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If you're depressed because of your looks, this is for you. 
All praise be to Allah.
Introduction: Looks isn't everything in life.
This isn't a post meant to cope or whatever. The is true, only in the sense that people will generally perceive you better or worse on a surface, immediate level depending on your looks. This post is simply to show you that looks isn't as important as you've been brainwashed to believe it is.
If you genuinely believe you're ugly, then it's probably true that you're not the best looking in terms of attraction. But is it actually that bad?
Everyone is given a different test from Allah in the form of beauty and ugliness, health, wealth and poverty, and success and failure in the Dunya. You potentially being unattractive is just one of them.
No one is denying that a woman will be more likely to love you if you're more objectively attractive. Tall, better frame, better face or whatnot. Does that mean you should obsess over what you can't control? No.
Allah says (what means):
“15. And as for man, when his Lord tries him and [thus] is generous to him and favors him, he says, "My Lord has honored me."
16. But when He tries him and restricts his provision, he says, "My Lord has humiliated me."
- Surah al Fajr, 15-16
The ill would say: why have You made me ill and saved the people? The poor would say: Why have you made me poor and made others wealthy? Those being tried would say: Why are you trying me and left others in a good state?
The believer is to be pleased, observe patience and anticipate reward while others become annoyed with and complain about their Lord.
Do you not realize that you have two eyes with which you can see while millions cannot even see??
Do you not see that you are able to walk on your own two feet, you go and come wherever you wish while an infinite number of people are paralyzed and disabled??
Let’s say you lost all that; do you not realize Allah’s favour of Islam upon you, and that He chose you for this great favour (which all the pleasures of the earth cannot equal) over most of the creation who do not believe in Allah. On the Day of Resurrection, eternal paradise is yours, In sha Allah.
Even if you didn't get married in the Dunya, a minimum of two wives better than anything you know await you in Jannah, according to the most correct opinion.
What to do if you're genetically ugly in the Dunya.
Assuming you've done everything possible to Softmaxx (since Hardmaxxing is generally forbidden without a valid health or extreme visual defect reason), let's talk about marriage. Firstly, just as a side note, you should be completely lowering your gaze from women, and fasting to prevent lust if you're not already married.
Now, to start off with, the Blackpillers will show you videos of men getting rejected or fawned over based on varying looks and characteristics, or statistics from modernised societies or full on dating sites. Is any of that stuff, the free mixing, dating, or looking with desire before marriage, halal to begin with? No. These are the things the KUFFAR seek.
Sure, a kaafir girl who free mixes 24/7 and never lowers her gaze and looks at men with lust will care mostly about your physical looks over anything. Her love will depend on it, and she won't truly care about you if you're ugly if that's what her values are.
Is that the kind of partner a pious, religious man or woman wants though? No.
Al-Bukhari (4802) and Muslim (1466) from Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) who said: “A woman may be married for four things : her wealth, her lineage, her beauty and her religious commitment. Seek the one who is religiously committed, may your hands be rubbed with dust (i.e., may you prosper).”
As much as people here might cope and cry because of their experiences with the Kuffar, Wallahi, with a truly pious woman and ideal Believing spouse, your personality and religion is more important than your looks. I say this as someone who's not really objectively attractive on the Blackpill scale, and it's okay. FYI I'm bengali too, which they probably call "currycel" or something here. I'm doing just fine in life with a beautiful, beautiful wife (a "Giga Stacy" in brainrot terms), who lowers her gaze, has been wearing a niqab and gloves covering virtually every single inch of her body since 12, etc. FYI, we both grew up in the west as well. I'm completely average, and we have a very intimate relationship, and we plan to have like 20 children. I'm 16 by the way. How is that possible !?
If a woman genuinely cares about your looks that much, she isn't worried about the future and a realistic marriage. That is a red flag anyway, and only a pious woman will actually make you happy. Don't marry them for their looks, unless you want to be eventually depressed. Look for an obedient spouse who fears Allah.
To enhance this point further and show that it's possible for ANYONE no matter how "chopped" you are, think about the story of Julaybib. He was known to be a very short and physically ugly man, and no one from the Ansar accepted him. Everyone bullied him and he didn't even have respect from the men. This was until the prophet, upon him be peace, found out about him and suggested a woman from the city to marry him. Matter of fact, this woman was known to be one of, if not, the most beautiful in the city. She was incredibly pious and religiously virtuous, and said yes to marrying him, due to Julaybib's piety. She didn't worry about his looks. This was even after her own mother vouched against Julaybib and was repelled about the idea - the woman could have said no and used her parents as an excuse if she wanted to, but she chose the pious man at the end. Julaybib, may he rest with Allah, later died a shaheed after taking down 7 of the kuffar with him.
There is hope for literally anyone. Worship your Lord, Softmaxx if you can, and just focus on other areas of life that you can control and that are actually important. In summary, be grateful for what you already have and focus on what you can control. Make lots of dua to Allah to raise your status in the Hereafter because that is more important, but also for Rizq (sustenance) and ease in the Dunya. Your attractiveness level is just a test from Allah if it's bad, but Wallahi there is hope anyway. Blackpill is based on kaafir women, and no one cares about westernised hoejabis.
May Allah bless you and guide you.
A final optional story to read to accommodate the virtue of a grateful Slave of Allah.
Al-Awza’i narrates from ‘Abdullah ibn Muhammad that he said:
I went out to the shore as a patrolman and our patrol at the time was in ‘Areesh Misr. When I arrived at the shore, I came upon an open area and there was tent on it. In the tent was a man who had no hands and legs and he was hard of hearing and sight. None of his limbs were of benefit to him but his tongue, and was saying: O Allah, grant me (the ability) to praise you a praise through which I can sufficiently thank You for the favours You have bestowed upon me and by which You have preferred me over many whom You have created a great preference.
Al-Awza’I said: ‘Abdulla said: By Allah, I will certainly go to this man and I shall certainly ask him about this speech. An understanding, or knowledge or inspiration which was inspired to him?
So I approached the man and greeted him and said to him: I heard you and you were saying: O Allah, grant me (the ability) to praise you a praise through which I can sufficiently thank You for the favours You have bestowed upon me and by which You have preferred me over many whom You have created a great preference.; so what favour from the favours of Allah upon you are you praising Him for? And in what way did He prefer you over others a great preference that you need to thank Him for it? He said: Don’t you see what my Lord has done? By Allah, if He sent the sky to me as a fire which burned me, or ordered the mountains to crush me, or the oceans to drown me, or the earth to swallow me up; it would only cause me to be more grateful to my Lord for the favour of this tongue He bestowed upon me.
All praise be to Allah.Introduction: Looks isn't everything in life.
This isn't a post meant to cope or whatever. The
is true, only in the sense that people will generally perceive you better or worse on a surface, immediate level depending on your looks. This post is simply to show you that looks isn't as important as you've been brainwashed to believe it is.If you genuinely believe you're ugly, then it's probably true that you're not the best looking in terms of attraction. But is it actually that bad?
Everyone is given a different test from Allah in the form of beauty and ugliness, health, wealth and poverty, and success and failure in the Dunya. You potentially being unattractive is just one of them.
No one is denying that a woman will be more likely to love you if you're more objectively attractive. Tall, better frame, better face or whatnot. Does that mean you should obsess over what you can't control? No.
Allah says (what means):
“15. And as for man, when his Lord tries him and [thus] is generous to him and favors him, he says, "My Lord has honored me."
16. But when He tries him and restricts his provision, he says, "My Lord has humiliated me."
- Surah al Fajr, 15-16
The ill would say: why have You made me ill and saved the people? The poor would say: Why have you made me poor and made others wealthy? Those being tried would say: Why are you trying me and left others in a good state?
The believer is to be pleased, observe patience and anticipate reward while others become annoyed with and complain about their Lord.
Do you not realize that you have two eyes with which you can see while millions cannot even see??
Do you not see that you are able to walk on your own two feet, you go and come wherever you wish while an infinite number of people are paralyzed and disabled??
Let’s say you lost all that; do you not realize Allah’s favour of Islam upon you, and that He chose you for this great favour (which all the pleasures of the earth cannot equal) over most of the creation who do not believe in Allah. On the Day of Resurrection, eternal paradise is yours, In sha Allah.
Even if you didn't get married in the Dunya, a minimum of two wives better than anything you know await you in Jannah, according to the most correct opinion.
What to do if you're genetically ugly in the Dunya.
Assuming you've done everything possible to Softmaxx (since Hardmaxxing is generally forbidden without a valid health or extreme visual defect reason), let's talk about marriage. Firstly, just as a side note, you should be completely lowering your gaze from women, and fasting to prevent lust if you're not already married.
Now, to start off with, the Blackpillers will show you videos of men getting rejected or fawned over based on varying looks and characteristics, or statistics from modernised societies or full on dating sites. Is any of that stuff, the free mixing, dating, or looking with desire before marriage, halal to begin with? No. These are the things the KUFFAR seek.
Sure, a kaafir girl who free mixes 24/7 and never lowers her gaze and looks at men with lust will care mostly about your physical looks over anything. Her love will depend on it, and she won't truly care about you if you're ugly if that's what her values are.
Is that the kind of partner a pious, religious man or woman wants though? No.
Al-Bukhari (4802) and Muslim (1466) from Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) who said: “A woman may be married for four things : her wealth, her lineage, her beauty and her religious commitment. Seek the one who is religiously committed, may your hands be rubbed with dust (i.e., may you prosper).”
As much as people here might cope and cry because of their experiences with the Kuffar, Wallahi, with a truly pious woman and ideal Believing spouse, your personality and religion is more important than your looks. I say this as someone who's not really objectively attractive on the Blackpill scale, and it's okay. FYI I'm bengali too, which they probably call "currycel" or something here. I'm doing just fine in life with a beautiful, beautiful wife (a "Giga Stacy" in brainrot terms), who lowers her gaze, has been wearing a niqab and gloves covering virtually every single inch of her body since 12, etc. FYI, we both grew up in the west as well. I'm completely average, and we have a very intimate relationship, and we plan to have like 20 children. I'm 16 by the way. How is that possible !?
If a woman genuinely cares about your looks that much, she isn't worried about the future and a realistic marriage. That is a red flag anyway, and only a pious woman will actually make you happy. Don't marry them for their looks, unless you want to be eventually depressed. Look for an obedient spouse who fears Allah.
To enhance this point further and show that it's possible for ANYONE no matter how "chopped" you are, think about the story of Julaybib. He was known to be a very short and physically ugly man, and no one from the Ansar accepted him. Everyone bullied him and he didn't even have respect from the men. This was until the prophet, upon him be peace, found out about him and suggested a woman from the city to marry him. Matter of fact, this woman was known to be one of, if not, the most beautiful in the city. She was incredibly pious and religiously virtuous, and said yes to marrying him, due to Julaybib's piety. She didn't worry about his looks. This was even after her own mother vouched against Julaybib and was repelled about the idea - the woman could have said no and used her parents as an excuse if she wanted to, but she chose the pious man at the end. Julaybib, may he rest with Allah, later died a shaheed after taking down 7 of the kuffar with him.
There is hope for literally anyone. Worship your Lord, Softmaxx if you can, and just focus on other areas of life that you can control and that are actually important. In summary, be grateful for what you already have and focus on what you can control. Make lots of dua to Allah to raise your status in the Hereafter because that is more important, but also for Rizq (sustenance) and ease in the Dunya. Your attractiveness level is just a test from Allah if it's bad, but Wallahi there is hope anyway. Blackpill is based on kaafir women, and no one cares about westernised hoejabis.
May Allah bless you and guide you.
A final optional story to read to accommodate the virtue of a grateful Slave of Allah.
Al-Awza’i narrates from ‘Abdullah ibn Muhammad that he said:
I went out to the shore as a patrolman and our patrol at the time was in ‘Areesh Misr. When I arrived at the shore, I came upon an open area and there was tent on it. In the tent was a man who had no hands and legs and he was hard of hearing and sight. None of his limbs were of benefit to him but his tongue, and was saying: O Allah, grant me (the ability) to praise you a praise through which I can sufficiently thank You for the favours You have bestowed upon me and by which You have preferred me over many whom You have created a great preference.
Al-Awza’I said: ‘Abdulla said: By Allah, I will certainly go to this man and I shall certainly ask him about this speech. An understanding, or knowledge or inspiration which was inspired to him?
So I approached the man and greeted him and said to him: I heard you and you were saying: O Allah, grant me (the ability) to praise you a praise through which I can sufficiently thank You for the favours You have bestowed upon me and by which You have preferred me over many whom You have created a great preference.; so what favour from the favours of Allah upon you are you praising Him for? And in what way did He prefer you over others a great preference that you need to thank Him for it? He said: Don’t you see what my Lord has done? By Allah, if He sent the sky to me as a fire which burned me, or ordered the mountains to crush me, or the oceans to drown me, or the earth to swallow me up; it would only cause me to be more grateful to my Lord for the favour of this tongue He bestowed upon me.
