How to talk to girls

[bonesoverblood]

So last night I had a brain think session with lucy, and today I woke up with an epiphany.

I was wondering.. Why was it hard for me to talk to hot girls irl, but I could be the life of the party, and have great friend social interactions

The reason why it's hard to talk to girls still, after you are looksmaxed, is because of the negative connotations you associate with that interaction. It's learned helplessness.

This was examined in Seligmans experiment. He used shocks to effectively associate an action with pain and suffering.

Learned Helplessness: Seligman's Theory and Depression - Video & Lesson Transcript | Study.com

Learned helplessness, first observed by Martin Seligman when he was doing classical conditioning experiments on dogs, occurs when people or animals...

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So how do you reverse this?

Well you need to effectively associate positive things with interacting with woman, or essentially "reverse condition" yourself.

This can be done in several ways:

• Eat a candy before you are about to interact with a female. Each time, increase the dosage by two. This will train your brain to talk to them, and associate them with dopamine, which you want. Restart, and Repeat.
• Focus on the positive outcomes that can come from a successfully ahs natural interaction.
• Play a "I love you" message from some random girl through your headphones, before you approach a girl you want to talk to. You go so far as paying a girl with a good voice to say your name too, which would increase effectiveness

Use this when you have looksmaxed, or else you will still have negative connotations with approaching and talking to woman, as you will get brutally rejected.

 

[john2]

• Play a "I love you" message from some random girl through your headphones, before you approach a girl you want to talk to. You go so far as paying a girl with a good voice to say your name too, which would increase effectiveness

Okay, now i'm questioning whether you really are 137 IQ or not.

 

[Nosecel]

Have this face

 

[bonesoverblood]

Okay, now i'm questioning whether you really are 137 IQ or not.

Lmao I'm 100% serious, vocal positive reinforcement is good for social reconditioning. So try it.

 

[Deleted member 4209]

i cant do any of this i always know what the result will be. i can't trick myself into thinking i'm wanted.

 

[bonesoverblood]

i cant do any of this i always know what the result will be. i can't trick myself into thinking i'm wanted.

First ascend, then try

 

[Deleted member 4209]

First ascend, then try

i have to save 1000s for surgeries

 

[Lightbulb]

Some aspects are true, at least to me personally

 

[bonesoverblood]

i have to save 1000s for surgeries

Money Max

 

[Deleted member 2846]

reminder op legitimately has aspergers

 

[Deleted member 2621]

So last night I had a brain think session with lucy, and today I woke up with an epiphany.

I was wondering.. Why was it hard for me to talk to hot girls irl, but I could be the life of the party, and have great friend social interactions

The reason why it's hard to talk to girls still, after you are looksmaxed, is because of the negative connotations you associate with that interaction. It's learned helplessness.

This was examined in Seligmans experiment. He used shocks to effectively associate an action with pain and suffering.

Learned Helplessness: Seligman's Theory and Depression - Video & Lesson Transcript | Study.com

Learned helplessness, first observed by Martin Seligman when he was doing classical conditioning experiments on dogs, occurs when people or animals...

study.com

So how do you reverse this?

Well you need to effectively associate positive things with interacting with woman, or essentially "reverse condition" yourself.

This can be done in several ways:

• Eat a candy before you are about to interact with a female. Each time, increase the dosage by two. This will train your brain to talk to them, and associate them with dopamine, which you want. Restart, and Repeat.
• Focus on the positive outcomes that can come from a successfully ahs natural interaction.
• Play a "I love you" message from some random girl through your headphones, before you approach a girl you want to talk to. You go so far as paying a girl with a good voice to say your name too, which would increase effectiveness

Use this when you have looksmaxed, or else you will still have negative connotations with approaching and talking to woman, as you will get brutally rejected.

You seem like a dude I would drop acid with

 

[Deleted member 4310]

I'm sure Chad reads guides like this before he approaches Stacy and fucks her the same night

 

[Fear]

Eat a candy before you are about to interact with a female. Each time, increase the dosage by two. This will train your brain to talk to them, and associate them with dopamine, which you want. Restart, and Repeat.

Just become diabetic theory

 

[Vermilioncore]

You can’t. Give up like me

 

[Seth Walsh]

how your brain makes you perceive and feel, is everything

 

[EthnicelAscension]

GOOD SHIT OP, IM GONNA GIVE MYSELF DIABETES NOW BY STUFFING CANDY DOWN MY MOUTH EVERY TIME I TALK TO A GIRL, LET'S GOOOOOOO

 

[eduardkoopman]

Use this when you have looksmaxed, or else you will still have negative connotations with approaching and talking to woman, as you will get brutally rejected.

This last sentence is great.

I was pua, back many years ago. A PSL 3 type of dude. Getting rejected and treated badly vibed. Plentyfull. Somehow I managed to train myself not to go apeshit, have a mental breakdown, or stop. I used that thing on your list: focus on the possible good outcome. And I knew I could get a meetup/date, out chatting up like 10-15 women. So I just focued on getting up to meeting at least that number, numbers game theory.

Anyways.

The negative treatment and reinformacem,ent, is brutal as a not good looking dude. Even if you have good social skills.
While it's all boosting, when women treat you decent or good; because you look well enough

Example, of negativve connotations with aprroaching and talking to woman (dude gets rejected, and feels like he has to force himself on them, chasing them or physically blocking them to force them to stop)
Because this dude is a normie looking man at best

Or this one (lots of soft rejections)



And Exmaple of positive connotations with aprroaching and talking to woman. (dude gets alot of telephone numbers, and women stop for him as he is callingfrom the dide of the road).
Because this dude is a Chadlite

Or this one, this dude has no class no style. But looks pretty well.

 

[bonesoverblood]

I'm sure Chad reads guides like this before he approaches Stacy and fucks her the same night

This is not a guide for NT people