How the fuck does anyone live without validation?

[New Poster]

If I’m not fucking, getting compliments and Iois, Im the most miserable cunt in existence. I start getting negative and bitter in like a few days of isolation. I can’t imagine living years of ugliness. I road raged out once on some old man who probably didn’t even do anything wrong because I couldn’t get out and slay and I got a few iods from randos. I can’t imagine the life of a normie who barely ever gets laid with subpar women. How is it even possible to go to work when thats your life?

 

[ImSomeone]

You’ll never know how good having something is if you’ve never had it

 

[New Poster]

You’ll never know how good having something is if you’ve never had it

Yeah I guess your body acclimatizes to the lack of validation like living in extreme heat or cold

 

[dreamz]

You ldar on your free time go to your job depressed and keep living like that

 

[Napoleon1800]

If I’m not fucking, getting compliments and Iois, Im the most miserable cunt in existence. I start getting negative and bitter in like a few days of isolation. I can’t imagine living years of ugliness. I road raged out once on some old man who probably didn’t even do anything wrong because I couldn’t get out and slay and I got a few iods from randos. I can’t imagine the life of a normie who barely ever gets laid with subpar women. How is it even possible to go to work when thats your life?

what I came to realise is that even though I say I hate my existence of rotting and being lonely and having no social life and sexual experience and fun and am in complete anhedonia in the peak of my youth, and that i would do anything to 180 my life, the fact that I’ve spent living as such for many years proves I’m actually happy to be here, I’m comfortable and content. If you were truly uncomfortable, let’s say you were dropped on a floor full of spikes, you would not rest a second until you’re out of there. So clearly, I didn’t hate my existence enough to do everything in my power to escape it. Once I had that realisation, I hated myself even more but I began to feel more and more motivated to make changes

 

[real_rxz]

If I’m not fucking, getting compliments and Iois, Im the most miserable cunt in existence. I start getting negative and bitter in like a few days of isolation. I can’t imagine living years of ugliness. I road raged out once on some old man who probably didn’t even do anything wrong because I couldn’t get out and slay and I got a few iods from randos. I can’t imagine the life of a normie who barely ever gets laid with subpar women. How is it even possible to go to work when thats your life?

The one compliment i got like 5 years ago is saving my life

 

[itsoverforyoubro]

I strive to earn it and ignore it when I get it

 

[New Poster]

You ldar on your free time go to your job depressed and keep living like that

neets and rotters get away with this, but there’s an army of normies who somehow work 50+ hours and do productive shit in their spare time for no pussy

 

[isis_Bleach]

that’s how they live their whole life. it becomes their normal

 

[Napoleon1800]

If I’m not fucking, getting compliments and Iois, Im the most miserable cunt in existence. I start getting negative and bitter in like a few days of isolation. I can’t imagine living years of ugliness. I road raged out once on some old man who probably didn’t even do anything wrong because I couldn’t get out and slay and I got a few iods from randos. I can’t imagine the life of a normie who barely ever gets laid with subpar women. How is it even possible to go to work when thats your life?

I get this sensation of suffocation when I realise I’m supposed to be at the peak of my life right now and I only get one chance, that every passing day that I miss out on enjoying my youth is forever gone, yet I was fucked by life and was a rotting piece of shit myself as well, and how behind I am. It’s a very brutal feeling and makes you realise you are dying a slow death

 

[Jacoblee]

no clue tbh

 

[dreamz]

neets and rotters get away with this, but there’s an army of normies who somehow work 50+ hours and do productive shit in their spare time for no pussy

quite brutal isn’t it?

 

[Jacoblee]

I get this sensation of suffocation when I realise I’m supposed to be at the peak of my life right now and I only get one chance, that every passing day that I miss out on enjoying my youth is forever gone, yet I was fucked by life and was a rotting piece of shit myself as well, and how behind I am. It’s a very brutal feeling and makes you realise you are dying a slow death

whats ur rate thats sad

 

[New Poster]

what I came to realise is that even though I say I hate my existence of rotting and being lonely and having no social life and sexual experience and fun and am in complete anhedonia in the peak of my youth, and that i would do anything to 180 my life, the fact that I’ve spent living as such for many years proves I’m actually happy to be here, I’m comfortable and content. If you were truly uncomfortable, let’s say you were dropped on a floor full of spikes, you would not rest a second until you’re out of there. So clearly, I didn’t hate my existence enough to do everything in my power to escape it. Once I had that realisation, I hated myself even more but I began to feel more and more motivated to make changes

Not having motivation makes sense when there’s no reward

 

[ICXCLuvr]

U might just be mentally ill

Ofc it’s needed to some basic degree but with the way ur personally describing it I think that’s just a you problem

 

[New Poster]

U might just be mentally ill

I post here, so yeah

 

[Napoleon1800]

Not having motivation makes sense when there’s no reward

yes but it’s a thing where you need to see success to be motivated to keep going but you can’t ever see success in the first place if you are not motivated enough to make changes (grinding money to get procedures/surgeries done, gymcelling, building comfort with talking to women after years of being abused dog etc)

 

[Napoleon1800]

whats ur rate thats sad

Sub5/sub4

 

[ICXCLuvr]

I post here, so yeah

Na I’m normal

 

[sonic55555]

If I’m not fucking, getting compliments and Iois, Im the most miserable cunt in existence. I start getting negative and bitter in like a few days of isolation. I can’t imagine living years of ugliness. I road raged out once on some old man who probably didn’t even do anything wrong because I couldn’t get out and slay and I got a few iods from randos. I can’t imagine the life of a normie who barely ever gets laid with subpar women. How is it even possible to go to work when thats your life?

yeah pretty brutal. just be chad i guess

 

[New Poster]

Na I’m normal

 

[Napoleon1800]

Na I’m normal

You have double the posts he has in half the time

 

[sonic55555]

neets and rotters get away with this, but there’s an army of normies who somehow work 50+ hours and do productive shit in their spare time for no pussy

i admire them. If i got no female validation then nothing in the world could make me go to a job for 8 hours a day

 

[Sett]

what I came to realise is that even though I say I hate my existence of rotting and being lonely and having no social life and sexual experience and fun and am in complete anhedonia in the peak of my youth, and that i would do anything to 180 my life, the fact that I’ve spent living as such for many years proves I’m actually happy to be here, I’m comfortable and content. If you were truly uncomfortable, let’s say you were dropped on a floor full of spikes, you would not rest a second until you’re out of there. So clearly, I didn’t hate my existence enough to do everything in my power to escape it. Once I had that realisation, I hated myself even more but I began to feel more and more motivated to make changes

 

[ICXCLuvr]

You have double the posts he has in half the time

I post while watching YouTube or sports in half screen, it’s pretty easy + I reply to every single quote

Why u gotta be on dick, I swear racking up posts is so easy. Why am I even justifying shit to u

 

[ICXCLuvr]

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people swear this is cope but it beats being in irl friend groups with shitty dynamics, I just have school friends although I’ve been invited a few times

 

[Napoleon1800]

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fuck this makes me wanna get high again and not deal with my depressive thoughts

it’s partially true. 80% of the reason is my genetics and environment, I hate being lonely and having my youth wasted I don’t want this shit, I actually think I’m a very socially orientated person genetically but I’m blocked by those factors. tho I’ve never rlly made a lot of effort to try and make changes until recently so it is my fault too

 

[Sett]

fuck this makes me wanna get high again and not deal with my depressive thoughts

it’s partially true. 80% of the reason is my genetics and environment, I hate being lonely and having my youth wasted I don’t want this shit, I actually think I’m a very socially orientated person genetically but I’m blocked by those factors. tho I’ve never rlly made a lot of effort to try and make changes until recently so it is my fault too

Its okay brah, but you have to realize that nothing good comes from relapsing. A temporary high will never fill the place of eudaemonia.

Past actions and young relationships are three times gone and never coming back.
Only thing we can do now is learn from past experiences and make conscious decisions for a better future.
Loneliness feels good because youve grown accustomed to it, but the fact is that it is inherently bad, youve just numbed out the pain, it is comfortable yeah, but the phrase "comfort kills dreams" isnt just a cliche as you now know. The world has so much to offer but we choose to stay trapped, not because we arent free, opposite, because we are free to do exactly as we please and thats scary cause we are responsible for our actions.

Choosing not to socialize might protect you from getting hurt, but it leaves you feeling hollow from the lack of social connection.

After all, you reap what you sow

 

[Napoleon1800]

Its okay brah, but you have to realize that nothing good comes from relapsing. A temporary high will never fill the place of eudaemonia.

Past actions and young relationships are three times gone and never coming back.
Only thing we can do now is learn from past experiences and make conscious decisions for a better future.
Loneliness feels good because youve grown accustomed to it, but the fact is that it is inherently bad, youve just numbed out the pain, it is comfortable yeah, but the phrase "comfort kills dreams" isnt just a cliche as you now know. The world has so much to offer but we choose to stay trapped, not because we arent free, opposite, because we are free to do exactly as we please and thats scary cause we are responsible for our actions.
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Choosing not to socialize might protect you from getting hurt, but it leaves you feeling hollow from the lack of social connection.
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After all, you reap what you sow

Yes this is all true, though I think society and the world has effectively forced subpar men into this situation. This is how they prevent bad genes from spreading. Any time a subpar male died childless, whether by suicide or age or whatnot, that’s a win for evolution. This is antithetical to human nature, to rot in isolation, I don’t think any guy in this situation actually wants it and enjoys it, like if they had the choice to live a social life they would choose it most likely.

The problem is that the very world you’re operating in pushes you to rot away. If we take the example of that bird in the cage. If the bird knew that if it flew out it would get immediately hunted by a predator and it’s wings aren’t strong enough to escape, then it won’t take that risk because it’s discomfort with no realistic potential for reward.

That’s the crux of the problem, if you are ugly, short, ethnic, ND etc, you know and have been conditioned through negative feedback from others that socialising only brings poor outcomes. Those traits need to be fundamentally changed for you to then have the confidence and security to socialise

So then it comes down to “are you able to alter those traits and do it in time”, which is where I think me and many other guys in this space fall apart. Either it’s something that you just can’t do, your base is so bad that it’s futile wasting your energy trying to change it as you won’t get the outcome you want, the possibility is not there, or it’s possible within the reasonable time frame but you lack the motivation to put the intense amount of work needed because your brain is conditioned to low dopamine. Then it’s a combination of effectively a chemical imbalance/mental illness and your own fault.

 

[Seth Walsh]

If I’m not fucking, getting compliments and Iois, Im the most miserable cunt in existence. I start getting negative and bitter in like a few days of isolation. I can’t imagine living years of ugliness. I road raged out once on some old man who probably didn’t even do anything wrong because I couldn’t get out and slay and I got a few iods from randos. I can’t imagine the life of a normie who barely ever gets laid with subpar women. How is it even possible to go to work when thats your life?

Your 40s, 50s, 60s etc will be giga brutal if you can't live without sexual validation