How to deal with low self esteem?

[Uglyandfat]

I know looksmaxxing is a good way which im currently lean maxing (walking plus keto down 8 pounds already) plus saving up for surgeries but in the mean time what can I do to push these feelings back? it does not limit me socially I just have major trust issues with every female that has showed interest believing they thought i was ugly just using me or some shit and its fucking my nt badly and its affecting my looks as well with the constant stress, any tips?

 

[Deleted member 756]

Age?

 

[Uglyandfat]

Age?

18

 

[Deleted member 756]

18

You need to looksmax and just see what happens

 

[Uglyandfat]

You need to looksmax and just see what happens

yeah. ill just deal with the feelings in the mean time ig.

 

[Deleted member 4797]

Mog women (Pimpmax)

No other way, 95%+ of successful men are still cucks with hidden insecurities.

 

[Uglyandfat]

Mog women (Pimpmax)

No other way, 95%+ of successful men are still cucks with hidden insecurities.

i dont understand how if there is a god why he would make quality of life completely up to fucking chance sucks that lots of us have to get surgery to get a chance to look better then average when some are born with top tier looks

 

[Deleted member 4797]

i dont understand how if there is a god why he would make quality of life completely up to fucking chance sucks that lots of us have to get surgery to get a chance to look better then average when some are born with top tier looks

Maybe God made Earth a shitty place, to test our moral character, if we can remain righteous and have faith through all that, before being accepted into Heaven.

 

[Nerfmonk]

Maybe God made Earth a shitty place, to test our moral character, if we can remain righteous and have faith through all that, before being accepted into Heaven.

Or maybe because there is no god and there is no reason what so ever to belive there is

 

[Deleted member 4797]

Or maybe because there is no god and there is no reason what so ever to belive there is

For bad to exist there must be good. Same way that for black to exist there must be white.

 

[TopzCat1]

Just be confident bro

 

[randomvanish]

by stopping being uglyandfat

 

[Uglyandfat]

by stopping being uglyandfat

solid advice

 

[randomvanish]

solid advice

seriously, i was fat. being fat make it impossible to be confident. unless you're bluepilled as hell.

 

[DatNibba11]

Focus on yourself nigga what u doing crying about what females thinking of u fuckin autisitc shit come on now my brother listen focus yo shit if they hate they hate if they love they love. you do you become a narrisitst or whatever my nigga

 

[Yusu]

Focus on yourself nigga what u doing crying about what females thinking of u fuckin autisitc shit come on now my brother listen focus yo shit if they hate they hate if they love they love. you do you become a narrisitst or whatever my nigga

- Docotr Nigga

 

[Nerfmonk]

For bad to exist there must be good. Same way that for black to exist there must be white.

Good and bad are just words made up by humanity, just like god

 

[HurtfulVanity]

I have exact same feeling as you. God fucked everything up gives me depressed sick mother shitty family relations ships shitty upbringing violence being poor takes away my best friend from me makes everything so difficult fucking up my innocent child brain in the process fucking bullshit then these dudes go out and call it character building or call it some path or bullshit and make excuses for unjust punishments

 

[Deleted member 9666]

Look into online resources/exercises for cognitive behavioral therapy and meditation which can really help with negative thoughts/mood, which is what low self esteem essentially is. I'm assuming you wouldn't want to do this in person with a psychologist, but there's tons of resources online and books as well.

Work out intensely. I recommend lifting 3-5 times a week, but any intense work out will work. If you don't want to go to the gym buy some dumbbells' and do full body work outs at home. Or start running/sprinting around your neighborhood at night. No excuses, have some sort of intense work out you do at least 3x a week and commit to that for the rest of your life.

More people struggle with low self esteem than you think. At 18 I had no confidence, very very low self esteem which resulted in anxiety. A combination of what I wrote above really helped me overcome these difficulties, combined with time. I think time solves a lot of our problems. Realize that as you mature you will get more confident. No rush. You are 18 and you are really fucking young although it might not feel that way. Even at 24 you will be really fucking young and have your whole life ahead of you. And you will be a completely different person by then, I certainly was.

 

[Deleted member 4797]

Good and bad are just words made up by humanity, just like god

Black and white is real? Up and down?

 

[Deleted member 5973]

Black and white is real? Up and down?

m8 he is right, there are no morals outside human perception. good and evil, righteousness, some kind of just omnipotent being, all man made concepts and nothing more

 

[Deleted member 4797]

m8 he is right, there are no morals outside human perception. good and evil, righteousness, some kind of just omnipotent being, all man made concepts and nothing more

But all our assessments of reality are huuman perception. So why should we choose to believe our human perception like mathematics black white up down, except when it comes to morality?

 

[Need2Ascend]

Biggest 2 reasons for low-self esteem:
- being short
- being ugly

Anyway, exposure therapy can maybe help, especially if you are normie-tier, but your internal self-esteem as a blackpilled person is mostly based on your face and height

 

[Deleted member 5973]

But all our assessments of reality are huuman perception. So why should we choose to believe our human perception like mathematics black white up down, except when it comes to morality?

"why should we"

you don't have to, but if you reject our moral guidelines you will be rejected by society, it's your choice

 

[Deleted member 4797]

"why should we"

you don't have to, but if you reject our moral guidelines you will be rejected by society, it's your choice

Yes im presuming you believe human perception when it comes down to the existence of up and down or 123, do you?

 

[Deleted member 5973]

Yes im presuming you believe human perception when it comes down to the existence of up and down or 123, do you?

yes, there is no "up and down" or "123" outside human or just conscious perception in general

 

[Deleted member 4797]

yes, there is no "up and down" or "123" outside human or just conscious perception in general

Well since our entire existence is based on human perception, including the logic used to debate whether God exists or not, I will continue using morality as a point despite it being human perception only.

 

[Deleted member 2729]

Just take xanax whenever you feel not confident

 

[Germania]

I know looksmaxxing is a good way which im currently lean maxing (walking plus keto down 8 pounds already) plus saving up for surgeries but in the mean time what can I do to push these feelings back? it does not limit me socially I just have major trust issues with every female that has showed interest believing they thought i was ugly just using me or some shit and its fucking my nt badly and its affecting my looks as well with the constant stress, any tips?

Inject T, you sound like low T

 

[Deleted member 5799]

start working out

really, its the answer for a lot of things, when you see how you start having a better physique your self esteem will rise

be disciplined and already by month 4 or 5 you will notice a good change, the beginning is actually where changes come faster, but people are lazy to wait until that moment because they think it just takes 2 weeks of lifting weights to have a bodybuilder look

 

[Deleted member 11295]

get a girlfriend

 

[Uglyandfat]

get a girlfriend

girlfriend is nt min when you have beta tier self esteem

 

[Uglyandfat]

Inject T, you sound like low T

yeah cause i’m fat, shit diet, high stress, shit sleep but things are being worked on slowley