I'm a really bad person, I don't know how to get people to forgive me or how to forgive myself.

[MouthBreathingElite]

One burek please

 

[Taylors_Lil_Ethnic]

True Canadian behavior, don't worry bro. No one thinks of things as hard as you do

I've hurt many people in my life, I'm not happy about it, I tried making up for it by making other people's lives better, but I don't think that reverses the damage I've done to a couple of people.

Would it be weird to reach out to people from years ago and talk to them and apologize? Would it be better if I let them move on? I don't know what to do

 

[Idontknow-]

One burek please

Boy

 

[birthdefect]

I've hurt many people in my life, I'm not happy about it, I tried making up for it by making other people's lives better, but I don't think that reverses the damage I've done to a couple of people.

Would it be weird to reach out to people from years ago and talk to them and apologize? Would it be better if I let them move on? I don't know what to do

intrarectal methamphetamine mark as solution

 

[luuk]

I've hurt many people in my life, I'm not happy about it, I tried making up for it by making other people's lives better, but I don't think that reverses the damage I've done to a couple of people.

Would it be weird to reach out to people from years ago and talk to them and apologize? Would it be better if I let them move on? I don't know what to do

If you feel guilty then you probably aren’t wicked you’ve just done regrettable things
Apologise if you believe it will either absolve your conscience or make them feel better, its pretty circumstantial though and sometimes its best to let bygones be bygones

 

[madma]

So you lied for validation? eh whatever bro just forget about them lol.

 

[lurkerbeserker]

I’ve done some things I’m not proud of either but instead of apologizing you have to learn to forgive yourself for whatever you did or looking for forgiveness in others is pointless

 

[Orka]

So you lied for validation? eh whatever bro just forget about them lol.

no, I manipulated them and played with them for validation, hurting them a lot during the process

 

[birthdefect]

intrarectal methamphetamine mark as solution

fuck i forgot no shitposting under serious threads

in all seriousness, just let it go
if others still treat you with contempt, ask why and if they bring up any grievances just apologise

guilt only exists when you care about what youve done, just stop caring bro
you'll feel amazing

 

[true_subhuman_here]

why wouldn't I read this

just because a lot of people are bad doesn't mean that they should be bad

its not "a lot of people" it's every human being, its our nature, nature that is not actually evil or bad, but it is to modern morals and society, we are all hypocrites, every single day.
Replying to the "doesnt mean that they should be bad", it's up to you. You can choose to be the people pleaser or the realist version of yourself. Either way, it doesnt make you better than anyone else, and in the end it doesnt matter.

 

[Brooke Shields]

I've already opened up in the past about how I lie too much, even about small things with seemingly no benefit aside from continuing a conversation.

But a few years ago that turned into manipulation, I hurt people after a girl I was interested in hurt me, I don't see that as justification, just a reason that it started.

When she reached out back to me after she hurt me, I didn't feel relieved at all, she just made it worse and reopened the feelings I had for her.

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I manipulated people for validation and talked behind their backs regularly, I'm scared of hurting people like this again, and I'm scared of getting hurt like this again.

Before I go into anything, I want to heal and start off clean, I've healed from the manipulation, and don't think I do it as much anymore, but when I used to do it, it was subconscious.

I'm being vague for a good reason. Use your imagination to imagine the things I would do. (It did not involve explicit photos or cutting though).

There were two people that I hurt the most, I don't know if reaching back out to them to apologize would reopen something like that girl did to me, or if it would help them.

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if youre willing to do so you can reach out and apologize to them even if you dont think it will do anything ive done things like this too in the past but just like you said its mostly subconscious and a reactionary thing rather than a conscious action with intent but yeah it doesnt justify it and if you think it will help you then just do it

 

[madma]

no, I manipulated them and played with them for validation, hurting them a lot during the process

Did you do the push and pull manipulation? If so, not that big of a deal but they will just see you as insecure

 

[Orka]

Did you do the push and pull manipulation? If so, not that big of a deal but they will just see you as insecure

I don't know the terms

 

[madma]

I don't know the terms

It’s where you stop talking to them for a time period, it’s a way of manipulation to see if they actually care about you and want your attention

 

[birthdefect]

I don't know the terms

fuck i forgot no shitposting under serious threads

in all seriousness, just let it go
if others still treat you with contempt, ask why and if they bring up any grievances just apologise

guilt only exists when you care about what youve done, just stop caring bro
you'll feel amazing

read

 

[Orka]

It’s where you stop talking to them for a time period, it’s a way of manipulation to see if they actually care about you and want your attention

I did not do this, I kept them really close to me

But that strategy does seem familiar, just not really something I'd do

 

[Orka]

fuck i forgot no shitposting under serious threads

in all seriousness, just let it go
if others still treat you with contempt, ask why and if they bring up any grievances just apologise

guilt only exists when you care about what youve done, just stop caring bro
you'll feel amazing

i can't really stop caring about hurting people I cared for

 

[Veridic]

I've hurt many people in my life, I'm not happy about it, I tried making up for it by making other people's lives better, but I don't think that reverses the damage I've done to a couple of people.

Would it be weird to reach out to people from years ago and talk to them and apologize? Would it be better if I let them move on? I don't know what to do

I don't think being aware of your wrongdoings makes you a bad person logically, considering actual bad people don't feel guilt. Nothing wrong with apologizing a couple years down the line, but it has to really come off as genuine, then you can forgive yourself when that time comes around, usually through the way you live and actions you can look back upon. I wouldn't stress it too hard man, just the knowledge of having tried, is enough alone to feel the weight get dropped

 

[Orka]

I don't think being aware of your wrongdoings makes you a bad person logically, considering actual bad people don't feel guilt. Nothing wrong with apologizing a couple years down the line, but it has to really come off as genuine, then you can forgive yourself when that time comes around, usually through the way you live and actions you can look back upon. I wouldn't stress it too hard man, just the knowledge of having tried, is enough alone to feel the weight get dropped

That is true, I'll reach out to one of them when they write me, she writes me once every few weeks

not sure why, but alright

 

[Lefty Rankin]

I've hurt many people in my life, I'm not happy about it, I tried making up for it by making other people's lives better, but I don't think that reverses the damage I've done to a couple of people.

Would it be weird to reach out to people from years ago and talk to them and apologize? Would it be better if I let them move on? I don't know what to do

Apologize if you think it will make you feel better. Just understand that guilt never made anyone a better person. Guilt actually makes you a bad person. It's the most narcissistic thing ever. Carrying around a bunch of stupid guilt.

 

[NoaA99]

Reach out and apologize I have done it and felt better

You can tell when people forgive only to make themselves feel better. That’s the wrong motivation.

In a lot of cases, true forgiveness just isn’t possible.
The harm bullies inflict on their victims, especially if prolonged during critical stages of development, is not just psychological but also physical and leaves irreversible scars.
Words cannot undo this damage.

 

[true_subhuman_here]

 

[Orka]

Apologize if you think it will make you feel better. Just understand that guilt never made anyone a better person. Guilt actually makes you a bad person. It's the most narcissistic thing ever. Carrying around a bunch of stupid guilt.

When I saw you rep me I didn't expect a serious response ngl, but this is a nice response, thank you.

I'll contact one of them, the other one was from ages ago so I'm hoping they have moved on by now

 

[Veridic]

That is true, I'll reach out to one of them when they write me, she writes me once every few weeks

not sure why, but alright

It'll be alright in the end

 

[Idontknow-]

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Why ugh?

 

[madma]

Apologize if you think it will make you feel better. Just understand that guilt never made anyone a better person. Guilt actually makes you a bad person. It's the most narcissistic thing ever. Carrying around a bunch of stupid guilt.

I think you are confusing shame with guilt

 

[birthdefect]

i can't really stop caring about hurting people I cared for

you can force yourself out of it, it might be harder for some than others but im sure you could do it
you have to realise that in the grand scheme of things they're just gonna forget, and if they still dont like you then you can apologise and move on

 

[lovend]

I've hurt many people in my life, I'm not happy about it, I tried making up for it by making other people's lives better, but I don't think that reverses the damage I've done to a couple of people.

Would it be weird to reach out to people from years ago and talk to them and apologize? Would it be better if I let them move on? I don't know what to do

What if they forgot what happened tho and you then reach out and remind them wtv happened

 

[Orka]

What if they forgot what happened tho and you then reach out and remind them wtv happened

That's the concern that I have

 

[lovend]

That's the concern that I have

From personal experiences I did that once only made things worse but thats just me so it depends what type of person they are

 

[Orka]

From personal experiences I did that once only made things worse but thats just me so it depends what type of person they are

I appreciate the feedback, I'm gonna leave one alone (from 2 years ago) and contact a more recent one to apologize, and see how that goes

 

[psltristan1]

Who gives af
They'll probably forget in in 2 months
Just live your life
Fuck them

 

[madma]

I have also made a lot of mistakes with relationships, getting into relationships with people I didn't truly like or had a spark with because I needed the feeling of connection and love for my own self esteem, I have guilt about it and it was selfish but I just had to accept what happened, better myself and move on, just forget about it. its the best thing you could do

 

[Orka]

I have also made a lot of mistakes with relationships, getting into relationships with people I didn't truly like or had a spark with because I needed the feeling of connection and love for my own self esteem, I have guilt about it and it was selfish but I just had to accept what happened, better myself and move on, just forget about it. its the best thing you could do

Thanks for sharing, I'll try & do the same

 

[birthdefect]

I appreciate the feedback, I'm gonna leave one alone (from 2 years ago) and contact a more recent one to apologize, and see how that goes

if they start yapping just stab them with an epipen the next time you see them

 

[birthdefect]

Thanks for sharing, I'll try & do the same

yo i know this is unrelated but can someone be banned for being too stupid?

Who gives af
They'll probably forget in in 2 months
Just live your life
Fuck them

good advice tbh, guilt is only in your head and only weighs you down

 

[Orka]

yo i know this is unrelated but can someone be banned for being too stupid?

I don't think so, tag me tho since I'm assuming ur referring to a thread

 

[psltristan1]

yo i know this is unrelated but can someone be banned for being too stupid?

Depends on their actions
You can't get banned for being a dumbass
But you get can get banned for being an annoying clueless dumbass

 

[madma]

yo i know this is unrelated but can someone be banned for being too stupid?

are you referring to me lol

 

[Orka]

are you referring to me lol

I doubt it

 

[BigJimsWornOutTires]

I've hurt many people in my life, I'm not happy about it, I tried making up for it by making other people's lives better, but I don't think that reverses the damage I've done to a couple of people.

Would it be weird to reach out to people from years ago and talk to them and apologize? Would it be better if I let them move on? I don't know what to do

What you did to those people was not fair. It wasn't very nice. And you know this. Encouraging them to take a three-hour tour with that abusive, alcoholic captain and his retarded, crackhead deckhand, knowing the danger involved, knowing the Skipper didn't have a boating license, not even a driver's license, that wasn't cool. You thought it would be funny.

Sad, sad, little man, you are.

Today, we still can't find them. The families were told they are probably all dead... thanks to you.

 

[birthdefect]

I don't think so, tag me tho since I'm assuming ur referring to a thread

https://looksmax.org/threads/need-help-about-my-face.1863874

just scroll down, thread aint long but i genuinely get pissed off daily from seeing niggas this dumb

are you referring to me lol

no no ofc not, different thread

Depends on their actions
You can't get banned for being a dumbass
But you get can get banned for being an annoying clueless dumbass

needs to be changed tbh

 

[iblamexyz]

I've hurt many people in my life, I'm not happy about it, I tried making up for it by making other people's lives better, but I don't think that reverses the damage I've done to a couple of people.

Would it be weird to reach out to people from years ago and talk to them and apologize? Would it be better if I let them move on? I don't know what to do

Genuinely the best thing you can do is message people saying your sorry

it doesn’t matter if they appreciate it or not

the main thing is that you made an effort to apologies

 

[Orka]

https://looksmax.org/threads/need-help-about-my-face.1863874 just scroll down, thread aint long but i genuinely get pissed off daily from seeing niggas this dumb

I'm gonna be honest with u nigga u might have instigated this one.

 

[birthdefect]

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I'm gonna be honest with u nigga u might have instigated this one.

nah it was def him, i laughed at a typo and nigga said show your face
i type fast so i just get my thoughts out immediately and shieeeeet

 

[birthdefect]

Genuinely the best thing you can do is message people saying your sorry

it doesn’t matter if they appreciate it or not

the main thing is that you made an effort to apologies

why does that effort matter
some fucking apology god overlooking him?
an apology is pointless if the recipient doesnt accept it
thinking like that is just the normie way of disposing your guilt

 

[iblamexyz]

why does that effort matter
some fucking apology god overlooking him?
an apology is pointless if the recipient doesnt accept it
thinking like that is just the normie way of disposing your guilt

dnr tbh

 

[birthdefect]

dnr tbh

so broootal, mogged me tbh
valid comeback, shit always works

 

[iblamexyz]

so broootal, mogged me tbh
valid comeback, shit always works

All you have done is argue pointless philosophical points

and all you’ve done on this is site is tell users to rope and you rage at them

mirin ur contribution to the forum

 

[birthdefect]

All you have done is argue pointless philosophical points

and all you’ve done on this is site is tell users to rope and you rage at them

mirin ur contribution to the forum

its not pointless, im just saying that feeling guilt and having that guilt be unburdened by apologising, even when its rejected, is retarded
rest is true tho, i only have a few actually informational threads here and on gg
its over for me