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How To Stop Caring About What Other People Think Of You : From 0 To 100 Guide
Made in 10/24/2022
Table of Contents:Made in 10/24/2022
- Intro
- Leveling up the skill
- Step by step
- Tips
- Conclusion + My Journey
Intro :
This is both a beginner, intermediate and expert tutorial. There are different stages of not caring and unlike everyone tells you not caring IS A SKILL. In this tutorial I will teach you how to level up your skill. Let it be known that most people will never level up this skill to 100% because it is a biological need for survival to care about other people and make friends in a brotherhood / tribe. I will teach you how to bypass this.
“Well if its not 100% why even do this!?”
This tutorial will make sure other people don't influence your actions as well as help you control your reactions to embarrassment and other discomforts that have to do with societal influence.
This is both a beginner, intermediate and expert tutorial. There are different stages of not caring and unlike everyone tells you not caring IS A SKILL. In this tutorial I will teach you how to level up your skill. Let it be known that most people will never level up this skill to 100% because it is a biological need for survival to care about other people and make friends in a brotherhood / tribe. I will teach you how to bypass this.
“Well if its not 100% why even do this!?”
This tutorial will make sure other people don't influence your actions as well as help you control your reactions to embarrassment and other discomforts that have to do with societal influence.
Leveling Up The Skill :
Not caring is a skill
If you are looking for a quick fix of motivation to do something that may embarrass you, skip to the tips section. If you would like to learn how to stop caring short and long term, follow me on my four year journey of not caring. You can level up this skill to the point where you are no longer influenced by other people. Embarrassment is completely out the window for the most part.
Starting prerequisites :
What do I need to do?
Everyone has different starting points but leveling up the skill will consist of two things, #1 purposely embarrassing yourself, and #2 gaining life experience. Lets break this down into two categories
Purposely Embarrassing Yourself :
Because everyone has different starting points you need to find out where you are and start there. You will be applying progressive overload to your embarrassment. For example, I was so embarrassed and socially awkward I wouldn't talk to strangers, so I started complimenting random peoples outfits at my school when walking. This was super embarrassing
I worked myself up to laying down in the middle of a park where everyone was walking and purposely stuttering when “trying to pickup” girls
Gaining life experience :
One way to never get embarrassed is to do something over and over. For example you may get stressed out by going to a new area and talking to new people. If you do it 50 times it will be easy. There is a common saying in the RP community “If you feel bad getting rejected you haven't approached enough”
My last example is my first hoco I was super embarrassed to dance, I just stayed still in the corner. My last hoco I was dancing like crazy, went crowd surfing, had a huge conga line, and got my first kiss. I progressively started dancing and learned how to dance (I was never very good at dancing but doing it alot made it easy)
Not caring is a skill
If you are looking for a quick fix of motivation to do something that may embarrass you, skip to the tips section. If you would like to learn how to stop caring short and long term, follow me on my four year journey of not caring. You can level up this skill to the point where you are no longer influenced by other people. Embarrassment is completely out the window for the most part.
Starting prerequisites :
- Need to be willing to put yourself in uncomfortable situations (short term)
- Need to be neurotypical (For the most part)
What do I need to do?
Everyone has different starting points but leveling up the skill will consist of two things, #1 purposely embarrassing yourself, and #2 gaining life experience. Lets break this down into two categories
Purposely Embarrassing Yourself :
Because everyone has different starting points you need to find out where you are and start there. You will be applying progressive overload to your embarrassment. For example, I was so embarrassed and socially awkward I wouldn't talk to strangers, so I started complimenting random peoples outfits at my school when walking. This was super embarrassing
I worked myself up to laying down in the middle of a park where everyone was walking and purposely stuttering when “trying to pickup” girls
Gaining life experience :
One way to never get embarrassed is to do something over and over. For example you may get stressed out by going to a new area and talking to new people. If you do it 50 times it will be easy. There is a common saying in the RP community “If you feel bad getting rejected you haven't approached enough”
My last example is my first hoco I was super embarrassed to dance, I just stayed still in the corner. My last hoco I was dancing like crazy, went crowd surfing, had a huge conga line, and got my first kiss. I progressively started dancing and learned how to dance (I was never very good at dancing but doing it alot made it easy)
Step by step :
How do I go from 0 - 100?
Tier 1 Scaled:
Level #1: Hold eye contact with an attractive girl
Level #2: Compliment someones outfit (Random)
Level #3: Wear a new outfit / style (That you dont particularly like)
Level #4: Talk to a friend and stutter on purpose
Level #5: Get a new style of haircut
Level #6: Made a sound in public (Loud enough for 1 person to hear)
Level #7: Wear something with a noticeable stain and dont cover it
Level #8: Show a bad song to a friend and act like its good
(A girly song or weird song)
Suggestions :
Level #9: Pick your nose in front of people
Level #10: Fart loud near a attractive girl
Tier 2 Scaled:
Level #1: Wear a horrible fit
Example :
Level #2: Give yourself dirty nails and go in public
Level #3: Grab an icecream cone by the icecream in a drive thru
Level #4: Give yourself a mole with marker and go outside
Level #5: Approach a girl and ask for her number
Level #6: Go to the movies or dinner alone (Sit by random people if possible)
Tier 3 Scaled:
Level #1: Give yourself patchy short hair or a super bad haircut and walk in public
Level #2: Lay down in a public space
Level #3: Make weird loud noises in public
Level #4: Wear a tank top and skirt in public (Or going out with friends without telling them)
Level #5: Make your and hands super dirty and go in public
Level #6: Shave your eyebrows
Level #7: Approach a girl and stutter and never get to the point then ask for her discord, facebook, whatsapp ect.
Level #9: Dance alone in public with your own music playing from your iphone speaker
Completing the steps / bucket list :
If you do all of these things and keep doing them until you don't get embarrassed you’ll stop caring for the most part
How do I go from 0 - 100?
Tier 1 Scaled:
Level #1: Hold eye contact with an attractive girl
Level #2: Compliment someones outfit (Random)
Level #3: Wear a new outfit / style (That you dont particularly like)
Level #4: Talk to a friend and stutter on purpose
Level #5: Get a new style of haircut
Level #6: Made a sound in public (Loud enough for 1 person to hear)
Level #7: Wear something with a noticeable stain and dont cover it
Level #8: Show a bad song to a friend and act like its good
(A girly song or weird song)
Suggestions :
Level #9: Pick your nose in front of people
Level #10: Fart loud near a attractive girl
Tier 2 Scaled:
Level #1: Wear a horrible fit
Example :
Level #2: Give yourself dirty nails and go in public
Level #3: Grab an icecream cone by the icecream in a drive thru
Level #4: Give yourself a mole with marker and go outside
Level #5: Approach a girl and ask for her number
Level #6: Go to the movies or dinner alone (Sit by random people if possible)
Tier 3 Scaled:
Level #1: Give yourself patchy short hair or a super bad haircut and walk in public
Level #2: Lay down in a public space
Level #3: Make weird loud noises in public
Level #4: Wear a tank top and skirt in public (Or going out with friends without telling them)
Level #5: Make your and hands super dirty and go in public
Level #6: Shave your eyebrows
Level #7: Approach a girl and stutter and never get to the point then ask for her discord, facebook, whatsapp ect.
Level #9: Dance alone in public with your own music playing from your iphone speaker
Completing the steps / bucket list :
If you do all of these things and keep doing them until you don't get embarrassed you’ll stop caring for the most part
Tips :
Short Term ways to get motivation to do something embarrassing :
Tell yourself you only live once
Tell yourself what your going to do is insignificant
Tell yourself the embarrassment is temporary
JUST START TALKING
Level up!, if your a full package you usually feel good
Long Term ways to get motivation to do something embarrassing :
Indoctrinate yourself into truly believing nothing matters
Short Term ways to get motivation to do something embarrassing :
Tell yourself you only live once
Tell yourself what your going to do is insignificant
Tell yourself the embarrassment is temporary
JUST START TALKING
Level up!, if your a full package you usually feel good
Long Term ways to get motivation to do something embarrassing :
Indoctrinate yourself into truly believing nothing matters
Conclusion :
I hope this helped you mentalcels, although if your reading this guide is pretty much over. If you truly want to level up, complete all the step by step / bucket list tasks and keep doing them until you no longer get embarrassed. Ik this guide is kinda all over the place but I tried my best.
I hope this helped you mentalcels, although if your reading this guide is pretty much over. If you truly want to level up, complete all the step by step / bucket list tasks and keep doing them until you no longer get embarrassed. Ik this guide is kinda all over the place but I tried my best.
