Hurricane1
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The reason why more often people who were bullied in school when they were young end up turning into violent criminals or hateful people is because humiliation and isolation manufacture a very hateful mindset. When things that make somebody feel humiliated consistently happen, it further decreases a person’s trust and makes them act in ways that cause them humiliate themself even more (antisocial behavior, public fits of rage, etc). So it’s a progressive feedback loop. When a certain number of bad things happen to a person they will eventually start to feel like their life is a game engineered against them and start thinking nothing matters anymore.
You are told not to care what others think, but the fact is that your brain is programmed in a way that favors caring what other people think as a survival mechanism to ensure that you reproduce and don’t fuck up your reputation too much. The instances where people genuinely don’t care how others think is usually mental illness. You can cope and say you don’t care if you are humiliated or isolated but you wouldn’t have to tell yourself that if you didn’t feel humiliated. The only positive really is that continued exposure to humiliation makes you less sensitive to it. That’s when you stop caring.
You are told not to care what others think, but the fact is that your brain is programmed in a way that favors caring what other people think as a survival mechanism to ensure that you reproduce and don’t fuck up your reputation too much. The instances where people genuinely don’t care how others think is usually mental illness. You can cope and say you don’t care if you are humiliated or isolated but you wouldn’t have to tell yourself that if you didn’t feel humiliated. The only positive really is that continued exposure to humiliation makes you less sensitive to it. That’s when you stop caring.
