iqletandrew73
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so I'm 18 now, turning 19 this year and all my life I only had friends at school (classmates mostly) or at sports (football team, etc.) so I never really had a close or best friend I can spend time randomly whenever I want to in the city. I wouldn't say I'm an introvert guy, more like an extrovert but since I never got invited to parties (I lied, I was invited to one of my old friend's birthday parties a few times when we were 8, 9, 10, and maybe 11 and did some sleepovers but that's it) I just chose to act or remain as an introvert one. This meant I spent my summer holidays alone playing story games, watching movies at night and sometimes just staring at the wall thinking what I'm doing with my life and will this cycle ever end. This phase I think began during Covid-19 and the pandemic, but even before that when school finished I just went home, did my homework, went to training if I had that day and just sleep. The only positive thing about my childhood was these years from kindergarten to elementary. Since then when I play I'm not even trying to find online friends because I know later on eventually I'll get bored and just ignore them. I tried different hobbies (3D rendering, PCB board electronics and like basic arduino circuits) but all of this were only singleplayer if I can say that. Right now I don't even have the motivation to just go out to public parties on my own because I know it'll just make me feel better for a few minutes then just disappoint me, also I'm not into drinking, cigarettes or drugs so probably this is one of the main reasons I cannot socialise easily with new people my age. My only hope is university (1.5 years from now on) to make some new friends, but I don't have too much belief in that either. My parents got also divorced when I was 7 so I only met my mother every 2 weeks for a day, and even then we were just talking about basic stuffs like how's school going and etc. My dad had to work a little bit more because of this (raising me and my sister alone) so even when he's home we just greet each other, talk about some basic stuffs and make dinner. I never had a true connection with my sister, to be honest I never had the feeling to get to know her. I probably lack mother love and have mom-complexity and also socialising skills. I can't invite people to my house also because our house is a little bit small (we're mid class, not poor though) and don't want them to laught at me for it. I can't even think of anything other than moving out later on, start rebuilding everything and take small steps. But until then, what should I do to survive these last years in loneliness? I'm thinking about going to the gym at summer to feel more positive about my body (it needs tons of work, I'm skinny with small amount of muscles) and yh that's it.
Please don't jfl at me or spam DNR in the replies, I really need advices because right now I don't see no point in living life (if I can't be beautiful, goated reference lol).
Have a great day and thanks for reading if you made it this far
Please don't jfl at me or spam DNR in the replies, I really need advices because right now I don't see no point in living life (if I can't be beautiful, goated reference lol).
Have a great day and thanks for reading if you made it this far
