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Im 30 and I have poor relationship experience since I have been and incel until I was 28.
After years of suffering I managed to get a 25 yo GF, we are dating since December.
I Always had problems with being a pushover, I dont know how tò react to people that treat me badly, I freeze and ai dont know what to do/Say.
Its not about inibitions, this happens everytime I have to confront people...my mind goes blank and I cant find the right Word.
I Just stay there acting too kind/diplomatic and I dont lose my temper no matter what.
I started boxing for some months before I broke my ALC and this helped a Little.
I lift since I was 15 and my phisique Is great except my height (5'8" but I use lifts that puts me tò 5'10.5")
We were in weekend vacation in front of a spot for couples, this guy arrived and tried to sell us some Roses.
She didnt want to and She declined respectfully...he kept staying there asking to buy him some Roses for a very low prices.
I tried to convince her but She kept saying no, he started getting angry and started verbally abuse us.
' shes with you Just for your Money...She didnt love you, dont stay with her She Just wants your Money '
Things like that, I tried to use some sarcasm saying I was actually the One Who was paid...but he was serious and continued insulting us.
I didnt know how to manage this situation, I tried to smile and be friendly at what he was saying like It was a joke even if It wasnt a joke at all.
I dont know how tò treat people badly, I read books about not being a nice guy ( no more mr nice guy ) but It didnt help.
I feel like a spineless coward and She doesnt believe I can protect her again.
Some days ago She was like in a middle of an argument...'' you Always Say that i have to tell you if someone is bothering me...but the other day you did nothing even if he deserved... end of the discussion'.
Shes right unfortunately.
I dont know what to do and how tò get more aggressive/angry...not even aas helped me.
I dont really know what to do, I feel so bad.
After years of suffering I managed to get a 25 yo GF, we are dating since December.
I Always had problems with being a pushover, I dont know how tò react to people that treat me badly, I freeze and ai dont know what to do/Say.
Its not about inibitions, this happens everytime I have to confront people...my mind goes blank and I cant find the right Word.
I Just stay there acting too kind/diplomatic and I dont lose my temper no matter what.
I started boxing for some months before I broke my ALC and this helped a Little.
I lift since I was 15 and my phisique Is great except my height (5'8" but I use lifts that puts me tò 5'10.5")
We were in weekend vacation in front of a spot for couples, this guy arrived and tried to sell us some Roses.
She didnt want to and She declined respectfully...he kept staying there asking to buy him some Roses for a very low prices.
I tried to convince her but She kept saying no, he started getting angry and started verbally abuse us.
' shes with you Just for your Money...She didnt love you, dont stay with her She Just wants your Money '
Things like that, I tried to use some sarcasm saying I was actually the One Who was paid...but he was serious and continued insulting us.
I didnt know how to manage this situation, I tried to smile and be friendly at what he was saying like It was a joke even if It wasnt a joke at all.
I dont know how tò treat people badly, I read books about not being a nice guy ( no more mr nice guy ) but It didnt help.
I feel like a spineless coward and She doesnt believe I can protect her again.
Some days ago She was like in a middle of an argument...'' you Always Say that i have to tell you if someone is bothering me...but the other day you did nothing even if he deserved... end of the discussion'.
Shes right unfortunately.
I dont know what to do and how tò get more aggressive/angry...not even aas helped me.
I dont really know what to do, I feel so bad.