I'm a really bad person, I don't know how to get people to forgive me or how to forgive myself.

[Orka]

I've hurt many people in my life, I'm not happy about it, I tried making up for it by making other people's lives better, but I don't think that reverses the damage I've done to a couple of people.

Would it be weird to reach out to people from years ago and talk to them and apologize? Would it be better if I let them move on? I don't know what to do

 

[2s2f]

Reach out and apologize I have done it and felt better

 

[EvilSatanArseRapist]

Would it be weird to reach out to people from years ago and talk to them and apologize?

Idk if forgiveness even exists and it may very well not, but i'd give it a try if you think it would be an appropriate measure.

Do you talk to these people?

If not, then you have nothing to lose anyway.

 

[Orka]

Reach out and apologize I have done it and felt better

What was your relationship with the people you apologized to?

Friends? Partners?

and did it make them feel better? do you know?

 

[Orka]

Do you talk to these people?

If not, then you have nothing to lose anyway.

No, very rarely, It's been 2 years since I spoke to one of them, and a year since I spoke to the other.

I suppose you're right. I'm just not sure how I'm supposed to contact them.

 

[quan1]

depends on what you've done to them. if u think it would reopen something then dont. but its important when reaching out to not look for closure for urself

 

[Orka]

depends on what you've done to them. if u think it would reopen something then dont. but its important when reaching out to not look for closure for urself

I don't want to reopen anything, but I also don't know if it would reopen something for them.

I would reach out for closure though, I guess that would be a problem.

I would assume they have already moved on, or at least I'd hope so

 

[EvilSatanArseRapist]

depends on what you've done to them. if u think it would reopen something then dont. but its important when reaching out to not look for closure for urself

True.

@Orka wanna tell us what happened?

 

[makhachev]

I've hurt many people in my life, I'm not happy about it, I tried making up for it by making other people's lives better, but I don't think that reverses the damage I've done to a couple of people.

Would it be weird to reach out to people from years ago and talk to them and apologize? Would it be better if I let them move on? I don't know what to do

no regrets just reach out either its been so long and theyve already moved on or they accept it right on the spot, its better to ask for forgiveness late than to just never show interest, bc they dont know your guilt and will never know unless you tell them

 

[quan1]

I don't want to reopen anything, but I also don't know if it would reopen something for them.

I would reach out for closure though, I guess that would be a problem.

I would assume they have already moved on, or at least I'd hope so

then these are signs u should definitely not reach out

 

[Incelforeever]

In what way did u supposedly hurt people?

 

[childishkillah]

 

[nestivv]

I like you orka, I think you're a great person

 

[Orka]

True.

@Orka wanna tell us what happened?

I've already opened up in the past about how I lie too much, even about small things with seemingly no benefit aside from continuing a conversation.

But a few years ago that turned into manipulation, I hurt people after a girl I was interested in hurt me, I don't see that as justification, just a reason that it started.

When she reached out back to me after she hurt me, I didn't feel relieved at all, she just made it worse and reopened the feelings I had for her.

I manipulated people for validation and talked behind their backs regularly, I'm scared of hurting people like this again, and I'm scared of getting hurt like this again.

Before I go into anything, I want to heal and start off clean, I've healed from the manipulation, and don't think I do it as much anymore, but when I used to do it, it was subconscious.

I'm being vague for a good reason. Use your imagination to imagine the things I would do. (It did not involve explicit photos or cutting though).

There were two people that I hurt the most, I don't know if reaching back out to them to apologize would reopen something like that girl did to me, or if it would help them.

 

[Nexom]

I don't want to reopen anything, but I also don't know if it would reopen something for them.

I would reach out for closure though, I guess that would be a problem.

I would assume they have already moved on, or at least I'd hope so

You only need to imagine how you'd feel if you would receive such a call, then you'll have your answer.

 

[Orka]

In what way did u supposedly hurt people?

I've already opened up in the past about how I lie too much, even about small things with seemingly no benefit aside from continuing a conversation.

But a few years ago that turned into manipulation, I hurt people after a girl I was interested in hurt me, I don't see that as justification, just a reason that it started.

When she reached out back to me after she hurt me, I didn't feel relieved at all, she just made it worse and reopened the feelings I had for her.

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I manipulated people for validation and talked behind their backs regularly, I'm scared of hurting people like this again, and I'm scared of getting hurt like this again.

Before I go into anything, I want to heal and start off clean, I've healed from the manipulation, and don't think I do it as much anymore, but when I used to do it, it was subconscious.

I'm being vague for a good reason. Use your imagination to imagine the things I would do. (It did not involve explicit photos or cutting though).

There were two people that I hurt the most, I don't know if reaching back out to them to apologize would reopen something like that girl did to me, or if it would help them.

.

 

[Orka]

I like you orka, I think you're a great person

Thanks Nestiv.

 

[Vantablack]

I've hurt many people in my life, I'm not happy about it, I tried making up for it by making other people's lives better, but I don't think that reverses the damage I've done to a couple of people.

Would it be weird to reach out to people from years ago and talk to them and apologize? Would it be better if I let them move on? I don't know what to do

apologising to women you’ve hurt in the past is a great strategy to get laid again

 

[2s2f]

What was your relationship with the people you apologized to?

Friends? Partners?

and did it make them feel better? do you know?

Just old friends I was a bad friend to it took me 3 years to realise I was a bad friend and I only recently said sorry, they said it was fine and that they forgive me, I know it isn't really much but I was sad about it and apologizing made me feel better

 

[Orka]

apologising to women you’ve hurt in the past is a great strategy to get laid again

I'm not this shallow, I have no intention of reopening anything & would block them / stop talking to them after I apologize.

 

[Vantablack]

I'm not this shallow, I have no intention of reopening anything & would block them / stop talking to them after I apologize.

yeah this is what i thought as well and then i ended up in her bed

 

[quan1]

I've already opened up in the past about how I lie too much, even about small things with seemingly no benefit aside from continuing a conversation.

But a few years ago that turned into manipulation, I hurt people after a girl I was interested in hurt me, I don't see that as justification, just a reason that it started.

When she reached out back to me after she hurt me, I didn't feel relieved at all, she just made it worse and reopened the feelings I had for her.

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I manipulated people for validation and talked behind their backs regularly, I'm scared of hurting people like this again, and I'm scared of getting hurt like this again.

Before I go into anything, I want to heal and start off clean, I've healed from the manipulation, and don't think I do it as much anymore, but when I used to do it, it was subconscious.

I'm being vague for a good reason. Use your imagination to imagine the things I would do. (It did not involve explicit photos or cutting though).

There were two people that I hurt the most, I don't know if reaching back out to them to apologize would reopen something like that girl did to me, or if it would help them.

honestly if i was the other people i wouldve alr moved past this and forgot mostly abt u

the only reason u would do this is for urself which is not what u need

u should js forget abt them as well and start fresh, u can always show u changed without needing to tell them thru socials

 

[Bryce]

Is this why you left BWCF

 

[Orka]

honestly if i was the other people i wouldve alr moved past this and forgot mostly abt u

the only reason u would do this is for urself which is not what u need

u should js forget abt them as well and start fresh, u can always show u changed without needing to tell them thru socials

I appreciate the advice, I won't reach back out to them.

One of them wrote me recently, but I don't think they gave off any energy of being resentful towards me / hurt

Is this why you left BWCF

Unrelated

 

[quan1]

I appreciate the advice, I won't reach back out to them.

welcome that i could help orka

 

[Bryce]

Unrelated

So it's just because you hate us then alright... Unironically when I found out you left I had no idea what to do. Even though you hardly did shit in that server it doesn't feel right for you to have left.

 

[Orka]

So it's just because you hate us then alright...

No

 

[Deleted member 337488]

I can't give you advice on this, no experience regarding things like you described here

I appreciate the advice, I won't reach back out to them.

One of them wrote me recently, but I don't think they gave off any energy of being resentful towards me / hurt

That would be a great opportunity to respond normally to her and then follow up with a short informal apology

"Hey recently I reflected and realized I have been a little harsh on you in the past, just letting you know"

 

[Orka]

That would be a great opportunity to respond normally to her and then follow up with a short informal apology

"Hey recently I reflected and realized I have been a little harsh on you in the past, just letting you know"

I think I'll do this if she reaches out again, she just writes me every 4-5 weeks and we have some small talk.

 

[Bryce]

No

This whole situation has me really upset I think I need to cool off and go to bed

 

[Bryce]

Also sorry for bombing your thread

 

[Orka]

Also sorry for bombing your threading

no worries, the problem has been somewhat solved anyways

 

[true_subhuman_here]

orka probabily aint even gonna read this but you dont have to feel bad for what you did, we are all horrible people (to society) deep down.

 

[Idontknow-]

probabily aint even gonna read

 

[dhusc]

I've hurt many people in my life, I'm not happy about it, I tried making up for it by making other people's lives better, but I don't think that reverses the damage I've done to a couple of people.

Would it be weird to reach out to people from years ago and talk to them and apologize? Would it be better if I let them move on? I don't know what to do

they probably forgot about you anyway

 

[Orka]

orka probabily aint even gonna read this but you dont have to feel bad for what you did, we are all horrible people (to society) deep down.

why wouldn't I read this

just because a lot of people are bad doesn't mean that they should be bad

 

[valentine]

 

[Orka]

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wowwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

 

[Idontknow-]

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Boyy BP is abt kindness and Jordan is bad at that @bp enjoyer44

 

[Brooke Shields]

what have you done?

 

[MoggedSubhuman]

chad activities

incels need people to apologize to them

 

[Orka]

what have you done?

I've already opened up in the past about how I lie too much, even about small things with seemingly no benefit aside from continuing a conversation.

But a few years ago that turned into manipulation, I hurt people after a girl I was interested in hurt me, I don't see that as justification, just a reason that it started.

When she reached out back to me after she hurt me, I didn't feel relieved at all, she just made it worse and reopened the feelings I had for her.

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I manipulated people for validation and talked behind their backs regularly, I'm scared of hurting people like this again, and I'm scared of getting hurt like this again.

Before I go into anything, I want to heal and start off clean, I've healed from the manipulation, and don't think I do it as much anymore, but when I used to do it, it was subconscious.

I'm being vague for a good reason. Use your imagination to imagine the things I would do. (It did not involve explicit photos or cutting though).

There were two people that I hurt the most, I don't know if reaching back out to them to apologize would reopen something like that girl did to me, or if it would help them.

.

 

[Idontknow-]

what have you done?

 

[WhiteLilies]

I've hurt many people in my life, I'm not happy about it, I tried making up for it by making other people's lives better, but I don't think that reverses the damage I've done to a couple of people.

Would it be weird to reach out to people from years ago and talk to them and apologize? Would it be better if I let them move on? I don't know what to do

Depends how they interoperate the apology, if they interoperate it as a ego soothing apology they could respond with something that would make you feel more hurt or they could think even less of you.

 

[MouthBreathingElite]

I'm not this shallow, I have no intention of reopening anything & would block them / stop talking to them after I apologize.

Atp dont do anything

 

[valentine]

Boyy BP is abt kindness and Jordan is bad at that @bp enjoyer44

dark triad demon emperor @Sceptical

 

[Idontknow-]

Atp dont do anything

 

[Orka]

dark triad demon emperor @Sceptical

u and sceptical are very similar

 

[Idontknow-]

dark triad demon emperor @Sceptical

Is that..... the blackpill monster????

 

[Idontknow-]

What even is this bro