How do you genuinely change friend groups

[Sxntana]

Im fucking tired of my „friends“
They dont wanna do shit and enjoy life with me and are js dorks overall, like the type of people with nothing special to them, im just around them because otherwise i would be alone all the time and i feel like that would be even worse
The problem is if i made new friends i would need to establish myself in friendgroups that existed since years ago and would be a fucking outcast
Im also insanely anxious of seriously talking to people, i mostly only talk to other people seconds at a time to make bad jokes so the athmosphere isnt dead around me
And even so finding people i can be friends with is also impossible, like no one has any special properties to them anymore. Go home, play games, go outside with friends every few weeks, no niche interest, no one listens to good music or wants to do anything fun
What do i do guys i dont wanna waste my teenage years in a boring friend group full of bots

 

[IStalkMyself]

i had to go through that

its bullshit

the way i solved it, is having 1 on 1 friends much easier

 

[Laticular]

Im fucking tired of my „friends“
They dont wanna do shit and enjoy life with men and are js dorks overall, like the type of people with nothing special to them, im just around them because otherwise i would be alone all the time and i feel like that would be even worse
The problem is if i made new friends i would need to establish myself in friendgroups that existed since years ago and would be a fucking outcast
Im also insanely anxious of seriously talking to people, i mostly only talk to other people seconds at a time to make bad jokes so the athmosphere isnt dead around me
And even so finding people i can be friends with is also impossible, lile no one has any special propertys to them anymore. Go home, play games, go outside with friends every few weeks, no niche interest, no one listens to good music or wants to do anything fun
What do i do guys i dont wanna waste my teenage years in a boring friend group full of bots

Damn, that sounds rough. Could I get approx age (high school, middle, university, 20s, etc) so I can give a better tailored response?

 

[Sxntana]

Damn, that sounds rough. Could I get approx age (high school, middle, university, 20s, etc) so I can give a better tailored response?

Im 15, gonna go go to 11th grade next year
Im in germany so i dont have these types of schools but ig gymnasium would be equivalent to highschool

 

[jozsef316@gmail]

dorks

 

[Sxntana]

i had to go through that

its bullshit

the way i solved it, is having 1 on 1 friends much easier

Yeah i thought about that im just like really scared when talking to people i dont know insanely well
I have to think about every response i make over 10 seconds long so i dont end up saying shit out of impulse and hurting people, but that just ends up with me barely ever talking

 

[0_angularity_0]

DNR

 

[160cmcurry]

Im fucking tired of my „friends“
They dont wanna do shit and enjoy life with me and are js dorks overall, like the type of people with nothing special to them, im just around them because otherwise i would be alone all the time and i feel like that would be even worse
The problem is if i made new friends i would need to establish myself in friendgroups that existed since years ago and would be a fucking outcast
Im also insanely anxious of seriously talking to people, i mostly only talk to other people seconds at a time to make bad jokes so the athmosphere isnt dead around me
And even so finding people i can be friends with is also impossible, like no one has any special properties to them anymore. Go home, play games, go outside with friends every few weeks, no niche interest, no one listens to good music or wants to do anything fun
What do i do guys i dont wanna waste my teenage years in a boring friend group full of bots

cause you’re surrounded by subhuman friends. fix your looks to be surrounded by ‘friends’ that wanna actually do shit outside

 

[L(oser)ooksmaxxer]

Don’t try that shit it’s retarded u risk ending up a loser with 0 friends which is a death sentence after 15

 

[Sxntana]

cause you’re surrounded by subhuman friends. fix your looks to be surrounded by ‘friends’ that wanna actually do shit outside

Looks play little role in friendship and i will die on that hill
I have one really good looking friend aswell, we both were into lm but hes the same and just never does anything so

 

[160cmcurry]

Looks play little role in friendship

they do unfortunately play a role in who you’ll be friends with. maybe it’s your environment that’s bad filled with subhumans.

 

[Laticular]

Oh, that's cool. At that age I would say that it wouldn't be the hardest to make new friends. Furthermore, those dork, unambitious friends will not just be holding you back from pursuing your ambitions, but also from making new friends who have ambitions, goals, dreams, a want to do stuff. I recommend trying to detach from them. Detaching allows you to become, sort of like a "free agent" (sorry I like basketball). A lot of times, you're affiliated with being "unambitious," because your friends are unambitious, which it seems you aren't. Please don't listen to all the people saying, "subhuman friends," "improve looks," sure, but that has no correlation (argue what you want). What matters is, "will that person make me a better person?" (which your current friends aren't doing), "will they help me, will i feel nice with them, will they make me feel good?" These are all crucial points. In high-school, you have the opportunity to branch out, easily make new friends. Do you share a class with someone you want to be friends with (someone with ambition)? Anyone on a sport team you're also on (common interest)? In general, you want to be friends with them, you see someone alone who looks cool, just go up, talk to them. Be confident, it's not cope, it helps. It helped me make MANY great friends, become more popular (I realize that doesn't matter, only perk is I get a wider array of options on who to ACTUALLY be friends with). And, I'm sorry if this comes off bad, I kinda want to, just because you're german, here's a song I think will make you feel better:

 

[Sxntana]

Oh, that's cool. At that age I would say that it wouldn't be the hardest to make new friends. Furthermore, those dork, unambitious friends will not just be holding you back from pursuing your ambitions, but also from making new friends who have ambitions, goals, dreams, a want to do stuff. I recommend trying to detach from them. Detaching allows you to become, sort of like a "free agent" (sorry I like basketball). A lot of times, you're affiliated with being "unambitious," because your friends are unambitious, which it seems you aren't. Please don't listen to all the people saying, "subhuman friends," "improve looks," sure, but that has no correlation (argue what you want). What matters is, "will that person make me a better person?" (which your current friends aren't doing), "will they help me, will i feel nice with them, will they make me feel good?" These are all crucial points. In high-school, you have the opportunity to branch out, easily make new friends. Do you share a class with someone you want to be friends with (someone with ambition)? Anyone on a sport team you're also on (common interest)? In general, you want to be friends with them, you see someone alone who looks cool, just go up, talk to them. Be confident, it's not cope, it helps. It helped me make MANY great friends, become more popular (I realize that doesn't matter, only perk is I get a wider array of options on who to ACTUALLY be friends with). And, I'm sorry if this comes off bad, I kinda want to, just because you're german, here's a song I think will make you feel better:

I fucking love you bro alr ill try to talk to some people
Thank you for taking the time to actually think out this response

 

[Laticular]

I fucking love you bro alr ill try to talk to some people
Thank you for taking the time to actually think out this response

I love you too bro (don't strike me mods no homo), experienced this shit too. Quite frankly, it sucks, but you'll get through it. Good, ambitioned friends will take you far in life. They're crucial, seek them out.

 

[Whatever]

Do you play any sports or musical instruments? You could take one up and make friends that way, I was very uninvolved when I was your age and didn’t really have friends until college.

Maybe not yet but when you’re old enough you could get a job somewhere both guys and girls your age work. Like working at a restaurant, car wash, golf course, lifeguard at a pool. I met my first girl working at a restaurant.

 

[Sxntana]

Do you play any sports or musical instruments? You could take one up and make friends that way, I was very uninvolved when I was your age and didn’t really have friends until college.

Maybe not yet but when you’re old enough you could get a job somewhere both guys and girls your age work. Like working at a restaurant, car wash, golf course, lifeguard at a pool. I met my first girl working at a restaurant.

i do play the piano, but i only take and can only take 1 on 1 lessons, also im insanely unathletic and its really hard for me to gain weight so its gonna be pretty hard to do a job where u have to see my body
Either way youd have to be 16 for these
Im gonna get newly mixed classed in a few months, ill js have to pray i get a good seating neighbour or some shit
Thanks for the advice tho