I’m destroying my own friendships

[Zeraora84]

Lately, I’ve been noticing and paying attention to behaviors in my friends that I think are wrong. I pick up on a lot of details in how they relate to other people, in the things they say, and in how they act in general, and sometimes they do things that are really not okay.

I try to be a sincere person and tell them, to bring it up, to talk about what I think they’ve done wrong. But most people would rather have someone who tells them what they want to hear and stays on their side instead of someone honest who tells them things to their face.

I feel like I’m losing friends simply because I try to be honest with them. On top of that, I find it really hard to tolerate those small behaviors that I see as completely wrong or even harmful toward others.

I don’t have any idea on where the line is between being a good person or not, or to what extent I should distance myself from friendships with people who do things I consider wrong.

 

[Jgns]

Lately, I’ve been noticing and paying attention to behaviors in my friends that I think are wrong. I pick up on a lot of details in how they relate to other people, in the things they say, and in how they act in general, and sometimes they do things that are really not okay.

I try to be a sincere person and tell them, to bring it up, to talk about what I think they’ve done wrong. But most people would rather have someone who tells them what they want to hear and stays on their side instead of someone honest who tells them things to their face.

I feel like I’m losing friends simply because I try to be honest with them. On top of that, I find it really hard to tolerate those small behaviors that I see as completely wrong or even harmful toward others.

I don’t have any idea on where the line is between being a good person or not, or to what extent I should distance myself from friendships with people who do things I consider wrong.

ur a good guy ali

 

[Zeraora84]

ur a good guy ali

there are so many different situations and how often things happen that it’s impossible to draw a clear line between what makes someone a bad person or not.
How do you judge someone while not involving your own opinion?

 

[Jgns]

there are so many different situations and how often things happen that it’s impossible to draw a clear line between what makes someone a bad person or not.
How do you judge someone while not involving your own opinion?

Ill be honest Ive slept 3 hours stretched across three days so my answers going to be giga retarded. Hmm, I guess would u be able to tell me what some of those small behaviors are? Btw how old are u?

 

[dawooddX]

Lately, I’ve been noticing and paying attention to behaviors in my friends that I think are wrong. I pick up on a lot of details in how they relate to other people, in the things they say, and in how they act in general, and sometimes they do things that are really not okay.

I try to be a sincere person and tell them, to bring it up, to talk about what I think they’ve done wrong. But most people would rather have someone who tells them what they want to hear and stays on their side instead of someone honest who tells them things to their face.

I feel like I’m losing friends simply because I try to be honest with them. On top of that, I find it really hard to tolerate those small behaviors that I see as completely wrong or even harmful toward others.

I don’t have any idea on where the line is between being a good person or not, or to what extent I should distance myself from friendships with people who do things I consider wrong.

id be grateful to have a friend like u irl because i lack social awareness despite having no bad intentions

leave them, find better ppl, distance urself because they are not gonna be comfoprtable w u w ur character

 

[Zeraora84]

id be grateful to have a friend like u irl because i lack social awareness despite having no bad intentions

leave them, find better ppl, distance urself because they are not gonna be comfoprtable w u w ur character

I appreciate you man
I guess if they are not going to change themselves the best option is distance

 

[dawooddX]

I appreciate you man
I guess if they are not going to change themselves the best option is distance

thats what i do wit everyone in my life
whether its a girl,a close friend,relative
if they are acting weird and i see something i dont like, i call them out once and observe, and i just distance myself because id rather not cause problems and i want to be at peace

 

[IQmaxxedCHAD]

Lately, I’ve been noticing and paying attention to behaviors in my friends that I think are wrong. I pick up on a lot of details in how they relate to other people, in the things they say, and in how they act in general, and sometimes they do things that are really not okay.

I try to be a sincere person and tell them, to bring it up, to talk about what I think they’ve done wrong. But most people would rather have someone who tells them what they want to hear and stays on their side instead of someone honest who tells them things to their face.

I feel like I’m losing friends simply because I try to be honest with them. On top of that, I find it really hard to tolerate those small behaviors that I see as completely wrong or even harmful toward others.

I don’t have any idea on where the line is between being a good person or not, or to what extent I should distance myself from friendships with people who do things I consider wrong.

better to lose than then to deal with people u dont like tbh

 

[Zeraora84]

I’ll be honest Ive slept 3 hours stretched across three days so my answers going to be giga retarded. Hmm, I guess would u be able to tell me what some of those small behaviors are? Btw how old are you?

I’m 17, don’t worry haha
There are things that are obvious as fuck like a bro pairing with with another bros girl but for example, since 1 month ago we fused our groupchat with some girls of my school, the thing is that one of them has an absolutely gigantic ego and she has been thinking since now that she saved us from boredom by “letting us” combine the groups, she doesn’t see some of my friends like people, she doesn’t let us do anything/doesnt take seriously and my friends seem fine with that, she’s always implying that she is better or laughing at us but always keeping a super nice-caring “Mask”
When I told this to my friends it cost them like 2 days to realise that they were literally being controlled
But they don’t seem to care, and I just irritate myself every time those girls act like that, and it’s every time, the thing is that my friends are probably going to hang out with the other group more times and me distancing from them means distancing from my friends too.

 

[Jgns]

I’m 17, don’t worry haha
There are things that are obvious as fuck like a bro pairing with with another bros girl but for example, since 1 month ago we fused our groupchat with some girls of my school, the thing is that one of them has an absolutely gigantic ego and she has been thinking since now that she saved us from boredom by “letting us” combine the groups, she doesn’t see some of my friends like people, she doesn’t let us do anything/doesnt take seriously and my friends seem fine with that, she’s always implying that she is better or laughing at us but always keeping a super nice-caring “Mask”
When I told this to my friends it cost them like 2 days to realise that they were literally being controlled
But they don’t seem to care, and I just irritate myself every time those girls act like that, and it’s every time, the thing is that my friends are probably going to hang out with the other group more times and me distancing from them means distancing from my friends too.

Oh alr so ur only a lil younger than me but I'd say the best thing you could do is try to talk to them one on one if u haven't alr and if they continue or previously dnr'd u distance yourself from that group. Sometimes you realize that the people you surround urself with are just not your people, and thats ok yk, thats part of life. Sometimes you honestly just can't reason people espc not out of a position they didnt reason theirselves into, its probably their dicks talking yk. You seem like a genuine, intelligent, well meaning guy I'm sure there are people out there that you could really connect with on a deeper level and have a much funner time doing so. You deserve better bro, so just find some new friends if u can .

 

[Zeraora84]

T

Oh alr so ur only a lil younger than me but I'd say the best thing you could do is try to talk to them one on one if u haven't alr and if they continue or previously dnr'd u distance yourself from that group. Sometimes you realize that the people you surround urself with are just not your people, and thats ok yk, thats part of life. Sometimes you honestly just can't reason people espc not out of a position they didnt reason theirselves into, its probably their dicks talking yk. You seem like a genuine, intelligent, well meaning guy I'm sure there are people out there that you could really connect with on a deeper level and have a much funner time doing so. You deserve better bro, so just find some new friends if u can .

thank you man. Even if it’s via org I’m glad I found someone that made me feel better, you are a good person, thanks for caring even though you could perfectly not respond, I wish you luck on your life and hopefully the best

 

[Jgns]

T

thank you man. Even if it’s via org I’m glad I found someone that made me feel better, you are a good person, thanks for caring even though you could perfectly not respond, I wish you luck on your life and hopefully the best

No worries bro I felt the tornupinnes u had in u lol and srry abt that lol. Tysm bro and hopefully u do too