How do you speak to women?

[Went2Jupiter]

As an ND male I suck at speaking to strangers in general of there is a chance that we speak again (im pretty okay at speaking to strangers in public since i know if I suck at it it’s okay). I got a crush on this Girl a year above me. Shes kinda Ashbie adjacent (oneitis for a fictional character, it’s over i know) and her voice is SO cute! She is in the same enviromental/social equality group as me (sounds super performative i know, but i do volunteer for charitable organizations) and i have no idea how to start talking to her. I stimmed so hard at our last meeting too, way more than i do in class. Im so nervous around her, i kept looking at her and she might have seen it too, im not sure though. I kinda prowled through every student in our highschool database until i found her name and class, but her IG is private so i can't even study about her. Does anyone have any idea how i can start speaking with her and maybe even tips to make talking succesful, im desperate.

 

[RedDragonSlayer67]

Confidence or it never happening

 

[Went2Jupiter]

Confidence or it never happening

But dude shes so cute and im already a nervous wreck always. Shes also graduating this year and im a year below so i HAVE to make something happen before summer comes around. Im currently just working on getting crazy shredded and growing my hair out while clearing my skin up but she does'nt seem to be a girl impressed purely by looks (HUGE plus) and i have no idea how to speak to her, im nervous just thinking about her

 

[Went2Jupiter]

Confidence or it never happening

I just repped you to ping you. Bro i have no idea what to do and none of these niggas is getting on the thread wtf do i doooo

 

[trueillyrian]

As an ND male I suck at speaking to strangers in general of there is a chance that we speak again (im pretty okay at speaking to strangers in public since i know if I suck at it it’s okay). I got a crush on this Girl a year above me. Shes kinda Ashbie adjacent (oneitis for a fictional character, it’s over i know) and her voice is SO cute! She is in the same enviromental/social equality group as me (sounds super performative i know, but i do volunteer for charitable organizations) and i have no idea how to start talking to her. I stimmed so hard at our last meeting too, way more than i do in class. Im so nervous around her, i kept looking at her and she might have seen it too, im not sure though. I kinda prowled through every student in our highschool database until i found her name and class, but her IG is private so i can't even study about her. Does anyone have any idea how i can start speaking with her and maybe even tips to make talking succesful, im desperate.

has she shown any sort of IOIs to you?

 

[Went2Jupiter]

has she shown any sort of IOIs to you?

We have never spoken HOWEVER that means she has not shown to NOT be possible feel me

 

[howuglyami]

Make her pants wet by accident

 

[Went2Jupiter]

Make her pants wet by accident

Should i ab reveal super obviously? Like just take my whole shirt off and flex in front of her or is that too much?

 

[trueillyrian]

We have never spoken HOWEVER that means she has not shown to NOT be possible feel me

I mean if you’re relatively good looking and you just try to place yourself in situations where she’s more likely to talk to you, go for it brodie

 

[howuglyami]

Should i ab reveal super obviously? Like just take my whole shirt off and flex in front of her or is that too much?

Make your shirt wet by accident. You know what. Just make both of you wet by accident so you have to undress. Talk will come naturally.

 

[Went2Jupiter]

Make your shirt wet by accident. You know what. Just make both of you wet by accident so you have to undress. Talk will come naturally.

I mean we only see eachother twice a month between classes under the stairs for the group meetings where she sits with her 2 female friends and im also the Only guy in the group. Idrk how any of us would accidentally get wet, there is a group hangout right in summer but I Think thats cutting it too close to try and establish a connection right as she graduates

 

[evexoria]

i just speak to my mother and waitress at a restourant

 

[riverc]

genuinely just talk to them like their guys but be politer

 

[howuglyami]

I mean we only see eachother twice a month between classes under the stairs for the group meetings where she sits with her 2 female friends and im also the Only guy in the group. Idrk how any of us would accidentally get wet, there is a group hangout right in summer but I Think thats cutting it too close to try and establish a connection right as she graduates

Take a mentos in your mouth and drink zero Pepsi.

 

[howuglyami]

On a serious note, don’t overthink it and just talk.

 

[Went2Jupiter]

On a serious note, don’t overthink it and just talk.

She a year older tho and i dont rlly have any reasons to start convo except my one idea which is to ask if she wanna be red cross school ambassadors with me since im the only one who chose to be ambassador, then if she say yes i can get her contact and socials and we can text and stuff

 

[Went2Jupiter]

genuinely just talk to them like their guys but be politer

But bro shes older and shes super cute and her voice sexy and like shes just perfect

 

[Fynn]

well most of the time they come up to me

 

[Went2Jupiter]

i just speak to my mother and waitress at a restourant

Fairs bro, i aint spoke to a woman in months except my teachers and my mom, and my class is 27 girls 3 guys (me included)

 

[Went2Jupiter]

well most of the time they come up to me

 

[howuglyami]

She a year older tho and i dont rlly have any reasons to start convo except my one idea which is to ask if she wanna be red cross school ambassadors with me since im the only one who chose to be ambassador, then if she say yes i can get her contact and socials and we can text and stuff

Just tell her you find her cute bro

 

[Went2Jupiter]

I mean if you’re relatively good looking and you just try to place yourself in situations where she’s more likely to talk to you, go for it brodie

Im above average at our school but shes like my DREAM girl im way too nervous to speak with her

 

[howuglyami]

Try to imagine how it would be if it works out and focus on the feeling.

 

[Went2Jupiter]

Try to imagine how it would be if it works out and focus on the feeling.

I mean i daydream about a romantisized fantasy of us

 

[howuglyami]

So just keep on to this feeling when you speak to her

 

[Went2Jupiter]

So just keep on to this feeling when you speak to her

I just get super nervous around her, i always stim at school but its so much more intense when i think of her, i can't keep my body still ever and when we had a meeting with the group and our eyes locked i had no control of my legs anymore they were twitching harder than ever.

 

[howuglyami]

If it’s this bad I don’t know what you can do.

 

[evexoria]

Fairs bro, i aint spoke to a woman in months except my teachers and my mom, and my class is 27 girls 3 guys (me included)

27girl 3guy? what the fuck bro you have to lock in

 

[ndslth8r]

As an ND male I suck at speaking to strangers in general of there is a chance that we speak again (im pretty okay at speaking to strangers in public since i know if I suck at it it’s okay). I got a crush on this Girl a year above me. Shes kinda Ashbie adjacent (oneitis for a fictional character, it’s over i know) and her voice is SO cute! She is in the same enviromental/social equality group as me (sounds super performative i know, but i do volunteer for charitable organizations) and i have no idea how to start talking to her. I stimmed so hard at our last meeting too, way more than i do in class. Im so nervous around her, i kept looking at her and she might have seen it too, im not sure though. I kinda prowled through every student in our highschool database until i found her name and class, but her IG is private so i can't even study about her. Does anyone have any idea how i can start speaking with her and maybe even tips to make talking succesful, im desperate.

Ask about a school thing, maybe a project or something u have in common, then give her a compliment

 

[Went2Jupiter]

If it’s this bad I don’t know what you can do.

Is it over for ND's? Am i doomed to forever be alone

 

[Went2Jupiter]

27girl 3guy? what the fuck bro you have to lock in

Nah theres only one decent looking girl and she has a boyfriend, im crushing on an upperclassman too

 

[Went2Jupiter]

Ask about a school thing, maybe a project or something u have in common, then give her a compliment

Shes a year above we dont share much stuff, i genuinly only have 5 openings to speak with her this year. Ask her if she wants to be Co-Ambassadors with me, we have 3 shared events from the group (one of which we might both sleep in the same quarter, its 4 people with 2 and 2 sleeping quarters) a youth debate and a day where we walk around handing out free positive newspapers surrounding global news. Then also our group end of year get together.

 

[ndslth8r]

Shes a year above we dont share much stuff, i genuinly only have 5 openings to speak with her this year. Ask her if she wants to be Co-Ambassadors with me, we have 3 shared events from the group (one of which we might both sleep in the same quarter, its 4 people with 2 and 2 sleeping quarters) a youth debate and a day where we walk around handing out free positive newspapers surrounding global news. Then also our group end of year get together.

Then ask about that, or ask for advice on one of these things. For example “do you know how to prepare (blank), for (blank) event?”, after she answers, you can follow up with: “thanks, (compliment) btw”. When giving a compliment make sure it’s casual but also specific, like her outfit, maybe her shoes, her hair, etc. something she put effort into.

 

[Went2Jupiter]

Then ask about that, or ask for advice on one of these things. For example “do you know how to prepare (blank), for (blank) event?”, after she answers, you can follow up with: “thanks, (compliment) btw”. When giving a compliment make sure it’s casual but also specific, like her outfit, maybe her shoes, her hair, etc. something she put effort into.

Trueee i might just be overthinking it. Im just so set on getting her socials cause if i dont im scared we wont progress our relationship enough this year and when she graduates it'll all be over

 

[ndslth8r]

Trueee i might just be overthinking it. Im just so set on getting her socials cause if i dont im scared we wont progress our relationship enough this year and when she graduates it'll all be over

This happened to me lol, after my crush graduated I texted her we had a short convo and then never interacted ever again :/ just shoot ur shot who cares

 

[Went2Jupiter]

This happened to me lol, after my crush graduated I texted her we had a short convo and then never interacted ever again :/ just shoot ur shot who cares

I DO i thought love was dead, i cried over the idea that love has been murdered by modernity before i would get to experience it, now that i have this crush on her it feels like it might still be a chance to love in my life, i can't fumble this girl

 

[trueillyrian]

Im above average at our school but shes like my DREAM girl im way too nervous to speak with her

what is she, no overrate or bias?

 

[Went2Jupiter]

what is she, no overrate or bias?

My dream girl bhai To me shes more attractive than valeria mazza, obviously not pure physical but its her voice, her smile, the way she carries herself, the values she holds, the way she makes me feel. I think this is love at first sight