atomstetic
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Recently, I've started talking to this girl on Snap. We'll probably meet up soon with some of our mutuals; however, I have AuDHD and have no idea how to start conversations, and I'd honestly rather just not talk to people.
Btw, I'm 15, turning 16.
But you gotta do what you gotta do, so please help me out here. How the fuck do you start a convo? No way NT people just say "What's up" out of nowhere. That's gotta be harassment if you're not HTN.
Luckily, I'm a 6'5 MTN, but like I said, I'm ND. What makes this worse is that I can't Snap people because I'm not photogenic at all, and I have to retake a picture or video 10+ times, always in dark lighting and frauding, or I can't bring myself to send it to others.
She has a bf. When she told me that, I asked her if she wanted two, and I think she was being playful about it. Plus, why would she still be texting and snapping me after I said that? Is it because I'm a 6'5 MTN who frauds in every picture? (I never sent her a full face pic)
Also, off topic, but being 6'5 is useless when you're ND and even a burden. Getting heightmogged is rarer, hence why it hurts more. I won't be happy until I'm 6'8.
I would buy erda, but I can't legally get a job here, so my plates are actively closing. I have 1 month left until I turn 16 and can get a job. Someone pls DM me, I'll do anything (take that with a grain of salt, I'm desperate). I need erda to become 6'8 and be happy with myself.
Anyway, I'm not meeting her IRL until my pregab, beta blockers and stims come.
Once again, off-topic; I was re-reading this thread and realised how poor the logical structure actually is, so I looked into it, and of course, it's yet another disadvantage of being ND.
Although, I do think that short-form social media and many other byproducts of modern technology are what actually make things harder for us ND people. Historically, ND people have often been unusually innovative; however, if someone has ADHD, they're arguably more susceptible to becoming dependent on social media and whatnot, which can result in them wasting substantial amounts of their time and potential.
People also tend to misinterpret ADHD as simply being unintelligent. AuDHD arguably worsens this. I think that when neurodivergence is combined with a high IQ, it can become even more burdensome. People often assume that having average intelligence alongside ND is worse, but above a certain threshold, high IQ itself can become a burden.
What's even more interesting is that people with ADHD can sometimes score below their underlying cognitive ability on standardised IQ tests.
Anyway, here are the studies that I read:
pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov
pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov
Btw, I'm 15, turning 16.
But you gotta do what you gotta do, so please help me out here. How the fuck do you start a convo? No way NT people just say "What's up" out of nowhere. That's gotta be harassment if you're not HTN.
Luckily, I'm a 6'5 MTN, but like I said, I'm ND. What makes this worse is that I can't Snap people because I'm not photogenic at all, and I have to retake a picture or video 10+ times, always in dark lighting and frauding, or I can't bring myself to send it to others.
She has a bf. When she told me that, I asked her if she wanted two, and I think she was being playful about it. Plus, why would she still be texting and snapping me after I said that? Is it because I'm a 6'5 MTN who frauds in every picture? (I never sent her a full face pic)
Also, off topic, but being 6'5 is useless when you're ND and even a burden. Getting heightmogged is rarer, hence why it hurts more. I won't be happy until I'm 6'8.
I would buy erda, but I can't legally get a job here, so my plates are actively closing. I have 1 month left until I turn 16 and can get a job. Someone pls DM me, I'll do anything (take that with a grain of salt, I'm desperate). I need erda to become 6'8 and be happy with myself.
Anyway, I'm not meeting her IRL until my pregab, beta blockers and stims come.
Once again, off-topic; I was re-reading this thread and realised how poor the logical structure actually is, so I looked into it, and of course, it's yet another disadvantage of being ND.
Although, I do think that short-form social media and many other byproducts of modern technology are what actually make things harder for us ND people. Historically, ND people have often been unusually innovative; however, if someone has ADHD, they're arguably more susceptible to becoming dependent on social media and whatnot, which can result in them wasting substantial amounts of their time and potential.
People also tend to misinterpret ADHD as simply being unintelligent. AuDHD arguably worsens this. I think that when neurodivergence is combined with a high IQ, it can become even more burdensome. People often assume that having average intelligence alongside ND is worse, but above a certain threshold, high IQ itself can become a burden.
What's even more interesting is that people with ADHD can sometimes score below their underlying cognitive ability on standardised IQ tests.
Anyway, here are the studies that I read:
Narrative production in children with autism spectrum disorder (ASD) and children with attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD): Similarities and differences - PubMed
The present study focuses on the similarities and differences in language production between children with autism spectrum disorder (ASD) and children with attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). In addition, we investigated whether Theory of Mind (ToM), working memory, and response...
pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov
Narrative and Non-Narrative Discourse Skills in ADHD Across the Lifespan: A Systematic Review of the Literature - PubMed
Published evidence to date indicates that ADHD affects micro-linguistic to super-structural discourse features in children and adults, likely impacting communication success in social and academic environments. Assessing the structure and content of narrative and non-narrative genres should form...
pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov
