I’m a jestermaxxing loser who can’t pull women

[alphaomega]

How do I stop being a jester? Every time I hangout with a girl I always try and outperform the people around me and be the center of attention. Every night after something like that happens I lie in bed full of shame thinking to myself - “I’m just gonna start being chill and someone who people like. I need to stop making a fool of myself trying to appeal to others when it’s obviously not working.” - But the cycle continues. The next day I instinctively do the same stupid fucking things and it fucks everything up. An example of this is I was at the beach with these girls and my friend, one of them I like, and I kept jestering, trying to be funny, making jokes, playing dumb music, and just completely sabotaging myself to get this girl to like me. What happened was they ended up leaving because of me. My friend said I was attention seeking and that i just need to be myself. I don’t know what to do with myself.

 

[OsteoForgeNZ]

ok

 

[narrowmouthcel]

dnr

 

[xzav2chud1]

reincarnate

 

[doubleR]

How do I stop being a jester? Every time I hangout with a girl I always try and outperform the people around me and be the center of attention. Every night after something like that happens I lie in bed full of shame thinking to myself - “I’m just gonna start being chill and someone who people like. I need to stop making a fool of myself trying to appeal to others when it’s obviously not working.” - But the cycle continues. The next day I instinctively do the same stupid fucking things and it fucks everything up. An example of this is I was at the beach with these girls and my friend, one of them I like, and I kept jestering, trying to be funny, making jokes, playing dumb music, and just completely sabotaging myself to get this girl to like me. What happened was they ended up leaving because of me. My friend said I was attention seeking and that i just need to be myself. I don’t know what to do with myself.

Lock yourself in a room for 3 days without mobile or food, then go out and just do your things, yeah and don't wash your head brush teeth and shower all this time

 

[GrimScythe]

basically the second youre around a girl you like your anxiety spikes and you treat silence like a threat, so you instinctively put on the clown makeup to force a reaction u gotta learn to sit with the discomfort of just being quiet

 

[xacap]

How do I stop being a jester? Every time I hangout with a girl I always try and outperform the people around me and be the center of attention. Every night after something like that happens I lie in bed full of shame thinking to myself - “I’m just gonna start being chill and someone who people like. I need to stop making a fool of myself trying to appeal to others when it’s obviously not working.” - But the cycle continues. The next day I instinctively do the same stupid fucking things and it fucks everything up. An example of this is I was at the beach with these girls and my friend, one of them I like, and I kept jestering, trying to be funny, making jokes, playing dumb music, and just completely sabotaging myself to get this girl to like me. What happened was they ended up leaving because of me. My friend said I was attention seeking and that i just need to be myself. I don’t know what to do with myself.

u dont have to stop just do it less bro sometimes its annoying when ur overdoing it