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But my mom says I'm cool!
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So for context, I’m 17 years old and I live with my mom in a small town about 1 hour away from my dad. I have a great relationship with my dad and I love being with him, but I honestly hate living where I am now.
I can’t really have a normal life here. I can’t bring people over because my house is dirty, my mom is very difficult to deal with, and the town itself is small with nothing to do. I basically feel stuck and like I’m just wasting time here.
On the other hand, when I’m with my dad, my life is great. I also have my grandparents there, friends, and overall a much better environment. For years, my plan has been to move to my dad’s town and live on my own. He would support me financially, and I truly believe my life would improve a lot.
Everything was going according to plan until December 2025, when I found out I was going to be held back a grade instead of becoming a senior and graduating in 2026. My mom knew, but I didn’t tell my dad because I didn’t want to disappoint him.
I still had a chance to pass a test on April 22nd to move up to senior year, so I told my dad I had passed. But I ended up failing the test.
Now it’s official: I have to repeat the grade.
The problem is, I’ve been lying to my dad for the past 4 months, telling him I passed and that everything was fine. I really thought I would pass the test and fix everything, but now my whole plan feels ruined. I might have to stay here another year, which honestly feels unbearable.
Now I don’t know what to do:
I’m scared of disappointing him, but I also feel terrible for lying this long.
I can’t really have a normal life here. I can’t bring people over because my house is dirty, my mom is very difficult to deal with, and the town itself is small with nothing to do. I basically feel stuck and like I’m just wasting time here.
On the other hand, when I’m with my dad, my life is great. I also have my grandparents there, friends, and overall a much better environment. For years, my plan has been to move to my dad’s town and live on my own. He would support me financially, and I truly believe my life would improve a lot.
Everything was going according to plan until December 2025, when I found out I was going to be held back a grade instead of becoming a senior and graduating in 2026. My mom knew, but I didn’t tell my dad because I didn’t want to disappoint him.
I still had a chance to pass a test on April 22nd to move up to senior year, so I told my dad I had passed. But I ended up failing the test.
Now it’s official: I have to repeat the grade.
The problem is, I’ve been lying to my dad for the past 4 months, telling him I passed and that everything was fine. I really thought I would pass the test and fix everything, but now my whole plan feels ruined. I might have to stay here another year, which honestly feels unbearable.
Now I don’t know what to do:
- Should I tell my dad the truth now and admit I’ve been lying for months?
- Or should I wait until December, say I failed my senior year, and by then maybe have some money saved so I can move to his town anyway and do school there?
I’m scared of disappointing him, but I also feel terrible for lying this long.
