sports team or wtv is not gonna make him come off as genuine

 

[hugeloser]

Everything will eventually work out dont stress it and be upfront

if my advice was valuable i can gladly go deeper

Really appreciate the advice man

 

[tyl]

I've just moved into a dorm. Literally just been hiding in my room ever since moving in, said hi to a few, place is kind of empty since school first start in a week

anyway. How the fuck do you introduce yourself?

Do you just say your name, and shake their hand? What if it's a girl, shaking a girls hand feels weird, but hugging her seems weirder.

Im so autistic. Somone save me

Get a speaker and blast lil uzi

 

[hugeloser]

first thing u should understand is, people love talking about themselves, they can go hours rambling about their achivements, their life, their perspective etc. you can use this to ur advantage.
Next time u see someone in ur dorm just go up to them, say hey and then compliment something, their shirt, their pants, theyre hair, anything. theyll prolly smile and say thank u or something blah blah who gaf; then proceed to ask them something about themself, ask them what major theyre taking, if they have any sports tshirt or caps or jerseys on ask them about the sport, the team.

Also, people usually feel a sense of achivement and slight superirity when they help u out with something.
u can use this to ur advantage too by instead of asking them a vauge question abt sports or their major, ask them a more specific question like, whats the places to study in campus as youve been having a hard time focusing, whats the best food sports nearby, etc, stuff like this works even better.

and remember most people are very nice and welcoming, real life isnt like org lmao. best thing would be to not overthinkg it and force urself like litearlly force urself to say something to the first person u see, whatever coems to ur mind, and by implementing this habit u can literally train urself and youll probably see differnce in less than a week.

REP MY HIGH EFFORT REPLY AND MARK AS SOLUTION ​

Woooow. Thanks for the effort and help brother

 

[ScienceCel]

good tips but OP comes off as very anxious and giving a compliment thats not genuine about some sports team or wtv is not gonna make him come off as genuine

true, i still would reccomend just to initiate conversation, the best way to learn this skill is step out of ur comfort zone and actually do it imo

 

[Toddricus]

if you make friendship about making someone comfortable around you,

you will get 1000 miles farther in social skills and getting close to them than if you focused on being cool to them or any other bs

 

[hugeloser]

good tips but OP comes off as very anxious and giving a compliment thats not genuine about some sports team or wtv is not gonna make him come off as genuine

yeah ur probably right even if it is a good "trick". I'm actually very good at public speaking and presentation, but i have a lot of self depricating thoughts leading to myself believing everybody basically hates me and hates talking to me, it kind of sucks. sort of leads me to just avoid speaking to anyone

 

[ScienceCel]

Woooow. Thanks for the effort and help brother

this might sound a lil retarded but i think u should read certian books about this topic

personal reccomendation: The Laws of Human Nature (Robert Greene); how to win friends and influence people

my dad was a big book advocate and got me into reading these, really do help alot in ur day to day interactions and really worth it

 

[hugeloser]

this might sound a lil retarded but i think u should read certian books about this topic

personal reccomendation: The Laws of Human Nature (Robert Greene); how to win friends and influence people

my dad was a big book advocate and got me into reading these, really do help alot in ur day to day interactions and really worth it

I'll for sure check it out man. Thanks so much

 

[ScienceCel]

yw man. hope all goes well for u

I'll for sure check it out man. Thanks so much

 

[Toddricus]

yeah ur probably right even if it is a good "trick". I'm actually very good at public speaking and presentation, but i have a lot of self depricating thoughts leading to myself believing everybody basically hates me and hates talking to me, it kind of sucks. sort of leads me to just avoid speaking to anyone

i used to have that on a very deep level i get what you mean,

the feeling that someones laughing at your behind ur back or sum

i still do but way less and my therapist identified it as being insecure in nature

you need to be more ruthless and realize if someone doesnt enjoy your presence THEY SHOULD BE DEAD TO YOU

why are you invested in someone that does not enjoy your presence? I know for a fact theres people that you dont like talking to or ppl you dont like,

and thats okay,

if someone hates you, its genuinely not your problem and you gotta stop making it your problem, im speaking from experience

let what someone feels about you be their problem and not your problem,

you dont owe them being someone they like talking to

be yourself and anyone who doesnt like the true you should mean nothing to you

 

[Toddricus]

this might sound a lil retarded but i think u should read certian books about this topic

personal reccomendation: The Laws of Human Nature (Robert Greene); how to win friends and influence people

my dad was a big book advocate and got me into reading these, really do help alot in ur day to day interactions and really worth it

bro the last thing he needs is books by the dude who looks like this

 

[ScienceCel]

bro the last thing he needs is books by the dude who looks like this

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no its pretty good, very scientific based evidence, doesnt rly cover appearnce aspect just social habits and cues, amazing for high inhib NTcels