How to fix craving for validation

[Lars]

I always see myself trying to get as much attention from everyone and seek validation everywhere also here , sorry becauss of that

But how do i reduce it to care less about it?

 

[Deleted member 4430]

I always see myself trying to get as much attention from everyone and seek validation everywhere also here

no shit, we can see that

 

[Deleted member 14323]

I always see myself trying to get as much attention from everyone and seek validation everywhere also here , sorry becauss of that

But how do i reduce it to care less about it?

get a girlfriend

 

[Lars]

no shit, we can see that

I know man

 

[Deleted member 13787]

drink milk

 

[thickdickdaddy27]

start validating urself maybe?

 

[Deleted member 13137]

There’s no hope for narcissism

no cure . enjoy being a mentalcel until you die

 

[Lars]

get a girlfriend

This tbh. Kinda miss it when i had a girl friend i am legit feeling empty inside and kissing and having sex with as manny girls you want doesnt fix the emptyness

 

[Biiyo03]

Islammax

 

[Enfant terrible]

I dont know i have the same problem.

 

[Deleted member 275]

This tbh. Kinda miss it when i had a girl friend i am legit feeling empty inside and kissing and having sex with as manny girls you want doesnt fix the emptyness

how many girls have u kissed/slain since u broke up tbh

 

[Vermilioncore]

The less attention I get, the better. Ugly men like me belong in graves

 

[Lars]

how many girls have u kissed/slain since u broke up tbh

30 girls kissed 4 slain but tbh it dont even care anymore , i legit feel empty when i have sex , and maybe i just need to stop thinking about them and just search for a girlfriend rn i am kinda sad thats why i am talking bad about myself on days i am feeling good i would say fuck having a girlfriend

 

[one job away]

I always see myself trying to get as much attention from everyone and seek validation everywhere also here , sorry becauss of that

But how do i reduce it to care less about it?

Don’t lmao. Validation is the best feeling. A whole room of people wanting to fck me and be me. What’s better ??? Nothing

 

[Lars]

Don’t lmao. Validation is the best feeling. A whole room of people wanting to fck me and be me. What’s better ??? Nothing

Yeah true maybe i should just watch some netflix when i am sad i hate my actions but when i am feeling good 99% of the time i love what i am doing

 

[Deleted member 275]

30 girls kissed 4 slain but tbh it dont even care anymore , i legit feel empty when i have sex , and maybe i just need to stop thinking about them and just search for a girlfriend rn i am kinda sad thats why i am talking bad about myself on days i am feeling good i would say fuck having a girlfriend

Can also consider fwb.

 

[one job away]

Yeah true maybe i should just watch some netflix when i am sad i hate my actions but when i am feeling good 99% of the time i love what i am doing

I live for validation. Idc what people say

 

[aBetterMii]

Unironically, possibly therapy (for some people)

 

[Lars]

Unironically, possibly therapy (for some people)

Yeah i am going to do something about it myself i am always saying things but never do it , next time i am going to stay with my homies when clubbing

 

[Deleted member 7224]

its natural. everyone craves validation. maybe try dopamine detox and then introduce everything slowly.

 

[TeamPunishment]

Don't fix it @larsanova69 you deserve it. You are the most positive, most helpful and most respected user here. You are also in top 5 for looks among active users. Please don't stop being you, and don't ever change.

 

[Biiyo03]

Don't fix it @larsanova69 you deserve it. You are the most positive, most helpful and most respected user here. You are also in top 5 for looks among active users. Please don't stop being you, and don't ever change.

 

[Deleted member 12669]

Yeah true maybe i should just watch some netflix when i am sad i hate my actions but when i am feeling good 99% of the time i love what i am doing

Watch squid game

 

[AlexAP]

30 girls kissed 4 slain

 

[Amexmaxx]

What happens when you crave food? You eat. You crave validation? Get validation. You always craving it is just emotional gluttony.

 

[Lars]

What happens when you crave food? You eat. You crave validation? Get validation. You always craving it is just emotional gluttony.

adhd is a bitch

 

[Deleted member 13332]

extroverted people have no soul

 

[mulattomaxxer]

Everyone needs validation, we are social creatures afterall. There is nothing wrong with seeking validation, its natrual. If its all you care about your insecure and have low self esteem. This is because you believe that you have no value without the validation of others.

Maslows Hierhacy of needs

Furfill all your needs here and you will be happy. Based on what you have said you have low self actualisation and low self esteem.

Your good looking (did some good looksmaxxing to ), have sexual success and a good friend circle (pased on your post history). Your also a well liked user on this forum, I barely know you but I would imagine you would be good fun to hang out with irl . You have objective reasons to have high self esteem. Give your self a pat on the back buddy boyo. Unironically learn to love yourself . A bluepill a day keeps the rope away after all.

If you want more female validation get a girlfriend. I have no personal experience but based on what the forum slayers say they all "hate" women. Its impossible to truly hate women which is probably why they are so unhappy. When I talk to people in good relationships they have a positive outlook on women (50% of the population btw ) and they are happier. They also talk very fondly about cuddling and kissing. You will be able to get a cute GF to spend time with.

 

[ADHDcel I need sum]

stop being a soyboy faggot and focus on yourself

 

[Deleted member 13137]

30 girls kissed 4 slain but tbh it dont even care anymore , i legit feel empty when i have sex , and maybe i just need to stop thinking about them and just search for a girlfriend rn i am kinda sad thats why i am talking bad about myself on days i am feeling good i would say fuck having a girlfriend

Yeah buddy I think it’s time to inject T

 

[Deleted member 9819]

motherless activities

 

[Deleted member 9666]

start jerking off in front of the mirror

 

[Lars]

motherless activities

Fatherless* still see him once at a time but never grew up with a father figure only grandma and mother still love him but that made me who i am now

 

[Deleted member 13137]

Fatherless* still see him once at a time but never grew up with a father figure only grandma and mother still love him but that made me who i am now

This explains it

 

[Gad]

Think other people live lives like you do, have bad and good experiences and you're not the only conscious life. Make this thought realization build empathy and you will stop thinking "me me me".

 

[nastynas]

ngl i very much like you as a person especially your positive outlook but it's kinda irritating the fact that you try to post your pics for every little thing to fish for compliments and validation while you already know you look good enough

seeing you somewhat accept is good though

 

[goat2x]

you do whatsu want on this shitty ass forum

 

[datboijj]

its natural. everyone craves validation. maybe try dopamine detox and then introduce everything slowly.

yes but we should crave validation for something we actually done and not just by existing
very bad thing

 

[sly shinkai]

I always see myself trying to get as much attention from everyone and seek validation everywhere also here , sorry becauss of that

But how do i reduce it to care less about it?

there are people that want all the attention and people that don't. if you didn't get attention from in childhood, now you seek it.
I am like that too.
the thing is; I just control it when I see new people and girls. with girls is important to not give your attention like fucking incels do, because you won't seem interesting to them, as they get attention on insta or whatever. with my friends, I am pretty much always in their soul which gets annoying but I can't control myself that much xD.

 

[Deleted member 3828]

I dont know i have the same problem.

 

[Deleted member 5809]

How tf you lose your girlfriend after looksmaxxing? She saw your softmaxx stack? Your dick not big enough?

 

[Lars]

ngl i very much like you as a person especially your positive outlook but it's kinda irritating the fact that you try to post your pics for every little thing to fish for compliments and validation while you already know you look good enough

seeing you somewhat accept is good though

Yeah i am going to post less, i am now feeling better than yesterday and just focus more on school rn )

 

[BrendioEEE]

Find a 100% pure virgin female, and focus on that no matter what your brain tells you, and you will end up being happy.

 

[Lars]

Find a 100% pure virgin female, and focus on that no matter what your brain tells you, and you will end up being happy.

Dont even care about virgin or not just a gf

 

[BrendioEEE]

Dont even care about virgin or not just a gf

You should

 

[Lars]

How tf you lose your girlfriend after looksmaxxing? She saw your softmaxx stack? Your dick not big enough?

i was 100% different person , i am ENFP she was ISTJ so didnt work anymore after 20 months

 

[Deleted member 5809]

i was 100% different person , i am ENFP she was ISTJ so didnt work anymore after 20 months

you are almost polar opposite of me (intj). no wonder I ended up on this site and had 0 progress with women in 2 years. PERSONALITY = EVERYTHING

 

[Deleted member 3573]

Think other people live lives like you do, have bad and good experiences and you're not the only conscious life. Make this thought realization build empathy and you will stop thinking "me me me".

It doesn't work. His personality will always bring him back to himself. If he's a covert narc, he will always secretly believe that other are innately inferior to him and that he shouldn't be having such problems like others do. Only if I'm right about about him being a cover narc though.

His best fix might actually be meditation and/or psychedelics. Narcissists have to live like monks to be happy. Dead srs

 

[Lars]

It doesn't work. His personality will always bring him back to himself. If he's a covert narc, he will always secretly believe that other are innately inferior to him and that he shouldn't be having such problems like others do. Only if I'm right about about him being a cover narc though.

His best fix might actually be meditation and/or psychedelics. Narcissists have to live like monks to be happy. Dead srs

yeah i would i am covert if i had to choose out of the 4 i just need to get a girlfriend to focus less on random things but i still have alot of empathy for people

 

[Lars]

It doesn't work. His personality will always bring him back to himself. If he's a covert narc, he will always secretly believe that other are innately inferior to him and that he shouldn't be having such problems like others do. Only if I'm right about about him being a cover narc though.

His best fix might actually be meditation and/or psychedelics. Narcissists have to live like monks to be happy. Dead srs

and maybe it is just that i have ADHD and crave dopamine because i have too low dopamine in my head thats maybe the reason i am craving it because i am not an asshole to people i dont think they are worse than me